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debm55

(48,204 posts)
Wed Jul 9, 2025, 10:47 AM Wednesday

What neighborhood did you grow up in --city, rural, or suburbs? Mine is city until 8th grade. then suburbs. Culture

shock. Needed a car to go any where. Disliked it very much.

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What neighborhood did you grow up in --city, rural, or suburbs? Mine is city until 8th grade. then suburbs. Culture (Original Post) debm55 Wednesday OP
Where I grew up was rural at the time but transitioning to suburban Walleye Wednesday #1
Thank you very much Walleye for sharing with us. debm55 Wednesday #2
Townie here SARose Wednesday #3
Thank you very much SARose, It sounds like you had lots of fun. debm55 Wednesday #12
Kind of depends on how you define each entity rurallib Wednesday #4
Thank you very much, rurallib. College towns are very diverse. Love them debm55 Wednesday #11
I grew up on a family farm in Ohio. sinkingfeeling Wednesday #5
Thank you very much, sinkingfeeling. debm55 Wednesday #10
Town of 160 people in Nebraska. Bee, Nebraska. Sold ice cream at the post office. OLDMDDEM Wednesday #6
HAHAHAHAHHAAH. Thank you OLDMDDEM. How did you get out of there? debm55 Wednesday #9
Fortunately, my dad got a job in the big city, Lincoln. OLDMDDEM Wednesday #14
Lucky you. Thanks, OLDMDDEM. debm55 Wednesday #16
Wow, that's small! The 3 smallest places I've ever been to were... electric_blue68 Wednesday #40
This community was all Czech and German. You spoke one or the other. OLDMDDEM Thursday #46
Small town to big city to suburbs. LoisB Wednesday #7
Thank you very much ,LoisB. debm55 Wednesday #8
It was a small town in northeastern Iowa. rsdsharp Wednesday #13
HAHAhahhahahhahha. Good one. Thank you very much, rsdsharp debm55 Wednesday #17
Rural MissB Wednesday #15
Great post , MissB. It was a great place for kids. debm55 Wednesday #18
I grew up in a suburban neighborhood on Long Island. lucca18 Wednesday #19
Thank you very much Iucca18 debm55 Wednesday #22
thank you very much. electric_blue 68, What great memories. debm55 Thursday #49
Jones Beach! Happy memories! electric_blue68 Wednesday #41
I love the detailed description of your Jones Beach memories! lucca18 Thursday #70
YW. It was wonderful to remember. electric_blue68 Thursday #71
I grew up in a number of states LogDog75 Wednesday #20
That sounds great LogDog75, You have the ocean, great temps. I like it. Enjoy. debm55 Wednesday #23
All of the above ... Dorothy V Wednesday #21
Thank you very much Dorothy V. Wow you have lived in so many places. debm55 Wednesday #24
Very diverse! 👍 electric_blue68 Wednesday #42
City ProfessorGAC Wednesday #25
Thank you very much ProfessorGAC. That is very interesting. debm55 Wednesday #29
Always lived in burbs SheltieLover Wednesday #26
Thank you SheltieLover. debm55 Wednesday #30
City. greatauntoftriplets Wednesday #27
Thank you very much for sharing with us. greatauntoftriplets. It sounds like the perfect place to raise kids. debm55 Wednesday #31
It still is a great place. greatauntoftriplets Wednesday #34
Thank you so much. That is good to know. debm55 Thursday #51
Grew up in Chicago. boonecreek Wednesday #28
Thank you very much for sharing with us, boonecreek. Such a greet city. debm55 Wednesday #32
Lived on the west side of Detroit. Moved downriver, now we live in a rural area near the lake. Srkdqltr Wednesday #33
Downtown gopiscrap Wednesday #35
Thank you very much gopiscrap for sharing with us. debm55 Wednesday #36
The Oakland section of Pittsburgh-urban row house. A very walkable neighborhood. cloudbase Wednesday #37
I am from SW of Pittsburgh. I live very near the old Century III mall Thank you for posting cloudbase. PS I live very debm55 Wednesday #38
I lived in a rural area that was developed into a suburb. We went from potato farms and woods to tract housing... NNadir Wednesday #39
thank you NNagir. I see it around here too. Dairy farms and regular farms that we visited in girl scouts have turned debm55 Thursday #52
All the places of my childhood have been obliterated by very wealthy people. hunter Wednesday #43
NYC. 'nuff said............j/king..... electric_blue68 Wednesday #44
Thank you very much,electric_blue68 that sounds wounderful debm55 Thursday #48
I grew up in the suburbs, sestina Thursday #45
Thank you very much, sestina. That sounds so different then my suburbs that I lived in after 8 grade. My had no sidewalk debm55 Thursday #47
Working class suburb in a working class town. Emile Thursday #50
Thank you Emile, I considered mine a city But it was a small city located next to a Steel Mill.Thank you for sharing. debm55 Thursday #56
Rural. I grew up in a very small community on a lake connected to Lake Michigan in northern lower catbyte Thursday #53
That sounds like a very nice place to live and grow up. Thank you very much for sharing with us, catbtye. debm55 Thursday #57
The road I grew up on was a mix of rural and BlueKota Thursday #54
I agree with you BlueKota. Up the hill they are building an extension of the turnpike that would go from Pittsburgh to debm55 Thursday #58
I was raised in a small town in Michigan Americanme Thursday #55
Thank you very much for sharing with us Americanme. debm55 Thursday #59
Small city in Kentucky get the red out Thursday #60
Thank you very much , get the red out. Same here ----you had to have a car, no buses, no walking to store. So everyone debm55 Thursday #61
Its funny get the red out Thursday #65
Thank you, get the red out. debm55 Thursday #68
burbs. glendora ca . 25 mi east of la on old route 66. then to sonora ca , late 1984, then to tic toc base in 2005 AllaN01Bear Thursday #62
Thank you very much for sharing with us, Bear, You have lived in a lot of places. debm55 Thursday #63
Suburbia... city... suburbia Nittersing Thursday #64
Thank you very much Nittersing. You have lived in unique places. Thank you for sharing. debm55 Thursday #66
"inner city" as they call it Eugene Thursday #67
Thank you very much for sharing with us. Eugene. debm55 Thursday #69

