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Wicked Blue

(8,136 posts)
Thu Jul 17, 2025, 03:25 PM Thursday

Does anyone know why it's hard to adopt dogs from sites like Petfinder?

Our family has finally gotten to the stage that we can bear to think about getting a dog to replace our sweet Penny, who passed in January.

My daughter has applied for close to a dozen dogs. Most of the time nobody bothers to respond. Or the dog has been adopted but nobody bothers to notify the website.

For one place, she submitted all the information on the application, spoke to someone who interviewed her and then was told at the end of the conversation that someone else was meeting the dog that night. Why did they waste her time?

Another place told her they would not let us adopt from them because they require a fenced yard.

One place wanted an enormous amount of information including the names, addresses and phone numbers of personal references, and then tried to talk her into a different dog. My daughter is uncomfortable about them still having all this information, especially her references.

We have a rescue dog, a corgi-chihuahua mix, that she adopted about 7 years ago with none of the problems we're seeing this time.

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Does anyone know why it's hard to adopt dogs from sites like Petfinder? (Original Post) Wicked Blue Thursday OP
I think this underscores the value of supporting your local shelter--even if that 'cute' little dog/cat is not hlthe2b Thursday #1
Strongly agree! SheltieLover Thursday #11
The same problem occurs with local shelters. pnwmom Thursday #16
I've not dealt with shelters that required that--except when it was a very large, active dog accustomed hlthe2b Thursday #17
i suggest the local animal shelter. ret5hd Thursday #2
Thanks, I have checked available dogs at shelters all over NJ Wicked Blue Thursday #5
Try Second Chance Rescue The Wizard Thursday #13
Volunteers: sometimes overworked/under staffed and not all the paper work gets handled. Attilatheblond Thursday #3
I was looking for a specific breed Keepthesoulalive Thursday #4
Good to know Wicked Blue Thursday #6
Once I found the breed rescue Keepthesoulalive Thursday #8
I guess we will have to keep looking Wicked Blue Thursday #9
Those are people you don't need to deal with Keepthesoulalive Thursday #12
I have had such good luck always meeting my dogs in person before adopting them, and avoided Mike 03 Thursday #7
Thank you Wicked Blue Thursday #10
So glad you are ready to open your hearts & home to a new pupper! SheltieLover Thursday #14
Best advice I've seen all day. Thank you SheltieLover. JMCKUSICK Thursday #15
Wow do I ever hear you Wicked Blue! CountAllVotes Friday #18
Good luck with your search Wicked Blue Friday #19
I wish I had an answer for that CountAllVotes Friday #21
I have found that a lot of pet rescue groups in my area don't have their own websites; they link to Petfinder. MIButterfly Friday #20

hlthe2b

(110,693 posts)
1. I think this underscores the value of supporting your local shelter--even if that 'cute' little dog/cat is not
Thu Jul 17, 2025, 03:30 PM
Thursday

offered there. I know there are some excellent foster groups... If you know one locally, I'd suggest going directly to them, rather than through PetFinder. Like you, I would not want my information provided to dozens of different adoption groups or fosters. And, if they are not going to try to implement some uniformity across their adoption groups, then that would seem a red flag as well. I'm sure someone will post what a great experience they had going through them, and I'd not doubt that. But one good experience is not necessarily "predictive" of future experiences.

pnwmom

(109,968 posts)
16. The same problem occurs with local shelters.
Thu Jul 17, 2025, 07:32 PM
Thursday

We've had several dogs own us over the decades, but they haven't come from a shelter. The shelters required a fenced in yard, but we only have an unfenced acre.

Instead, we take our dogs outside ourselves, including on long hikes most days. That's not good enough for the shelters, but breeders have been happy to sell to us.

hlthe2b

(110,693 posts)
17. I've not dealt with shelters that required that--except when it was a very large, active dog accustomed
Thu Jul 17, 2025, 07:44 PM
Thursday

to that from its previous owner and deemed unlikely to adapt. Shelters that are that rigid would not last long in Colorado--at least not where I have lived. They do screen future owners carefully, but it would be rare to deny someone who intends to (and is capable of) providing the exercise and care compatible with the animal in question. Given CO shelters are extremely active in bringing in animals from throughout the US from overwhelmed shelters and after disasters, there are many animals to rehome.

That said, we do have an extremely active population--so whether it is adequate distance leash-walking, daily visits to appropriate dog parks, or hiking/winter sports, this is not typically an issue. And our elderly population quite often has appropriate resources to ensure the pets are receiving the exercise and care that they need.

Wicked Blue

(8,136 posts)
5. Thanks, I have checked available dogs at shelters all over NJ
Thu Jul 17, 2025, 03:58 PM
Thursday

but they are mostly very large dogs.

I have back problems and want a small dog. Penny was over 30 pounds. When she became incontinent I was changing her diapers as much as 10 times a day and lifting her in and out of the tub. It was hard.

