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Related: Culture Forums, Support ForumsMy dog died this morning.
I was becoming convinced that my brother's spirit passed on, and I was starting feel more emotionally normal. But I knew my dog's time was coming. I spent alot of time with him and helped him get around outside, and he brought himself back into the house. He quietly passed away.
I miss him already. He was a lab-mix rescue, and very protective of me. He would body block my autistic son if he was coming to hit me. He would bark to warn my other son.
I hate cranking up the grief process again.
Keeping you in my thoughts and sending healing vibes
Jim__
(15,294 posts)My last dog was a lab-mix rescue. I had to put him down about 5 years ago. Still miss him.
SheltieLover
(82,058 posts)Healing vibes on the way to you.
LoisB
(13,641 posts)waterwatcher123
(558 posts)Solly Mack
(97,333 posts)padfun
(1,930 posts)We can be with our pets in the other realm.
OAITW r.2.0
(32,820 posts)You love them like your kids. Kills you to have to deal with the loss.
debm55
(62,268 posts)dem4decades
(14,506 posts)ExtraGriz
(512 posts)You were there for him. Always remember that!
I have 3 dogs, one is a chocolate lab mix, he's 14 years old and don't have a lot of time. I spoil him!!!
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LuckyCharms
(23,210 posts)MIButterfly
(3,285 posts)I know how painful it is. My thoughts and sympathy are with you on the loss of your precious dog. He sounds like he was a wonderful dog.
ABC123Easy
(424 posts)I can commiserate with you. Lost my Aussie last year and my last one, a chow mix is getting close to her time now.
Sounds like your best buddy loved you very, very much. It's good you were there with him in his last moments.
Wish you the best.
TomSlick
(13,104 posts)I have concluded that nothing that loves as unconditionally as a dog can live as long as we would like. The grief is the cost we pay for the love.
I continue to be willing to pay the cost.
Lifeafter70
(1,223 posts)Hugs to you
Joinfortmill
(21,792 posts)Response to Ilsa (Original post)
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spooky3
(38,927 posts)StarryNite
(12,178 posts)Dogs and cats are family and when they die it is terribly heartbreaking 💔 Watch for signs, hes gone in body but not in spirit.
Maraya1969
(23,604 posts)you,
Figarosmom
(13,978 posts)Dogs are such friends. It's not easy to come to terms with their loss. Sounds like he loved you completely. Always there to protect you. Peace.
Charlie Chapulin
(402 posts)I lost my all time favorite dog this past February. Hard to lose our canine pals.
DarthDem
(5,469 posts)It sounds like he had a wonderful life with you. I'm glad he passed in peace and may he rest the same.
FalloutShelter
(14,680 posts)Remember he will always be with you.
I have a thirteen year old pittie and I cherish every day, but I feel my precious pets around me all the time.
irisblue
(38,000 posts)Skittles
(173,304 posts)nor speak of me with tears
but laugh and talk of me
as if I were beside you
I loved you so
twas Heaven here with you
- Isla Paschal Richardson
Tesha
(21,170 posts)Im so sorry for your grief
orangecrush
(31,478 posts)JMCKUSICK
(6,712 posts)Please help your grief process by celebrating his life and all he gave to you. The tears should about equal the joys.
May it be so for you.
Grim Chieftain
(2,156 posts)Losing a beloved pet is absolutely heartbreaking, been there done that. I hope you can take some comfort from the wonderful memories you shared.
You are in my thoughts.
Botany
(77,998 posts)Sadly, that is beyond my skill set. The more you loved your dog and the more the dog
loved you the more you will hurt. However your dog will live on in your heart forever.
When you are ready there are lots of dog shelters that can use volunteers to walk, talk,
and just be a buddy to a dog.
lindalou65
(396 posts)Our pets are like our kids and when they go, some part of us dies too. I'm sure he knew he was very loved. May he rest in peace.
snowybirdie
(6,760 posts)We love those little guys
Trueblue Texan
(4,673 posts)I lost my baby Emo boy on May 1st and I so know that pain. It will be some time before we can talk about it and I truly think the grief is compounded by losing a family member in a timely proximity. I don't let myself cry at all if I can help it--it just seems to deepen the grief for me, but God, it is so painful. My heart goes out to you and my arms are around you virtually.
calimary
(91,084 posts)Our pets are VERY special Gifts From Above.
Right now, Im out on our deck, surrounded by our three cats. And with the kids grown and gone, THEYRE our babies now. I know theyll all gonna leave at some point. And I know Im gonna be a mess when that happens.
Just know youre not alone in your grief. Were here for you, even while every one of us pet owners knows itll be us, too, soon enough.
(((((((((( * ))))))))))
sinkingfeeling
(58,128 posts)Permanut
(8,628 posts)I'm glad you were able to spend a lot of time with him.
All the best healing to you, Ilsa.
KT2000
(22,246 posts)It is not easy to lose your friend. Peace to you.
JoseBalow
(9,807 posts)I recently lost my dog, and my partner, so I know how terribly painful your grief is. You're not alone.
Please be kind to yourself and care for yourself as best as you can. I hope you can enjoy the good memories when you are able, and can begin to feel a little better soon.