Walleye

(41,387 posts)
1. Where I grew up was rural at the time but transitioning to suburban
Wed Jul 9, 2025, 10:50 AM
Wednesday

When I was 11, we moved to a small town. That was fun. You could walk everywhere, everybody knew your parents were.

SARose

(1,680 posts)
3. Townie here
Wed Jul 9, 2025, 10:57 AM
Wednesday

Grew up in midsized cities in Texas, Oklahoma and Louisiana. Oil field brat!

Summers were spent with family on farms and working cattle ranches. Best days of my life were riding barefooted on the tailgate of a pickup with cousins dodging cow patties in the soft sand! 😂

rurallib

(63,905 posts)
4. Kind of depends on how you define each entity
Wed Jul 9, 2025, 10:59 AM
Wednesday

I grew up in a university 'city' that grew from @20,000 when I was born tabour 50,000 when I was 20. What had been rural areas not far from town became shopping malls and suburban type sprawl.

The university and the growth brought in a very interesting diverse population. We had opinions literally from around the world. We left that area recently and I sure miss the divergence of population.

electric_blue68

(22,337 posts)
40. Wow, that's small! The 3 smallest places I've ever been to were...
Wed Jul 9, 2025, 10:17 PM
Wednesday

2 small Hopi Villages on top of 2 desert mesas.

The French side Swiss village my uncle w my aunt retired to. (gifted vacation for me) About 800 - 900 pop.

OLDMDDEM

(2,605 posts)
46. This community was all Czech and German. You spoke one or the other.
Thu Jul 10, 2025, 08:02 AM
Thursday

The town had two taverns one of which had a Friday night fish fry. It became world famous as people came from many countries and states for that event. By the way, you also spoke English.

rsdsharp

(11,045 posts)
13. It was a small town in northeastern Iowa.
Wed Jul 9, 2025, 12:34 PM
Wednesday

It’s even smaller today, and not just because I left.

MissB

(16,329 posts)
15. Rural
Wed Jul 9, 2025, 12:59 PM
Wednesday

Bus ride to school was 45 mins each way.

