don't understand that sometimes just listening helps as much as offering advice. Sometimes, a sympathetic ear is mightier than a mouth. Sometimes, we just need to rant.

Rant on, OldBaldy1701E - we listen, we hear you.

Plus, it is in his nature to try and correct me when I say things. I have tried to impress upon him that there are times when it is not the best idea to be so 'corrective' when we are thus engaged. His natural competitiveness just won't let him stop having to be seen as 'right'.

He does try. He does care. He is just a Neanderthal when it comes to the more sophisticated side of human psychology.

It is also a dying practice. Unfortunately.

Others cannot understand much of the time.

I'd say part of my problem is that I already gave up. The hubby has been the only reason left for me for a while now.

But, 'here' creates the means to see a tiny light, here and there. It is elusive, but it is there.

It is for me. I am an engineer. By nature, whenever there is a problem, I feel an urge to fix it. It is tough to just sit there and listen. Even though that might be the best solution. It’s doing nothing that’s hard. I must solve the problem. I have to remind myself that listening is a solution. Sometimes the”do nothing” option Is the best engineering solution.

It is me!

About when I work. So I stay silent. Luckily my job allows me to be chatty so I get to talk there.

I know what you mean about the community here at DU. Hang in there!

He talks to videos of people who were recorded five years ago more than he talks to me most of the time.

Sound familiar?

I work to get out of the house so I’m not stuck in my bedroom watching TV.

I like to do my house cleaning alone but can’t do it when he’s around.

I just cannot clean while someone is in the house.

Mainly because the moment I witness him or someone else start to trash a room that I just spend an hour cleaning, I would go completely feral on them.

Gods, at least give me one afternoon of enjoying a clean house before you decide to make it into the town dump.

Mrs JP how her night went. We are both nurses (I'm retired) so we commiserate.

Pull the plug (the cell phone/ computer!) if he doesn't start paying
more attention to you. We can help, but he needs to step up...he's experienced a
big loss (retiring) In the US of A, you are what you DO, and
you should help jerk him back to reality, (In the nicest way of course!)

Big hug.

Accost the insensitive brute!

I always tell the story about why I am not bothered by gory things or tales. I just relate how I grew up being served spaghetti and hearing about head trauma.

That tends to... desensitize... one a bit. Say what you want, but, in the end, I see it as a good thing. The ability to remain centered when one comes up on a bad car accident, for example, is a very good thing to have. I have stopped more than a few times to help others irregardless of the injuries or the visuals. I still stop if I see an accident. Not to film, but to render aid. I refuse to ignore suffering when it is right in front of me. I also have no patience for those who are more concerned with clicks than human beings.