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rzemanfl

(31,032 posts)
Tue Aug 12, 2025, 04:42 PM Aug 2025

Forty years sober today.

Last edited Tue Aug 12, 2025, 07:11 PM - Edit history (1)

It just crossed my mind. I entered DePaul Rehabilitation Hospital in Milwaukee 40 years ago this evening. No relapses in all that time. I was thirty-eight years old. I am not seeking any sort of recognition, just want folks to know it can be done.

ON EDIT- thank you for all the recs and responses and for not mentioning my stupid typo, now fixed.

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Forty years sober today. (Original Post) rzemanfl Aug 2025 OP
Congrats! SheltieLover Aug 2025 #1
Many happy returns! enough Aug 2025 #2
Congratulations, and good for you! Lonestarblue Aug 2025 #3
Congratulations! AltairIV Aug 2025 #4
Good for you. I love a good quit. (Been there) applegrove Aug 2025 #5
Congratulations, rzemanfl! MIButterfly Aug 2025 #6
Congratulations! LoisB Aug 2025 #7
Thank you, Congratulations wendyb-NC Aug 2025 #8
Congratulations!!! elleng Aug 2025 #9
That's TERRIFIC!!! calimary Aug 2025 #10
"" AllaN01Bear Aug 2025 #11
Mine was 2-17-95. 634-5789 Aug 2025 #12
Congratulations. That's a hell of a lot one days at a time. Extremely happy for you. Magoo48 Aug 2025 #13
I'm sure it wasn't always easy! hamsterjill Aug 2025 #14
Congratulations! greatauntoftriplets Aug 2025 #15
That is a big deal! hope your family is really proud! rurallib Aug 2025 #16
Congratulations rzemanfl JMCKUSICK Aug 2025 #17
Well done. Torrent63 Aug 2025 #18
My kidneys told me to cut it out many moons ago. GreenWave Aug 2025 #19
That is a huge triumph - good on you! 3catwoman3 Aug 2025 #20
33 years here Wifes husband Aug 2025 #22
And a hat tip to you, too, and everyone else who battles this demon. 3catwoman3 Aug 2025 #23
That's a lot of days. Well done, you! n/t TygrBright Aug 2025 #21
Congratulations gerryatwork Aug 2025 #24
This message was self-deleted by its author Kali999 Aug 2025 #25
Congratulations! 4Sitka Aug 2025 #26
That's wonderful cate94 Aug 2025 #27
May your success be an inspiration to many others struggling with addiction!! ShazzieB Aug 2025 #28
I am glad if you are glad. (n/t) OldBaldy1701E Aug 2025 #29
Congratulations 👏🎉 MustLoveBeagles Aug 2025 #30
It can be done. NoMoreRepugs Aug 2025 #31
You are verifiably worth the effort it took. n/t ariadne0614 Aug 2025 #32
Nicely done! Permanut Aug 2025 #33
Wonderful! I am now convinced that no one should drink alcohol. CTyankee Aug 2025 #34
good! markie Aug 2025 #35
You turned your life around - and it's great to let people know it can be done FakeNoose Aug 2025 #36
Wow! Just, wow LearnedHand Aug 2025 #37
Congratulations orangecrush Aug 2025 #38
Congratulations! FemDemERA Aug 2025 #39
Thank you for sharing it can be done and Congratulations! Rhiannon12866 Aug 2025 #40
So very awesome! Congrats and thanks for sharing! Dem4life1970 Aug 2025 #41
Congratulations!!! nt Javaman Aug 2025 #42
Fantastic! MLAA Aug 2025 #43
So wonderful. soldierant Aug 2025 #44
That's good! Turbineguy Aug 2025 #45
I only wish I'd quit at the same age as you. LudwigPastorius Aug 2025 #46
Congratulations - Time Flies When You're Having Fun Doesn't It? MissouriDem47 Aug 2025 #47
Sept. 1st wil be my 1 year Anniversary of no booze proud patriot Aug 2025 #48
First year is the hardest Wifes husband Sep 8 #79
Congratulations pioche4 Aug 2025 #49
That is awesome Hornedfrog2000 Aug 2025 #50
Congratulations Duncanpup Aug 2025 #51
Congatulations, however Pototan Aug 2025 #52
Congrats Bristlecone Aug 2025 #53
LOL. rzemanfl Aug 2025 #67
Wow Farmer-Rick Aug 2025 #54
It is a very big deal and important what you have achieved Pachamama Aug 2025 #55
Congratulations 👍👍 TommieMommy Aug 2025 #56
I have a birthday Saturday and was just thinking I should have been dead 20-plus years ago. johnnyplankton Aug 2025 #57
Mr. Rambling is on Day 4 of outpatient rehab. Right now I find it hard to go out to eat, especially since most of the RamblingRose Aug 2025 #58
Keep on keepin on WmChris Aug 2025 #59
3-26-1991 if..fish..had..wings Aug 2025 #60
Kudos! bif Aug 2025 #61
Wow! Congratulations! An outstanding achievement! NNadir Aug 2025 #62
applause Bluejeans Aug 2025 #63
Congrats. A few of my uncles went to DePaul for treatment back when I was a kid. I think Ziggysmom Aug 2025 #64
Yes, the building is gone. rzemanfl Aug 2025 #70
Congratulations! sinkingfeeling Aug 2025 #65
Fantastic rzemanfl 😃 Clouds Passing Aug 2025 #66
Congrats!!!! berksdem Aug 2025 #68
Huge achievement. Will-power of steel. Much applause to you. n/t SpankMe Aug 2025 #69
Very nice. Keep it up. Old Crank Aug 2025 #71
Bravo! ChazInAz Aug 2025 #72
31yrs for me soon BubbaJoe Aug 2025 #73
Excellent! BoRaGard Aug 2025 #74
Wow! Congratulations 🎉 k55f5r Aug 2025 #75
CONGRATS!! vapor2 Aug 2025 #76
An amazing milestone sdfernando Aug 2025 #77
❤️ littlemissmartypants Aug 2025 #78

