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Randomthought

(1,084 posts)
Sun May 17, 2026, 09:18 PM Sunday

Adult child of an alcoholic here

IMHO Patel is exhibiting classic alcoholic personalty.
Paranoia, delusions of grandeur, no controls on his behavior.
Feel free to add you own observations

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Adult child of an alcoholic here (Original Post) Randomthought Sunday OP
what about Kegseth Skittles Sunday #1
Sober for almost 5 years myself RainCaster Sunday #2
( I appreciate this thread) Tetrachloride Sunday #3
when I visited a cousin in San Francisco I went with her to an AA meeting Skittles Sunday #6
This adult child of an alcoholic agrees completely. ShazzieB Sunday #4
Defensive when questioned (esp about his drinking), arrogant, nasty Marie Marie Sunday #5
That he's obssessed enough to make is own applegrove Sunday #7
Good on you mate Randomthought Sunday #10
I agree Wifes husband Sunday #8
My husband was an alcoholic that died Figarosmom Sunday #9
Good insight Randomthought Sunday #11
This is just what Susie Wiles said about PedOTUS BaronChocula Yesterday #12
I just think neither of them ever grew up nt GenThePerservering Yesterday #13
Another adult child of alcoholic Faux pas Yesterday #14
TSF's Cabinet of Alcoholics can be traced to his youth and early adulthood. no_hypocrisy 22 hrs ago #15
Agree completely! Faux pas 17 hrs ago #16
Adult child of Narcissists here Unwind Your Mind 12 hrs ago #17
trump and his whole cabinet are showing signs of addictive behaviors...nt Wounded Bear 12 hrs ago #18

RainCaster

(13,888 posts)
2. Sober for almost 5 years myself
Sun May 17, 2026, 09:51 PM
Sunday

My AA group see both these men as ones just like us, except they haven't had that "nudge from the judge" yet.

Tetrachloride

(9,702 posts)
3. ( I appreciate this thread)
Sun May 17, 2026, 10:36 PM
Sunday

i have wanted to see an AA group as observer so as to dispel Hollywood stereotypes.


i myself generally don’t drink alcohol.

Skittles

(172,850 posts)
6. when I visited a cousin in San Francisco I went with her to an AA meeting
Sun May 17, 2026, 11:27 PM
Sunday

I actually was able to tell the group what it was like to live with my alcoholic aunt and uncle when I was a teenager (disclosure - they weren't mean drunks, just, well, irresponsible.....they had a couple of toddlers I ended up taking care of a lot)....it shook some of the people in the room, hit close to home.

ShazzieB

(22,876 posts)
4. This adult child of an alcoholic agrees completely.
Sun May 17, 2026, 10:48 PM
Sunday

Patel and Hegseth both show all the classic sjgns.

Marie Marie

(11,514 posts)
5. Defensive when questioned (esp about his drinking), arrogant, nasty
Sun May 17, 2026, 11:13 PM
Sunday

and entitled. Alcoholics are an entitled bunch. Never responsible - always the victim.

applegrove

(133,085 posts)
7. That he's obssessed enough to make is own
Sun May 17, 2026, 11:38 PM
Sunday

bourbon with an FBI label implies he jonesing. When I was only allowed one drink a night I'd spend most of my day thinking of what I was going to have, when and how. I would seriously talk to an addiction counselor if I was him. I joined AA after a DUI (I didn't hit or hurt anybody) and have not had a drop since. One of the best things I have ever done.

Figarosmom

(13,339 posts)
9. My husband was an alcoholic that died
Sun May 17, 2026, 11:53 PM
Sunday

Drunk in a car accident. Luckily he didn't hurt or kill anyone else. And patel and the guy of war are both going to die drunk. That is pretty obvious to me from their behavior. Alcoholics aren't just addicted to alcohol, it's their makeup, they are addicted to everything. Both of them are now addicted to power. I sure hope they are being driven everywhere and not driving themselves.

BaronChocula

(4,739 posts)
12. This is just what Susie Wiles said about PedOTUS
Mon May 18, 2026, 12:07 AM
Yesterday

She is his chief of staff. She fessed up in an extended Atlantic interview that her smelly boss has an alcoholic's personality. She said she's an expert on "big" personalities. Her father, athlete and announcer Pat Summerall had a significant alcohol problem before he sought help

There was a time when having a drinking problem was enough to derail your nomination for, say, secretary of state. Ahem, John Tower.

We are in strange times.

Faux pas

(16,529 posts)
14. Another adult child of alcoholic
Mon May 18, 2026, 01:57 AM
Yesterday

parents raised in a violent household with guns. I had my last drink before midnight New Years Eve 1992. At least my stoopidity wasn't played out on the world stage FFS. The head effer's whole cabinet and appointees all have some substance abuse problem, the worst being whatever speed they might be snorting. Assholes unleashed and running wild. DISGUSTIPATING

no_hypocrisy

(55,371 posts)
15. TSF's Cabinet of Alcoholics can be traced to his youth and early adulthood.
Mon May 18, 2026, 04:28 AM
22 hrs ago

Both Trump and his father put so much untenable pressure on his eldest brother, the presumptive heir, that Fred Jr. turned to alcohol. And even as a child, DJT saw his opportunity to displace his brother as one day running the family and the family business. No compassion for his brother.

And DJT also witnessed how his brother was essentially helpless at being independent. Little Brother was in charge now.

My theory is Trump doesn't want any Cabinet member to get more attention and credit than he's getting. Simultaneously he's disgusted by their weakness for alcohol and pleased that he can control them. They'd never turn against him.

Unwind Your Mind

(2,364 posts)
17. Adult child of Narcissists here
Mon May 18, 2026, 02:15 PM
12 hrs ago

I also think that drinking or drugs is a way for the narcissist to soothe or distract themselves when the world refuses to cooperate with their twisted world view.

In other words, it’s all related and it’s only going to get worse

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