The Bulwark's open letter to Trump and his "cherished notion that people respect you when they kiss your ass"
Somebody Needs to Tell Trump Everybody Is Laughing at Him
Mona Charen
Dec 30, 2025
https://www.thebulwark.com/p/somebody-needs-to-tell-trump-everybody-laughing-at-him
Dear President Trump,
Of all the wrong ideas you hold in your heart—that tariffs are paid by foreigners, that good looks are the chief credential for cabinet offices, that the 2020 election was rigged, that allies are bloodsuckers we’d be better off without—perhaps the most gobsmacking is your cherished notion that people respect you when they kiss your ass.
Sorry, that’s not true. They despise you on two levels. On the first level, because you’ve managed to get elected president, you do have leverage that nearly everyone must grapple with in some fashion. (Think of Volodymyr Zelensky.) That power comes not from you personally but from the great strength of this country, economic, military, and diplomatic. So yes, when you use that leverage to extort lavish praise from people, they will offer it. But they don’t mean a word of it. Not a word. And in their hearts they hate you for demeaning them in this fashion instead of treating them with respect.
The second level of contempt arises from the knowledge—recognized by the whole world, Mr. Trump, except you—that your extravagant need for attention and praise is evidence of your emotional stuntedness. With every renaming of a building you are sending up a signal that screams “I am so insecure!” And here’s the truth: You cannot piggyback on the respect John F. Kennedy earned by slapping your name on the arts center that was named by statute to be his living memorial. Your name may be side by side with his on the marble for now, but in our hearts, we will never respect you. Quite the opposite—for all of your depredations and twice on Sunday for attempting to hijack someone else’s honor.
It gets worse. It isn’t just that your ravenous hunger for recognition betrays a personality disorder, it’s that your particular style of seeking it really does provoke ridicule—that’s another word for “they’re laughing at us.”
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I especially love the closing paragraph:
And perhaps the worst part is the fact that this country managed to elect him a second time. I fear that it may take a long time for our allies to fully trust us again.
The only thing I would quibble with is the notion that Trump's ability to recognize how much he has made the world disrespect us is "open to question." There's no question about it: he's incapable of recognizing that, at least on a conscious level. His twisted ego is much too fragile to allow him to ever even the tiniest mistake. It's maddening if I let myself think about it too much.