Lonestarblue

(13,115 posts)
3. Congratulations, and good for you!
Tue Aug 12, 2025, 04:47 PM
Aug 2025

Thanks for sharing. Sometimes life gets hard. You reminded us that perseverance can pay off.

MIButterfly

(1,624 posts)
6. Congratulations, rzemanfl!
Tue Aug 12, 2025, 04:58 PM
Aug 2025

Good for you! That is quite an accomplishment. You deserve all the accolades you can get!

That's an inspiration for anyone dealing with any kind of addiction.

wendyb-NC

(4,528 posts)
8. Thank you, Congratulations
Tue Aug 12, 2025, 05:06 PM
Aug 2025

You are an inspiration, I am 19 years sober, and I plan continue.

calimary

(88,492 posts)
10. That's TERRIFIC!!!
Tue Aug 12, 2025, 05:33 PM
Aug 2025

Congratulations on a truly outstanding accomplishment!

That’s a LOT to be proud of!

I was originally gonna recommend celebrating with some milk and cookies, but your achievement, just by itself, is sweet - and filling - enough!

Magoo48

(6,678 posts)
13. Congratulations. That's a hell of a lot one days at a time. Extremely happy for you.
Tue Aug 12, 2025, 06:00 PM
Aug 2025

I just took 41 years on the 7th.
As my wife told me, again, this year, “41 years and still no apparent growth.”

May you be happy, joyous, and free my friend.
🐝🐫

hamsterjill

(16,792 posts)
14. I'm sure it wasn't always easy!
Tue Aug 12, 2025, 06:00 PM
Aug 2025

But I commend you. That's amazing and whether you want recognition or not, you deserve it. Good for you!!!

gerryatwork

(95 posts)
24. Congratulations
Tue Aug 12, 2025, 06:30 PM
Aug 2025

I have a sense of what you accomplished. My 2nd started her sobriety about 15 years ago. I give her a lot of credit. Even though she left me for her future husband she met at AA about 14 years ago.
Congratulations it’s a great personal accomplishment

Response to rzemanfl (Original post)

cate94

(3,026 posts)
27. That's wonderful
Tue Aug 12, 2025, 06:53 PM
Aug 2025

I won’t live long enough to reach that goal, but I certainly want to be sober the rest of my life. You are an inspiration!! Thanks for sharing!

CTyankee

(67,537 posts)
34. Wonderful! I am now convinced that no one should drink alcohol.
Tue Aug 12, 2025, 07:23 PM
Aug 2025

It's just not good for your body. Especially as you get older.

I had fallen in love with Merlot, just loved the taste. Now I get FRE's alcohol free Merlot and I can enjoy the taste of that wine and not worry about harmful effects on my body.

FakeNoose

(39,444 posts)
36. You turned your life around - and it's great to let people know it can be done
Tue Aug 12, 2025, 07:33 PM
Aug 2025

I'll bet your family and friends are so proud of you. Awesome job!

