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MIButterfly

(3,624 posts)
Wed Jul 8, 2026, 08:09 PM 4 hrs ago

I picked up Holly's ashes today

They're in a nice little wood box. I also got a little clay plate with her paw print and name on it. Sigh.

When I was leaving the house with my purse on my arm, I wondered "where am I going?" and then I remembered.

A friend called me to see how I'm doing and we had a nice chat.

Martini and I went went upstairs to get her medicine and instead of turning left to go into the bathroom, she turned right and started running, the little rascal! She made me laugh.

I called her "Holly" twice today.

And so it goes.

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I picked up Holly's ashes today (Original Post) MIButterfly 4 hrs ago OP
How nice to honor dear Holly. Nanuke 4 hrs ago #1
My condolences for your loss of Holly. Ocelot II 3 hrs ago #2
Holly, you are now in a place of love 💕 forever. Polly Hennessey 3 hrs ago #3
❤️ underpants 3 hrs ago #4
How sweet your little rascal made you laugh. I'm glad it goes. George McGovern 3 hrs ago #5
We recently had to have a cat put down. TomSlick 3 hrs ago #6
For what it might be worth, in a different thread about pet loss... 3catwoman3 2 hrs ago #9
Martini worked her kitty magic to make you laugh. SheltieLover 2 hrs ago #7
Hugs to you and Martini MIButterfly JMCKUSICK 2 hrs ago #8

Ocelot II

(131,983 posts)
2. My condolences for your loss of Holly.
Wed Jul 8, 2026, 08:28 PM
3 hrs ago

I have a few of those little boxes and pawprint plaques, too. It's hard...

TomSlick

(13,165 posts)
6. We recently had to have a cat put down.
Wed Jul 8, 2026, 08:59 PM
3 hrs ago

For the first time, I decided that I'm past digging pet graves.

We had the little guy cremated. I had every intention of burying the urn using a post hole digger. Now I can't bring myself to do so. The little urn is pretty and doesn't take up much room on a shelf. I'm getting sentimental in my old age.

3catwoman3

(30,360 posts)
9. For what it might be worth, in a different thread about pet loss...
Wed Jul 8, 2026, 09:31 PM
2 hrs ago

...a few days ago, I shared this idea on terminology -

"In our family, we have chosen to call this most difficult decision "liberating the spirit."

I came up with the idea because it has a gentler feel to it than all the other usual terms. Put to sleep isn't accurate - we wish they were only sleeping. Euthanize sounds cold and clinical. Put down sounds harsh.

It helps a little.

Please know this is not criticism, just a thought that I found to be a bit of a balm to a grieving heart.

SheltieLover

(82,994 posts)
7. Martini worked her kitty magic to make you laugh.
Wed Jul 8, 2026, 09:27 PM
2 hrs ago

Please be very gentle with yourself as you heal.

Healing vibes on the way to you & Martini.

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