Our “town” had a school, post office, gas station and a general store. A legit general store, two story building with an old rough wooden floor.

My siblings and I could walk for miles through forests, definitely trespassing on peoples’ property. No one cared.

We lived across the street from a lake and our neighborhood owned a lot on the lake so we could go down and pull our canoe into the lake and paddle around.

It’s changed a lot since then. Many more homes. More schools in the district.

I left there for another state for my high school years. Big city, great high school. I’m glad I did because I doubt i would’ve gone to college if I’d stayed.

lucca18

(1,410 posts)
19. I grew up in a suburban neighborhood on Long Island.
Wed Jul 9, 2025, 01:23 PM
Wednesday

Jones Beach was the highlight of the summer for me!
I loved the ocean, the pool, and even their hot dogs!

electric_blue68

(22,337 posts)
41. Jones Beach! Happy memories!
Wed Jul 9, 2025, 10:37 PM
Wednesday

We'd drive out there, parents, my sis and I once (maaaaaybe twice on occasion) a year. Sometimes w extended family.

The pool (rarely), the roller rink (3 times?), shuffle board (a lot, I liked it), and of course, The Ocean: waves, and sounds! Carrying the rented beach umbrella. The soud of the point digging into the sand. My parents could both swim. Sand castles, sorta. 😄 Walking along picking up smoothed beach pebbles.🥰

I even went later in my 30's by subway to the LIRR, then dedicated bus to one of the parking lots. One time I went for the all you could eat brunch. Yum.

We also might have parked in the same lot bc of the path we took. There were before we got to the bathhouse on our left (facing the ocean) we'd pass the lovely pine trees with those long 4 inch needle clusters. Those pines "spelled" B-E-A-C-H-! to me! 🥰 🏖

LogDog75

(626 posts)
20. I grew up in a number of states
Wed Jul 9, 2025, 01:49 PM
Wednesday

My dad was in the Navy so we moved a lot. Small to medium towns in Florida, Tennessee, Virginia, California, Connecticut, and Rhode Island. My parents bought a house in a Southern California beach town next to a Navy base in the mid-50s and when he retired from the Navy we moved there in 1966. It's a nice place to live and grow up in. You could walk to the beach, the base, and just about anything you needed in the 60s and early 70s you could buy there. In the summer, the weather is mild with temperatures in the mid-70s to low 80s and in the winter the temperature is around low to mid-60s. We are constantly ranked as having some of the best weather in the nation. I bought a condo there in 2002 and when I retired I moved there and have been here since 2004.

Dorothy V

(358 posts)
21. All of the above ...
Wed Jul 9, 2025, 02:15 PM
Wednesday

plus boondocks - Air Force Brat, y'know. Born in Superurbania - Nassau Co. NY (Mom never forgave the Yankee Government for that and always assured people when my birthplace came up that I was conceived in Montgomery, Ala - TMO, Mom! Love ya anyhow!) Have lived in small towns in France and Oregon, suburbs in Arizona, Utah and Arkansas, boonies in the Mojave Desert and Texas, and after all that, find my small farm town in Arkansas to be just right! It's even got Dems like me in it!

ProfessorGAC

(73,557 posts)
25. City
Wed Jul 9, 2025, 06:57 PM
Wednesday

About 80,000 people when I was a kid. Roughly twice as big now.
We moved to a smaller town (6-7,000) just before we got married and have been there since. Still not rural, though.
So, we lived here about 2x the amount of time in our "grow-up" city.

greatauntoftriplets

(177,944 posts)
27. City.
Wed Jul 9, 2025, 07:10 PM
Wednesday

It was four blocks from Lake Michigan, so we spent lots of time at the beach. In many ways, though, it also was a village. There were lots of kids back then. Mostly we played with our contemporaries, but sometimes kids of all ages participated in impromptu games of running bases. We rode bikes through the neighborhood, and had to be back home when the street lights came on.

