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luv2fly

(2,564 posts)
Wed Nov 12, 2025, 11:03 PM 2 hrs ago

How we speak to one another

I can't help but wonder if the way some people here speak to the rest of us... ALL CAPS, screaming at and belittling us, unable to stop using the word "fuck" in ALL CAPS... do you speak to people in your day to day, face to face existence in the same way? I imagine not, or at least hope not, but if you do, I bet you are incredibly popular. Why is this acceptable behavior?

I get being upset here and there and letting the occasional F-bomb fly, but when it becomes a daily rant at the rest of us, what makes you so special you feel entitled to treat people this way without pause?

And if my pointing this out offends you (and note I did not call out anyone in particular), then you are likely one of these people. If my pointing this out serves as a badge of honor to you, well... I have no more to say.

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How we speak to one another (Original Post) luv2fly 2 hrs ago OP
A felon, rapist and (likely) pedophile is occupying the Whitehouse and destroying the nation Orrex 2 hrs ago #1
Word police Wifes husband 2 hrs ago #2
That's what you took from my post? Then you missed the point. n/t luv2fly 2 hrs ago #4
Yeah Wifes husband 2 hrs ago #7
I do occasionally let an F-bomb fly... Trueblue Texan 2 hrs ago #3
Be careful Wifes husband 2 hrs ago #8
So we should only say FUCK once a day? leftstreet 2 hrs ago #5
C'mon y'all... Trueblue Texan 2 hrs ago #11
I rarely see that here leftstreet 2 hrs ago #13
Just because you haven't seen it... Trueblue Texan 2 hrs ago #14
No one said it doesn't happen Bettie 54 min ago #22
Fuck if I know LearnedHand 2 hrs ago #6
MY POINT EXACTLY Wifes husband 2 hrs ago #9
I'm not offended by your taking offense to others' offensiveness berniesandersmittens 2 hrs ago #10
It's not the occasional, it's the norm for some folks luv2fly 1 hr ago #15
Look up OCPD, ASPD, & NPD SunImp 2 hrs ago #12
This may not be a good forum for you Wifes husband 1 hr ago #16
No, I deal with Maga on social media & irl SunImp 49 min ago #23
FUCK FUCK FUCK FUCK FUCK FUCK Stacey Grove 1 hr ago #17
Well said MorbidButterflyTat 1 hr ago #18
Yes, thank you luv2fly 1 hr ago #20
wtf? bigtree 1 hr ago #19
I have used the expression, but never at someone on this board. 58Sunliner 59 min ago #21
Thanks for asking luv2fly 43 min ago #24

Orrex

(66,373 posts)
1. A felon, rapist and (likely) pedophile is occupying the Whitehouse and destroying the nation
Wed Nov 12, 2025, 11:05 PM
2 hrs ago

I'm not going to let online F-bombs upset me, but YMMV.

Trueblue Texan

(3,977 posts)
3. I do occasionally let an F-bomb fly...
Wed Nov 12, 2025, 11:07 PM
2 hrs ago

…and I apologize for the offense. I try to use it as a powerful emphasis, not as a usual part of my vocabulary . In any case, I apologize for any offense.

Trueblue Texan

(3,977 posts)
11. C'mon y'all...
Wed Nov 12, 2025, 11:33 PM
2 hrs ago

Let’s not be assholes. It’s not that hard to understand that some people might be offended at posts filled with a barrage of F-bombs.

leftstreet

(38,208 posts)
13. I rarely see that here
Wed Nov 12, 2025, 11:38 PM
2 hrs ago
a barrage of F-bombs.


Nor do I see many ALL CAPS screeds the OP's talking about

LOL For a social media related site, DU is very tame

Bettie

(19,116 posts)
22. No one said it doesn't happen
Thu Nov 13, 2025, 12:46 AM
54 min ago

but it isn't a constant barrage either.

Occasionally, all of us get upset and this is the place where we can vent, this is the place where we can talk to what is, in a very real way, our family and trust that someone here understands.

And sometimes, that venting is profane.

Have you seen what's happening in the world? In our country? In the streets of our cities?

It is not a time for hearts and flowers.