Rhiannon12866

(246,854 posts)
40. Thank you for sharing it can be done and Congratulations!
Tue Aug 12, 2025, 08:38 PM
Aug 2025

I celebrated 16 years on April 30th also to show it can be done. Those who stood up for me were a dedicated AA member who celebrated 51 years last November and my good friend who came back and now has 3 years.

LudwigPastorius

(13,780 posts)
46. I only wish I'd quit at the same age as you.
Tue Aug 12, 2025, 10:05 PM
Aug 2025

But as it is, I've got 5 and half years of sobriety, and I'm not going back.

Wifes husband

(661 posts)
79. First year is the hardest
Mon Sep 8, 2025, 08:57 AM
Sep 8

I have 33 years, and the first year was definitely the hardest. I had several 9 month chips.
So, genuine congratulations. The rest is just putting in the time. Ex

 

Hornedfrog2000

(866 posts)
50. That is awesome
Wed Aug 13, 2025, 03:44 AM
Aug 2025

I was almost 30. Had 2 OWIs. I had no drivers license, was only a highschool dropout, and had nothing. It was 2015, and I met someone I wanted to marry, but knew that would never be possible with how i was living. I knew my life was going to be hard, regardless, but I could make it hard on my terms. I was going to work harder than I ever have. I was going to give myself a chance because when I really thought about it, I had always defaulted to, " you cant do that, or you arent good at that", but i never gave myself a chance.

Trump stole the whitehouse with the help of Putin, and I knew I had to get ahead, because they would literally try to steal even more from us (this was literally my big reason for turning my life around). Fastforward to 2025 I am in graduate school for my doctorate, and will be making more money than I had ever imagined.

I used "welfare", grants, etc to get to this point. Without them I would have never had a chance. I appreciate the minute, fractional percentage of help i received from everyones taxes to help me become a productive member of society. I will never forget that I would not be here without charity, welfare, and kindness of others.

I have never been the smartest person, but being succesful sometimes is about finding a way, any way.

Pachamama

(17,521 posts)
55. It is a very big deal and important what you have achieved
Wed Aug 13, 2025, 06:58 AM
Aug 2025

I admire it and know unfortunately the experience of witnessing someone I love who couldn’t do it and all the terrible things and destruction that comes with alcohol abuse.

Sending you lots of appreciation and good thoughts for what you have overcome and achieved - for yourself and all those that love you.

johnnyplankton

(580 posts)
57. I have a birthday Saturday and was just thinking I should have been dead 20-plus years ago.
Wed Aug 13, 2025, 07:15 AM
Aug 2025

But I got sober and stayed with meetings and things continue to get better.

RamblingRose

(1,142 posts)
58. Mr. Rambling is on Day 4 of outpatient rehab. Right now I find it hard to go out to eat, especially since most of the
Wed Aug 13, 2025, 07:16 AM
Aug 2025

restaurants around us are Mexican. I love a margarita w/ my dinner but am staying dry in solidarity.

Congratulations!

NNadir

(36,920 posts)
62. Wow! Congratulations! An outstanding achievement!
Wed Aug 13, 2025, 07:51 AM
Aug 2025

I'm glad you celebrate the anniversaries.

Bluejeans

(136 posts)
63. applause
Wed Aug 13, 2025, 08:19 AM
Aug 2025

< applause > That's one hell of a record! As we would say in the military, "Keep on keepin' on!"

Ziggysmom

(3,959 posts)
64. Congrats. A few of my uncles went to DePaul for treatment back when I was a kid. I think
Wed Aug 13, 2025, 08:38 AM
Aug 2025

they closed and tore down the building around 25 years ago. I’m so happy you are sober and a Dem!

rzemanfl

(31,032 posts)
70. Yes, the building is gone.
Wed Aug 13, 2025, 10:23 AM
Aug 2025

If I wasn't a Dem, I'd probably still be drinking and the Secretary of Defense or something.

Old Crank

(6,404 posts)
71. Very nice. Keep it up.
Wed Aug 13, 2025, 11:21 AM
Aug 2025

I've been lucky not to ever know the demons that this stuff can unleash.

BubbaJoe

(25 posts)
73. 31yrs for me soon
Wed Aug 13, 2025, 12:47 PM
Aug 2025

Oct 10, 1994. Still going. Funny thing is now where I live there are 10 or more bars within staggering distance.

k55f5r

(494 posts)
75. Wow! Congratulations 🎉
Wed Aug 13, 2025, 01:12 PM
Aug 2025

Also, thanks for reminding me of my upcoming 40 yr sobriety anniversary. 40 yrs September 10th.

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