It was a great place to grow up. I'd still live there, but the house prices and real estate taxes are nuts because its desirability.

debm55

(48,204 posts)
31. Thank you very much for sharing with us. greatauntoftriplets. It sounds like the perfect place to raise kids.
Wed Jul 9, 2025, 07:17 PM
Wednesday

greatauntoftriplets

(177,944 posts)
34. It still is a great place.
Wed Jul 9, 2025, 07:22 PM
Wednesday

The current generation of kids who live there now can enjoy almost a village life even today. If their parents can part them from their screens, of course.

boonecreek

(1,130 posts)
28. Grew up in Chicago.
Wed Jul 9, 2025, 07:11 PM
Wednesday

Lived in the northwest side neighborhood Logan Square. When I was 17 we moved to
Roger's Park on the far north side. We were a 2 block walk from Evanston and about
1 block from the lakefront. I've lived in the northwest suburbs since 1979.

Srkdqltr

(8,641 posts)
33. Lived on the west side of Detroit. Moved downriver, now we live in a rural area near the lake.
Wed Jul 9, 2025, 07:20 PM
Wednesday

gopiscrap

(24,426 posts)
35. Downtown
Wed Jul 9, 2025, 07:24 PM
Wednesday

Frankfurt Germany in a 3bdrm high rise there were 7 kids on the same floor as I and 46 in the complex

cloudbase

(6,003 posts)
37. The Oakland section of Pittsburgh-urban row house. A very walkable neighborhood.
Wed Jul 9, 2025, 08:05 PM
Wednesday

Well, somebody has to be from there.

debm55

(48,204 posts)
38. I am from SW of Pittsburgh. I live very near the old Century III mall Thank you for posting cloudbase. PS I live very
Wed Jul 9, 2025, 08:11 PM
Wednesday

close to Jefferson Hospital. Grew up in Duquesne, after 8th grade we moved to North Huntington., Married lived in duplex in South Park. Now here

NNadir

(36,158 posts)
39. I lived in a rural area that was developed into a suburb. We went from potato farms and woods to tract housing...
Wed Jul 9, 2025, 08:26 PM
Wednesday

...developments.

It informed my adult life.

I'm seeing it again, at the end of my life, in New Jersey.

debm55

(48,204 posts)
52. thank you NNagir. I see it around here too. Dairy farms and regular farms that we visited in girl scouts have turned
Thu Jul 10, 2025, 09:32 AM
Thursday

into Mega Homes. I used to take my son to visit a sheep farm when he was little. We both loved it. Now it is mega bucks homes.

hunter

(39,639 posts)
43. All the places of my childhood have been obliterated by very wealthy people.
Wed Jul 9, 2025, 10:47 PM
Wednesday

My parents always moved on just ahead of the hard core gentrification. It was as if they'd see an expensive new car parked in a neighbor's driveway and say, "That's it! We're out of here!"

I was born in the city. I lived in three different places before kindergarten. When I was in the third grade we moved to a bankrupt suburban development surrounded by open spaces. That was nice, me and my siblings wandered far and wide. Then the housing market exploded and there were new developments everywhere, all the new houses sold to white people growing fearful of the city, many of our favorite wild places falling to the bulldozers.

My parents didn't like these people and my dad got itching to move to Spain, which we did. He didn't consider that Franco was still in charge there and that my mom had no respect for authority and wasn't even able to feign it when pompous officials came around checking up on us. My dad couldn't sleep one night after an uncomfortable exchange between one such official and my mom so we packed all our stuff in the car and left for France in the middle of the night, unfortunately leaving all our money in a Spanish bank. Eventually we landed in Britain where Barclay's Bank allowed my parents a negative balance until they got my parent's money out of Spain. We lived in small town Britain for a year.

When we moved back to California my parents bought a small farm surrounded by citrus fields. Alas that place was starting to fall to the developers too. It's all hobby ranches for very wealthy people now. My parents made some profit selling that, but it was before property values there really started to escalate, from the low hundred thousands to millions.

I wasn't there for that, When I wasn't in forced time-outs from college I was wandering all over the west as a crazy person, or sleeping on my brother's sofa in his house by the beach, all crashed and burnt, waking up at dawn to scream at the ocean.

electric_blue68

(22,337 posts)
44. NYC. 'nuff said............j/king.....
Wed Jul 9, 2025, 11:07 PM
Wednesday

I love other cities I've visited: San Fransico, Philadelphia, Boston. Hope to still get to visit Chicago.

