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Marthe48

(23,721 posts)
Thu Jun 18, 2026, 07:06 PM Thursday

It was 55 years ago today we were married

My husband passed away 9 years ago, but I observe this special date and feel especially close to him. Easy to think of him, too, because we were traveling. I've been visting our daughter and s-i-l this week and we drove from their home to Maine, for the celebration of life for another loved one. I don't think anyone will notice, or mind if they do that I am subdued. Fits right in with the general mood.
All of us who post here are in a club we didn't want to join.


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It was 55 years ago today we were married (Original Post) Marthe48 Thursday OP
Vibes to you on this day. applegrove Thursday #1
... FemDemERA Thursday #2
It hasn't been 9 years for me, 9 months TexLaProgressive Thursday #3
Posting in a group we did not wish to join... wyn borkins Thursday #4
Marthe48 may every good memory comfort livetohike Thursday #5
My virtual arms are around you, Marthe48 UpInArms Thursday #6
I joined the club 4 months ago after being a caregiver 24/7 for five years. I feel dead inside like Ziggysmom Thursday #7
Maybe with time Marthe48 Yesterday #8
It's been a few short weeks for me JoseBalow Yesterday #9
I'm very sorry and I feel your pain. I didn't think it would be this hard. The widows on the old Ziggysmom 4 hrs ago #10

TexLaProgressive

(12,821 posts)
3. It hasn't been 9 years for me, 9 months
Thu Jun 18, 2026, 07:19 PM
Thursday

There are good days and not so good days. I know I’m not telling you anything new. We were married 51 years when she died. Our anniversary is January 1. Our wonderful granddaughter, husband and her 2 children celebrated that day eating in her favorite restaurant. It was good because we have good memories and funny stories.

It is good that you have your daughter.

wyn borkins

(1,561 posts)
4. Posting in a group we did not wish to join...
Thu Jun 18, 2026, 07:23 PM
Thursday

May subdued Happy Thoughts

Pass your way this day

Always here for you

Sincerely, Wyn

livetohike

(24,489 posts)
5. Marthe48 may every good memory comfort
Thu Jun 18, 2026, 07:40 PM
Thursday

you on this special day and every day. May the stories you’ll continue to tell make you smile .

Ziggysmom

(4,186 posts)
7. I joined the club 4 months ago after being a caregiver 24/7 for five years. I feel dead inside like
Thu Jun 18, 2026, 09:36 PM
Thursday

my heart went with him. I don’t even care to leave the house. I will pray for you and your husband that someday you will be together in love again.

Is funny, sometimes I read DU aloud so my husband can hear it.

Take Care

Marthe48

(23,721 posts)
8. Maybe with time
Fri Jun 19, 2026, 09:15 AM
Yesterday

I'm sorry for your loss.
I have pictures of my husband in almost every room. I talk to him, too. I hear many people do the same.

Be nice to yourself.

JoseBalow

(9,883 posts)
9. It's been a few short weeks for me
Fri Jun 19, 2026, 01:06 PM
Yesterday

The longest weeks of my life.

They say it gets better. I hope they are right. Until then, I continue to take one small step at a time, trying not to fall.

Knowing that I am not alone in this helps. We're not alone in this.

Ziggysmom

(4,186 posts)
10. I'm very sorry and I feel your pain. I didn't think it would be this hard. The widows on the old
Sat Jun 20, 2026, 10:53 AM
4 hrs ago

Golden Girls tv show made it look so easy. Do what feels right for you and don’t neglect getting a check up. The stress of going through the loss of a loved one can be very hard on the body. I could not sleep at night and my migraines increased until my doctor prescribed a new antidepressant. Took a while, and it’s not a cure for the grief, but now I can at least get several hours of continuous sleep and feel a bit better.

Take Care.

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