keeping my folks closer than ever.

I can't bring myself to click on them to maximize.
I clean 2 glass full view storm doors, but not the very bottoms where she smushed her sweet nose. So be it. I care not how this appears.
I opt out of talking with any kind of counseling or behavioral .medicine specialist. I'm hard core industrial strength.
Plus, the oval office occupier's wanton conduct repulses me.

Please consider adopting another furkid in need of a great home. Not to replace the pupper who passed on, because nobody could ever do that! But as a means of taking some action towards healing your soul's heart. Perhaps a rescue kitty or a neexy pupper...

Also, please considet a few bereavement counseling sessions through a hospice. They are uniquely trained to help people to resolve their grief &, yes, your heart will likely still ache, but at a more manageable level.

Perhaps they even offer a group for people whose beloved companion pets have passed over the veil.

Many also offer large groups especially around the holidays where you can get some support in a larger setting. Nobody will look at you weird if you shed tears becaise, after all, everyone else there is hurting deeply, too.

Nearly all hospice organizations offer free bereavement coumselimg & groups & you can always make a love offering donation if you are able to do so.

Please give your local hospice a call? We love you & care that you are hurting so deeply.

Not in my vocabulary.

This has to come to its own resolution whatever that looks like.

Grateful for your words and thoughts on this.

It's almost as if I have 'knowing' that I must go through and endure, no matter how hurtful. Yes, I questioned God how this was allowed. Either I settle the silence with that Faith I say I have or I'm a flaming hypocrite

I've been there. Absolutely! And I'm not needy either.

No person is an island.

Dogs, imo, are Nature's greatest gift to humans, so it only makes sense that when that tremendous love is taken from us, it hurts like hell. Literally.

There are many things that are allowed to happen in university Earth that are too horrific to be able to explain.

Are you willing to try a bereavement hospice counseling session or a group? If so, look up your lical hospice & call them to make arrangements!

Found her in a roundabout manner
She's 11.
Someone close to me only mentioned there 'may' be grief some day. Sure, that occurred to me. But I wouldn't let that prevent me from adopting her. My heart wants her, but my head says hold up. Be sure in this serious commitment
She's currently being fostered. The facility shared a short video of her gently taking a slice of pizza toy I sent her n settling on a cushion to play with it. I have great peace that she's being cared for in a home. I told the facility I would like to at least sponsor her for now and they quite welcomed that. She was the first to show up online after a search. I broke down sobbing seeing her sweet smiling face.

See, there is such a deep connection there!

Why not adopt her?

I know the responsibility that entails being a pet mommie. I need to make certain I will be able to give her my all. I desire to give my life to 'her' and not get her for selfish reasons.

You touched on why animals.
They are unmistakably precious also in the eyes of the Creator. Woe unto those mistreating them. They do not realize.

I believe I heard once that the animal kingdom (and plants) could survive on earth without humans, but we cannot without them.

I can recall traveling with my daughters, when they were young, without whichever dog(s) were in our family at the time.

It was agonizing. Missed them every second!

Thankfully, other dog owners understood when we would eagerly approach, literally explaining & asking permission to pet their dog(s) because "we [were] in bad need of a pupper 'fix.'". We would all laugh, then 6 hands lavished love upon their dog(s) for a few min. That helped a lot!

Likely this dynamic is precisely why you need a pet in your life & why people with a pet live longer, healthiet lives!

I couldn't agree more about people who mistreat animals! Scum of the earth!

I wouldn't worry about being perfect, Sprink. Nothing on Earth is perfect, least of all, people.

Dogs aren't all that picky. Food, love, & a little play time is all they want. Most of all they want love & it sure sounds like you have an abundance of love to shower upon her.

Why not go visit her? I'm sure the foster parents would love for you to visit her! And it will do you a world of good to get a "pupper fix!"

I think you have found what will bring you joy and will gladly walk you back into the sunshine.
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It's so painful when you lose a pet companion. I still mourn my sweet cats and dogs that have passed, as I do my human family members, if not more.

They are a part of you because of the way that they changed your life when they entered it. The grief never leaves entirely, the love and small treasures they leave to memory, now, are a part of you both. Find peace, and remember the gift she brought.

I'm grieving her more than I did the repose of my husband in 2019. I didn't fall apart after losing him.

My good friend gave me a cat (her daughter rescues cats) and he couldn't be sweeter or more affectionate, but I often call him by my dog's name. And of the dogs in my life, he's only one of two that I got as a puppy, the other pup my Dad got us when I was 11, in between I found dogs from rescue and I loved each one, often I had two. My Jack was 16 and this is the longest I've been without a dog in my life. And I remember hearing that it's hardest to lose a pet since they're always with you. So I understand, my friend.