We lived in the 2nd northernmost neighborhood in Manhattan, the western side of Washington Heights [like, "In The Heights"]. Moved northward along a small avenue, till we were 6 blocks from the very big, lovely Ft Tryon Park (and The Cloisters) with a view up the Hudson River. You could see hawks hover. Gorgeous garden before the fort (Tryon).
In the dense woods going down to the river there are supposed to be...
.
.
.wait for it....
.
Wild Turkeys!!! 😄
I find that hilarious! And pretty darn cool!

Lived later on in Brookyn, near Grand Army Plaza. Now about 14 yrs in The Bronx.

We also spent a lot of time in 2 Northern NJ towns with our cousins as kids, tweens, teens, about our late 30's?
As kids there were woods, and a creek in one town - eventually built up, about 2 blocks back from our relatives house.
So we got a good taste of suburban life.

sestina

(406 posts)
45. I grew up in the suburbs,
Thu Jul 10, 2025, 12:37 AM
Thursday

in a neighborhood about 2.5 miles from the city (downtown), less than a mile from my elementary school and my high-school, houses close together, a lot of kids to play with, neighbors knew their neighbors, their names, occupations, etc, even many blocks away.

Our next door neighbor wanted us to actually call him 'Neighbor', so my siblings and I knew him only by that name for a long time.

A block away we had a public pool, a public park with tennis courts and crafts in the summer, a playground, a small baseball field, and the big high school baseball field, as well as stores, ice cream shops, restaurants, a library, a gym, a bowling alley, and a post office.

We walked or rode our bikes everywhere and sometimes rode the bus downtown to shop at Sears or Penneys or to see a movie.

My dad worked at the factory a few blocks away and would often ride his bike to work.
My mom didn't have a job until I was in high school.

My mom and dad eventually sold their house and moved about 8 miles away to a rural area with a subdivision. I lived there for a while until I got married.

debm55

(48,204 posts)
47. Thank you very much, sestina. That sounds so different then my suburbs that I lived in after 8 grade. My had no sidewalk
Thu Jul 10, 2025, 09:15 AM
Thursday

no services-playgrounds. pools, buses, etc. nothing within walking distance. Neighbors kept to themselves. I had wished we stayed in the steel mill city/town we lived in earlier.

debm55

(48,204 posts)
56. Thank you Emile, I considered mine a city But it was a small city located next to a Steel Mill.Thank you for sharing.
Thu Jul 10, 2025, 10:00 AM
Thursday

catbyte

(37,311 posts)
53. Rural. I grew up in a very small community on a lake connected to Lake Michigan in northern lower
Thu Jul 10, 2025, 09:44 AM
Thursday

Michigan. Awesome swimming in the summer, lots of woods and quite a few kids to play with. Winters kinda sucked what with all the Lake Effect snow blowing off of the Big Lake, but we still had fun. I envied the kids that lived "in town" (about 5 miles away) because they had actual sidewalks where they could skateboard and walk without the danger of being hit by an 18-wheeler going up M-66, lol. Went to a one-room school grades K-6, there were 5 kids in my class, all boys but me, and there were about 30 kids total. We could ride a nearby farmer's horses any time we wanted as long as we could catch them in the fields, lol, which is where I learned to ride bareback. I still love it. Looking back, it was pretty cool.

debm55

(48,204 posts)
57. That sounds like a very nice place to live and grow up. Thank you very much for sharing with us, catbtye.
Thu Jul 10, 2025, 10:03 AM
Thursday

BlueKota

(4,375 posts)
54. The road I grew up on was a mix of rural and
Thu Jul 10, 2025, 09:50 AM
Thursday

suburb. Down the road from us were late 40's early 1950s houses. Up the road from us waa mostly farm land. Including my family's land. My grandfather had been a farmer, but after he died, my Dad wasn't interested in farming so he opened a water delivery service. He did, however, rent our barns & fields to a farmer up the road.

Then in the 1970's the hospital board decided they needed to build a new building about a mile down the road from us and not too long after the State decided to build a bypass so it was easier and faster to get to the small city area.