Oneironaut
(6,338 posts)FakeNoose
(42,693 posts)I lost my gorgeous, loving Buddy almost exactly a year ago and I still miss him and love him to pieces.
I wish I'd been a better Mom, I wish I'd spent more time giving him rubby-tummies and scratchy-backs because he loved them so much. He used to be so patient, waiting all day for me to sit on the couch at night to watch TV, and he would jump right up in my lap. But so many nights, I didn't give him that pleasure, and now I can't do that any more.
I'm convinced that we never get over losing our favorite dogs. It's hard to think about getting another dog ... maybe some day. Maybe I will, I don't know. For me, there will never be another dog like Buddy. That's the only thing I know.
iluvtennis
(21,541 posts)AllaN01Bear
(29,885 posts)popsdenver
(2,718 posts)Take all the time you need to grieve. I seriously grieved my last one for three whole months solid, then slowly for another six months......
Each time, I swear I am never going to get another dog and go through that again......but after awhile I give in (nine times now)
kimbutgar
(27,633 posts)They are our friends and family.
ProfessorGAC
(77,444 posts)The toughest time for every pet owner.
We empathize completely.
Take care.
LetMyPeopleVote
(182,975 posts)brer cat
(27,721 posts)memories will comfort you during this terrible time.
orleans
(37,290 posts)Niagara
(12,272 posts)Cross gently Ilsa's lab-mix rescue support doggie.
Laurelin
(968 posts)I wish there were words to help you in your grief, but I don't know any. I hope you find strength.
❤️🩹
70sEraVet
(5,686 posts)paleotn
(22,908 posts)Been there. It's never easy. My wife and I have been dog parents virtually our entire lives so we've been through this a few times. We miss them all. But after a while, the pain recedes, and your left with wonderful memories of sweet, sweet puppers. We still laugh about their antics long after they've left us. They still live on in our hearts.
Diamond_Dog
(41,294 posts)Been there - they are never with us long enough.
some_of_us_are_sane
(3,763 posts)There's no 'inference' or ulterior motives. They love PURELY and openly.
I understand your grief, Ilsa.
TBF
(37,444 posts)I had one for 12+ years that was a big English lab and wouldn't let anyone near me on walks. Absolute best. I am so sorry for your loss!
Luciferous
(6,614 posts)BigmanPigman
(55,665 posts)My first dog died on Dec 15th and for 10 days I heard her distinct sounds...like trying to open the closet door to sleep, opening the bedroom door to go out and she even moved around under my bed like when she was young. My friend who loved her as much as I did experienced the same thing. This friend taught me about metaphysical stuff when I was younger.
I know of several people who saw their own dog or cat walk past them in the days after the soul went home. This is fairly common but most people don't want to share for fear of being called crazy. That sucks!
The energies of animals (especially dogs) communicate with you after they have passed. Their entire lives are about giving you unconditional love and that is why the come back to visit you. They want to calm you down and make sure that you know they are not dead but are waiting for you to go home with them.
It happened after my dad died when a year later my second dog passed at 11AM. A few days later I was resting and that's when she came to visit me and I saw my dad. It was as clear as day. I saw my dad sort of floating and Spike standing on the floor next to me as usual. When I saw my dad I realized Spike was NOT standing next to me since my dad had already died. I tried to bend down and scoop her up in my arms (she was tiny...7 pounds) but then she went with my dad and they went around a corner together. It was meant to show me that my dad was taking care of Spike until I join them.
Guess what? She STILL comes back to visit me (6 years later)!!! I have learned to keep a Post It pad on my nightstand. Since she usually visits when I am in between asleep and awake I force myself to document her visits so I don't forget them in the morning. I've done research and this seems to be the time when the "soul's energy" is able to break through to the human subconscious. Animals communicate on a different vibration level than people so it's easier for them to reach us when we are in the most acceptable time which is when you are half asleep. I have heard her distinct bark outside the bedroom and on my bed next to the window where she slept, I have felt her move past me (she slept on the bed next to me), I have dreamt about us doing normal stuff, etc. But the time she most often she comes is from the floor next to my side of the bed. She whines, like she always did, to wake me up and let her go outside (I have severe insomnia so she needed to wake me up and that's how she did it). Also, since she died at 11 AM she actually visits at that time more than any other time.
Once you experience something like this yourself you know it isn't crazy BS. Many people share their experiences with me since I don't care about anyone's opinion and if they think I'm crazy. Too many people are afraid of sharing their own experiences since societies and cultures are so close minded but once you DO share so many people finally feel free to open up and tell you that they had similar experiences.
This is a loooooong post but I feel very strongly about this subject. My baby died on June 2 and I lit candles for her on Tuesday I tell her I love her every night and I believe she comes to visit, hoping to cheer me up and to let me know she IS waiting for me. I hope you are open to any experiences you may have and I hope you keep a pad of paper and a pen so you can document any visits. You will feel much better when that happens.
lonely bird
(3,070 posts)Have gone through that twice. It is never easy but the memories soothe the pain over time.
wendyb-NC
(4,742 posts)Pets are family members they become essential to our lives. They have a heart, soul, spirit and mind, they understand us.
Take care, may you find peace as you grieve in your own way.