Go get you another doggy. Put your love toward another pup in your ex pups memory.

Seriously, quickest way to get past the grief.

Lost my son to Oxycontin, wife got two dogs who filled the hole.
They were from the same litter.
They both died, within 18 months of each other.

Wife says . . . no more dogs, we are too old.
But who bought their food, fed them, who walked them, who cleaned up after them, who took them to the vet when needed? (Not her)
Some solace in the thought they outlived their litter mates, some comfort in the thought I gave them the best life possible.

Hole in my heart for my son, my two dogs.
The holes are always there, and they will resurface. Recede, then flood back.

Tempted to visit the local pound and adopt a middle aged dog.
And thrive in the need to be needed.

One day . . .

But I always suggest to people that instead of grieving over the loss of the future, rejoice in all the good times and feelings they had in the past and how fortunate they were to have them. It works for me, even as I approach my own expiration date.

and as fit, healthy adult dogs and feel joy.

But in the small hours of a sleepless night, the sadness overwhelms all.

A warm dog's body, sleeping soundly on my bed at night, would help greatly.

Which means I only have them for a short time but they are my teachers and my guides. If something is wrong they let me know , they sense things about people and if they feel a person is not sincere they lean on me to tell me to move away. They are more loyal than most humans and their love is unconditional. You have lost a companion and a friend who was non judgmental with her love. Wishing you peace.

The pain of losing my beloved calico was profound. I cried, grieved, lost 14 pounds. I am so sorry for your loss and for your pain. After losing my baby, I had a sort of sweat lodge experience, an alternate state of mind induced by driving long distance in a van with no air conditioning during an Oklahoma heat wave. I saw Sheba bounding thru a field, young and healthy again, her fur sparkling in sunlight. I try to hold that vision in my heart to ease the pain. I hope you find some solace.

But find a way to channel that pain and sense of loss to do some good such as is there
a local dog shelter that needs volunteers to help with the dogs such as walking them or
maybe being a foster home for a dog when they are looking for a forever home for a dog
or maybe adopting another dog. Your buddy was lucky to have you and pass by your side.

More than 50 years ago. I've had so many dogs since then. I mourn all the dogs I've lost, but not like her.
I'm so sorry that you're going through this. But you have to give yourself a new direction, and take your mind out of your grief, so...
There's really only one thing to do - you have to get another dog, soon. There's a dog who needs a home and a human out there somewhere, and you're a human with a home and love to give a dog. It will be good for you, and will save a dog's life.
Us dog people are not meant to be dogless.

For 15 years we had those 2, the girl stayed next to me and the male was always with my wife. Two beautiful Goldens, I still miss them terribly, my phone is always sending me memories from my photos and they're always of the dogs, it brings tears. You're not alone.

But in an hour I go pick up my son's dog for the day and I'm thrilled. In two weeks I'll get my other sons dog for the weekend, I'm a dog sitter now.

Good luck

I have a precious 12-year old dog with CHF--I am grateful for every day I have him, but I know what is coming...it gets closer by the minute. The grief has already begun though I fight to stay focused on the sweet boy by my side right now. I try to plan how I will get through it, how I will speed the time until I can breathe again without my heart catching in my throat full of grief. I think audio books, painting, gardening...but I know these are the weakest distractions. I don't know any other way of getting through grief but living in it, days and days, months and. years of it. If I live long enough it will become bearable. I do know that much. Our job is to keep living through the pain. I am holding your hand in my heart. I know. I know....

I know what you are feeling. We adopted two bichon brothers years ago, Doodle and Boo Bear. Boo Bear died at twelve, and Doodle at sixteen. Words cannot express the hurt I still feel. I miss them every day of my life.

Please take comfort in knowing you will be together again. You will.

No pet can be replaced, but your heart can be healed enough for you to function if you open it to another pet.

I still miss both my previous cats terribly, and I know some day I'll be hurt again when the new arrivals pass. But in the meantime I can live and even find some joy in their lives.

Tough love post from me, take it or leave it.. Best wishes for you.

Both of my older two children loss their 14+ year old bearded collies during the prior year. I sat with my oldest while he said goodbye to his beardie at the Vets office. Both children replaced their beardies fairly shortly after the passing of their family member and are doing better.

I am sorry for your loss

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that have been offered me on this thread of mine.
I got jammed up changing my Prescription D plan, reviewing all my insurance coverage, legal docs revisions, straightening out errors on phone statements and filing disputes on credit card accounts.
So, perhaps holding off until this stuff is finalized was a smart decision in getting this pup immediately.
But it may come to fruition in the near future.