Then everything changed. The majority of farmers sold their land and housing tracks started springing up left and right. Some of the wealthier doctors built mini mcmansions. Mostly they're farther up the road, but it still ruined the peace I grew up in.

Now a days, the rich folk drive their Porsches about 90 miles an hour down the road, despite the speed limit being 45. We had to tear down our old house and build our new one farther back from the road because a young guy lost control of his SUV and hit our house. Then several years later a drunk woman just missed hitting it again.The traffic is non stop, morning, noon and night. There are only a few acres left including our ten that remain mostly untouched.

Sorry to go into such detail, but it's been such a radical change. I think I and one of the neighbors farther up the road are probably the only ones left of the early core families. It's kind of sad. I miss the peace.

debm55

(48,204 posts)
58. I agree with you BlueKota. Up the hill they are building an extension of the turnpike that would go from Pittsburgh to
Thu Jul 10, 2025, 10:14 AM
Thursday

Morgantown ,WV, It is nearly done. Houses were bought and torn down. same as the farms. Sad.

Americanme

(249 posts)
55. I was raised in a small town in Michigan
Thu Jul 10, 2025, 09:53 AM
Thursday

through fifth grade, then moved to a small city (around 50,000 population) about a half hour away, where I still live today.

get the red out

(13,832 posts)
60. Small city in Kentucky
Thu Jul 10, 2025, 10:53 AM
Thursday

But in a newly built (in the 70's) sub-division (I know it doesn't fit the stereotype, but there are a lot of them, even in eastern KY). The town only had about 5,000 people. We needed to use a car but if we ended up behind 3 or more vehicles at a stop light "traffic was TERRIBLE".

debm55

(48,204 posts)
61. Thank you very much , get the red out. Same here ----you had to have a car, no buses, no walking to store. So everyone
Thu Jul 10, 2025, 10:58 AM
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drove.

get the red out

(13,832 posts)
65. Its funny
Thu Jul 10, 2025, 11:10 AM
Thursday

But now that I think of it we had a K-mart and a Pic Pac groc store next to the neighborhood. Us kids always ran free after school and in the summer so if someone's family was out of something they would send one of their kids to the store, who would call a buddy or two to go too (not necessary, just more fun). Picking up Dad's Maalox is exciting in groups.

AllaN01Bear

(26,372 posts)
62. burbs. glendora ca . 25 mi east of la on old route 66. then to sonora ca , late 1984, then to tic toc base in 2005
Thu Jul 10, 2025, 10:59 AM
Thursday

Nittersing

(7,380 posts)
64. Suburbia... city... suburbia
Thu Jul 10, 2025, 11:05 AM
Thursday

Lived in Lexington MA 'til I was 10. Very much suburban and very patriotic! Home of the original Patriot's Day! Walked to school, but anything else really required a car.

Moved to a small town in NJ (10,000). About one square mile. When I was there, there was just an elementary school (1st-7th). And high school was 8-12. Poor no-name eighth graders. Had to wait a year to get that "Freshman" title!! The rec center had roller skating every Friday night and the park had a couple tennis courts and a big wall that folks would play handball, solo tennis and whatever. There was a siren that would signal for the volunteer fire department (one of our teachers was a ff and would take off if the siren sounded.) And that siren was tested every night at 7pm. The de facto alert that it was time for kids to go home.

BUT.... this small town was just across the George Washington Bridge. We were minutes away from NYC. (My dad taught at NYU) I think I was 13 or 14 when I was allowed to head into the city by myself. A train ride all the way down to my dad's office on Washington Square.

Moved into the city for a job and stayed for 4 years. Loved living in Manhattan!!

Finally moved to Denver... which feels very suburban to me.

debm55

(48,204 posts)
66. Thank you very much Nittersing. You have lived in unique places. Thank you for sharing.
Thu Jul 10, 2025, 11:27 AM
Thursday

Eugene

(65,696 posts)
67. "inner city" as they call it
Thu Jul 10, 2025, 11:41 AM
Thursday

Grove Hall, Boston

The neighborhood was transitioning from Jewish to Black when I was born.

Didn't need a car until I had to reverse commute to a job in the suburbs.

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