LearnedHand

(5,133 posts)
6. Fuck if I know
Wed Nov 12, 2025, 11:20 PM
2 hrs ago

As my favorite protest sign says, “Only 6 weeks [at that time] into this administration and I’m using ‘fuck’ like it’s a comma.”

Please don’t go all word police on those of us who do use ALL CAPS and say FUCK FUCK FUCK a lot. There are a lot of cunty people (British usage) tearing down everything our country has functioned on for 250 years. Honestly, if you don’t like that we use lots of salty language about it, you might be on the wrong board.

Wifes husband

(661 posts)
9. MY POINT EXACTLY
Wed Nov 12, 2025, 11:31 PM
2 hrs ago

We have a country in the worst trouble since the civil war. Need to concentrate on that. Not spelling, grammar, profanity

berniesandersmittens

(12,838 posts)
10. I'm not offended by your taking offense to others' offensiveness
Wed Nov 12, 2025, 11:32 PM
2 hrs ago

We're all adults here. I'll drop a fuck bomb when I deem appropriate, no offense.

You can always filter the thread titles out that use the words you find offensive.

luv2fly

(2,564 posts)
15. It's not the occasional, it's the norm for some folks
Wed Nov 12, 2025, 11:51 PM
1 hr ago

And I get many don't care, and it's not even the word "fuck." It's the tone of some people's language as they speak to others, and when people belittle others I just don't get it.

I have many words filtered but sadly it only applies to titles. not the body of the text.

SunImp

(2,583 posts)
12. Look up OCPD, ASPD, & NPD
Wed Nov 12, 2025, 11:36 PM
2 hrs ago
when it becomes a daily rant at the rest of us, what makes you so special you feel entitled to treat people this way without pause?
Many of the most emotionally abusive duers have some or all of these traits.

Wifes husband

(661 posts)
16. This may not be a good forum for you
Thu Nov 13, 2025, 12:19 AM
1 hr ago

If that offends you, I don't care. We need to concentrate on the welfare of the country, not the sensitivities of absolutely everyone

SunImp

(2,583 posts)
23. No, I deal with Maga on social media & irl
Thu Nov 13, 2025, 12:51 AM
49 min ago

I usually ignore the abusive ones on here most of the time, but it bugs me that they feel like can act all self righteous & above the site rules. We're all supposedly on the same team idk why some feel the need to be control freaks.

Civility
No personal attacks or flaming
Do not personally attack, insult, flame, threaten, bully, harass, stalk, negatively call-out, ascribe ugly ulterior motives to, or make baseless claims about any member of this community. Do not post in a manner that is hostile, abusive, or aggressive toward any member of this community.

Stacey Grove

(95 posts)
17. FUCK FUCK FUCK FUCK FUCK FUCK
Thu Nov 13, 2025, 12:23 AM
1 hr ago

AND FUCK.

Save your castigation and place it where it matters: against nazis; child rapists; and masked Gestapo thugs HURTING people in our streets that we taxpayers ultimately fund (both the streets and the Gestapo).

Puritanical scolding.

MorbidButterflyTat

(3,880 posts)
18. Well said
Thu Nov 13, 2025, 12:33 AM
1 hr ago

It's not just the swearing, it's the blatant lack of respect.

And the name calling and the doubling and tripling down.

Thanks.

58Sunliner

(6,226 posts)
21. I have used the expression, but never at someone on this board.
Thu Nov 13, 2025, 12:41 AM
59 min ago

I'm unclear what you are upset about. People using the words in reference to actions or policies by politicians, etc.., or people calling others out on this board by using profanity? Can you clarify this?

luv2fly

(2,564 posts)
24. Thanks for asking
Thu Nov 13, 2025, 12:58 AM
43 min ago

It's not the word "fuck" as a few here seem to think, and maybe that is simply my inability to adequately convey my thoughts, it certainly happens. It's the blatant disrespect, screaming at others and doubling down on it when challenged. I really hope people don't talk like that to others in their face to face conversations but who knows. It just strikes me that here, though while we share a diverse set of opinions, there seems little need to belittle and scream at others.

I suspect if these folks were in a room with the same people they are talking to here, they might be a bit kinder. I may very well be wrong.

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