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Related: Culture Forums, Support ForumsA dear friend died today. Heart attack.
He was less than 50 years old. He had been my son's caregiver for the last two years. He didn't treat me like an old lady even though we were 20 years apart age-wise. He was kind and friendly, considerate of my feelings. We teased each other about anything and everything. Hated politics. Despised Trump. I'm going to miss him like crazy.
He was the person I saw and talked to more than anyone except my grown boys.

Attilatheblond
(6,420 posts)Words are no comfort, but know your loss is shouldered by others who care.
Ilsa
(62,953 posts)I've dealt with alot of loss over the last 2-3 years.
Pachamama
(17,354 posts)I am so sorry to hear this loss for both you and your son
and so sudden.
He sounds like he was a really kind and decent person with a loving heart that the world needs more of and not less.
Ilsa
(62,953 posts)He was an ADHD kid with learning and memory difficulties born into a family of overachievers. He had a bit of that "if it feels good, do it," mentality, and was never quite fully mature. His wants typically overruled his thinking about consequences. He was really sweet, and we will miss him.
Shellback Squid
(9,450 posts)Ilsa
(62,953 posts)heart has been heavy since I heard. I'm in a little shock.
UpInArms
(52,987 posts)I am so sorry 😢
Ilsa
(62,953 posts)I'm in shock, I think.
MIButterfly
(662 posts)I hope good memories of your friend will eventually help ease your pain. I send to you my deepest condolences.
Love,
MIButterfly
Ilsa
(62,953 posts)"May his memory be a blessing."
riversedge
(76,194 posts)Ilsa
(62,953 posts)LoisB
(10,864 posts)Ilsa
(62,953 posts)iemanja
(56,158 posts)Ilsa
(62,953 posts)iemanja
(56,158 posts)Best wishes to you.
calimary
(86,777 posts)How are YOU doing? Anybody close by or easily reachable, who you could talk to? Sounds like it might be helpful. Hopefully you dont have to mourn alone.
Ilsa
(62,953 posts)need to mourn him with others who cared about him. She responded that they'll let me know about funeral arrangements, shiva.
Figarosmom
(6,430 posts)Was it something congenital? Or a product of our country's Healthcare system? 50 is really young.
I'm sorry you lost a friend. Good friends are not so easy to come by these days.
Ilsa
(62,953 posts)He ended up with cardiac stents, diabetes, etc. I think there is a combination of issues, including long term use of prescription meds, etc. He wasn't an alcoholic or illegal drug user.
irisblue
(35,231 posts)Ilsa
(62,953 posts)death. It will be awhile before he forgets this cargiver.
sdfernando
(5,767 posts)Way too young to leave this world!
I hope you find peace and comfort in your memories.
Ilsa
(62,953 posts)niyad
(124,629 posts)and comfort.
Ilsa
(62,953 posts)virgdem
(2,265 posts)May his memory be a blessing💔
Ilsa
(62,953 posts)his memory will live in our household.
KitFox
(324 posts)The suddenness and his youth somehow makes it harder, Im sure. Sending gentle hugs🩷🩷🩷
Ilsa
(62,953 posts)ejection fraction rate had been increasing. His diabetes had been problematic, though.
Thank you for your kindness.
SheltieLover
(70,449 posts)
Ilsa
(62,953 posts)KT2000
(21,527 posts)He was one of your custom-made family members. So special to find someone else on the same wavelength, so I can see how you will really miss him. Peace.
Ilsa
(62,953 posts)thoughtful words. His vibrant personality was a gift. "Custom-made family member" is a perfect description.
Nululu
(1,091 posts)He sounds like a gem
Ilsa
(62,953 posts)for your condolences.
no_hypocrisy
(51,969 posts)Some people come into our lives casually and leave as family. You were fortunate to have this man.
Ilsa
(62,953 posts)In the movie "Knowing," Nicholas Cage's character, a cosmologist, struggles with his family's faith and his loss of faith after his wife's sudden, freakish death. Perspective, randomness, and possibly devine intervention are the real themes of this mysterious movie. Did God send this person to us? I choose to think this is true.
debm55
(46,608 posts)
Ilsa
(62,953 posts)needed him.
debm55
(46,608 posts)
Marthe48
(20,943 posts)Good people who become friends are hard to find. You and your son were blessed to have him, even for a short time.
Ilsa
(62,953 posts)to have these two years.
littlemissmartypants
(28,263 posts)
Ilsa
(62,953 posts)ill, and I wondered if his body was shutting down. He always bounced back.
His parents knew his life span would be shortened, and they planned for his passing. Of course nothing can prepare a parent emotionally for the actual loss of their adult child.
Thank you for your thoughtful words.