The Wizard

(13,275 posts)
13. Try Second Chance Rescue
Thu Jul 17, 2025, 04:36 PM
Thursday

We adopted a Cavalier Spaniel puppy mill rescue. She came to us a bit disheveled, but after 6 months she came back like a boomerang. Gained 8 pounds and has a stance like a bulldog.
https://www.petfinder.com/member/us/nj/oak-ridge/second-chance-pet-adoption-league-nj113/

Attilatheblond

(6,704 posts)
3. Volunteers: sometimes overworked/under staffed and not all the paper work gets handled.
Thu Jul 17, 2025, 03:36 PM
Thursday

But I have witnessed some 'rescuers' who get off on some sort of power trip or are basically untreated hoarders themselves who just want all the puppies for themselves like they are some sort of long suffering saints. Nobody but themselves can ever possibly deserve the puppies. Oh, they work so hard..... /S

Full disclosure: I have a very low tolerance for people who love playing the martyr and know several 'rescuers' who are in it just to play that roll. If they really love the dogs, yes, be judicious about approving adoptions, but put the emphasis on getting the dogs into good homes.

Also, there are other sites to use besides petfinders. Check with ALL local shelters within 100 miles. They will help and sometimes, after working with a family, getting information, building a bit of a relationship, they might even deliver the dog. Sometimes a home visit is best.

That's how Finn joined our family, and joined the old cat's lizard hunting party.

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Keepthesoulalive

(1,553 posts)
4. I was looking for a specific breed
Thu Jul 17, 2025, 03:51 PM
Thursday

Petfinder helped me find the club that supported that breed and I found my boy.
If you are not particular about the breed there are tons of rescue organizations and humane societies. Try google, i’m sorry I had to type that name.

Wicked Blue

(8,136 posts)
6. Good to know
Thu Jul 17, 2025, 04:08 PM
Thursday

We're looking for a very small dog, preferably with some cavalier spaniel or pom mixed with chihuahua. Right now we have a corgi-chihuahua mix. Penny was a lovely cavalier-Eskimo mix, and previously we had an amazing cavalier-chihuahua mix.

We see some listed, but trying to get replies to applications is difficult.

Keepthesoulalive

(1,553 posts)
8. Once I found the breed rescue
Thu Jul 17, 2025, 04:24 PM
Thursday

I did not continue to use pet finder. Perhaps you can find a mix through one of rescue societies, there were a lot of mixes in the breed I was looking for. Try corgi or chihuahua rescue I’m sure they have mixes. It took a couple of months but I found my ideal boy, the search and time was worth it.

Wicked Blue

(8,136 posts)
9. I guess we will have to keep looking
Thu Jul 17, 2025, 04:29 PM
Thursday

I was told very coldly by the nearest cavalier rescue that they absolutely didn't deal with mixes.

Keepthesoulalive

(1,553 posts)
12. Those are people you don't need to deal with
Thu Jul 17, 2025, 04:35 PM
Thursday

The rescue I dealt with was a nationwide organization and they really wanted to help these dogs, after Covid the were stretched thin but I understand they were volunteers.if you are in the north west you might Asher house.

Mike 03

(18,562 posts)
7. I have had such good luck always meeting my dogs in person before adopting them, and avoided
Thu Jul 17, 2025, 04:21 PM
Thursday

some mistakes by doing that as well.

Good luck finding a new friend!

SheltieLover

(71,738 posts)
14. So glad you are ready to open your hearts & home to a new pupper!
Thu Jul 17, 2025, 04:36 PM
Thursday

Have you read "A Dog's Purpose?"

Pls consider letting the dog choose you.

CountAllVotes

(21,892 posts)
18. Wow do I ever hear you Wicked Blue!
Fri Jul 18, 2025, 01:55 PM
Friday

I'm going through the same thing right now.

Are "we" good enough as cats and dogs are being euthanized every day?

I've had the same thing happen to me.

Am I good enough.

Well, am I?

What a pile of frothing shyte IMO!

Any animal would be damn lucky to have me adopt them. I've had feral cats live to be as old as 20 years. All were cared for to the best of my ability and lived long pampered lives.

So, yeah I hear you Wicked Blue!

I hope you find another dog soon!

CountAllVotes

& recommend.

CountAllVotes

(21,892 posts)
21. I wish I had an answer for that
Fri Jul 18, 2025, 02:44 PM
Friday

I too wonder why this is so difficult!

Crate and towel are in the back seat of my car.

I have an appt. to get my too long hair cut at 1:00 p.m. *eek*
It hasn't been cut but once since my husband died in 2022. I feel like I am finally beginning to slowly crawl out of the highly depressed state of being a widow these days. It is time to LIVE again damn-it! Live and a cat that needs a home deserves the same thing!

I'll go find something to eat after that and then off to this mysterious adoption place that has 14 cats right now.

The colony to the north of me at the Rancheria has 110 cats right now. That's right, 110. Certainly I'm a decent enough person to have one again!

Such the hell isn't it?

Hang-in there Wicked Blue!



MIButterfly

(860 posts)
20. I have found that a lot of pet rescue groups in my area don't have their own websites; they link to Petfinder.
Fri Jul 18, 2025, 02:33 PM
Friday

I don't know why they do that. I adopted my two cats in 2011 and it wasn't like that then.

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