Take care of yourself, as she would want to do if she could.

They turned off life support including oxygen at 3:30. She’s still breathing. She will not be all good, she’s locked in. She still reacts to pain, but the response is weak.
I’m staying here to the bitter end. I owe it to her. She stood with me through my Crohn’s disease and Cancer, and even if she didn’t I’d still be here.

Those of us with similar experience can feel your pain. 🙏

Just sending out DU Love,

KozandLilBit

Wishing you peace across the miles

I can't imagine what you and your family are going through. Just know that your DU family is here to listen and support you.

Peace and love.

I hope that in time your memories will bring you some measure of peace.

May she fly high. Sending you love.

🕯️

Peace be with you.

having his horrible level of grief after so many years of happiness.

There are not words enough....

May she rest in peace

I'm so very sorry for your loss

May Jae’s memory be a blessing to you, your family, and her loved ones.

I really feel for you both.

Your post is a beautiful tribute to your wife and to your "love story".

there aren't words to express such a heart ache. Know that there are others who will pray for you and help where and when they can.

I'm so sorry.

Do you have family and friends with you? I really hope so, this is such a hard time.

I send love and strength to both of you!



Alfredo, you are one of my favorites, to know that you are experiencing such a profound loss is heartbreaking. I know that you know that we are here for you.

... may your sweet memories bring you peace and healing. Thank you for the reminder that we should savor every moment with our loved ones.

Take care of yourself. Let your family and friends help you through this heartbreaking time.

you have my deepest sympathies.

My heart is with you in this dark time.

.........💔

And so suddenly. An aunt of mine lost her husband of many years to a sudden stroke, and I can barely imagine the pain of such a loss.

But I do believe (though I'm not religious) in an afterlife and reunions with loved ones. And I believe Jae can sense your love even now, every instant, as clearly as ever. Spirit to spirit. That connection can't be broken, even if you have to say goodbye here.

🕊️❤️So sorry😢

I am so so sorry

No words except I am holding you in my heart. I’m so so sorry. ❤️

Your grief will take you so many directions but your beautiful words about your life together tell me you’ll find your way to peace. My heart goes out to you with your loss.

Praying for strength for you in the coming days.

You need to share and realize that people do care.

I wish I had words of comfort.

I don't know what else to say except no one could read your words and not feel the depth of your love.

my heart cramps and my face is wet. I know you are in complete terrifying shock. Take very small steps, be very tender with yourself, and realize that with care for yourself you can get to the other side where the grieving begins, along with the new life for yourself that is waiting to be created. My hand reaches out to you with love and compassion.

... she will live on in your memories of her love and kindness. Never forget her.

Your OP is a lovely tribute to your wife.

I am sending you both love and kind thoughts. 💕

May sweet memories of your beloved Jae bring you comfort and peace.

I have no great words of wisdom to share, but please know that the depth of your love shines through in your post and my face is wet with tears as I type these words. My heart is with you. May you find peace in the days and nights to come.

I have no great words of wisdom to share, but please know that the depth of your love shines through in your words and my face is wet with tears as I type. My heart is with you. May you find peace in the days and nights to come.

It sounds like you two had a beautiful life, and the depth of your love is apparent in your writing.

She'll always be in your heart.

If there is any substitute for love, it is memory.

✨🙏

So very sorry about this tragedy, Alfredo. May your memories bring comfort and solace as time goes by. You have the moral support of many.

Cherish that. And may it bring you peace.

You have my deepest sympathy.

Has to be heart breaking. My thoughts and good vibes too you. Take care.

Rest peacefuly in the joy of the 42 years you shared.

Few of us are lucky enough to have such a love for so long and in such harmony. I have been with my wife for over 40 years and we each know that one of us will eventually have to deal with something like this. It was the same with my parents, who were together for just over 50 years before my mother died. But Dad is still OK at age 82, I see him as often as I can though we live 80 miles apart so it's a stretch. I will say to you what I said to Dad when my mother died in 2014: She would want you to see it through and go on. Mourn and take comfort from those sources that are available, but in the end ask what you would want your love to do if it had been you who suddenly died. The Golden Rule is surprisingly applicable in some situations.

What a deeply touching writing… my heart goes out to you. Wishing you a heart full of warm memories to comfort you, seems that you genuinely blessed each others lives.

talk to her. her spirit will hear you. and once she gets her bearings on the other side she'll be with you whenever you need her or want her. you were a priority to her in this lifetime, there is no reason to think you will not continue to be a priority to her. 42 years. it doesn't stop or end here. our spirits don't die, energy doesn't die and that love you have for each other will go on and on. it will be the thread that keeps you connected.

i'm sorry both of you are going through this. too sudden. too unexpected.
let her know it's okay, that everything is going to be okay, and you'll find each other again.
because you will.

With every great love comes the prospect of a great loss, and now it is upon you.

I hope you have family and friends to help you through this, though I know you will never stop missing her.

I wish there was more to say, but there really isn't. I'm sorry.

You were lucky to have her.
Please take care of yourself and be kind to yourself.

compared to things like cancer where you have more warning. May you have moments of clarity as you go through your grief that give you some comfort.
💙🪷

My husband and I have been married for 43 years. I can't imagine how you must feel right now.

May you always feel her love.

There are no words I can offer that will lessen the pain of your loss. Sending you a big hug.

I lost my hubby less than two years ago, and it aches something fierce.

Take good care of your heart over the next few years. Heavy grief can change its physical structure.

So sorry for you loss. 😢

Words are never enough when facing something like this. Just know that we are here for you!

Your post touched my heart and I wanted to respond, but all the words I can think of seem so inadequate…

I'm so sorry. Thank you for this note. Thanks for being willing to share such a tough time here, with your DU family.

Even on a weekend like this, it sounds like you were still luckier than many. Forty-two years of love and happiness with the girl of your dreams.

PLEASE stay in touch, alfredo, and PLEASE let us know how you're doing, and whatever anguish you need to get off your chest. We're here, any time of day or night, and we're gonna worry if we don't hear from you. Remember what our Skittles has said (and it's always helped buoy me up a little whenever I'm reminded of it): "Someone's always here."

I'm so sorry, Alfredo. Sudden losses can be shocking, and its hard for the heart and mind to grasp it.

It sounds like you had a lovely marriage. I hope you were able to say goodbye.



You can lean on us.

May peace go with you in all the empty places you must walk.

I am also glad you had those 42 years together. I wish strength for you and peaceful acceptance into The Universe for her. Heartbreaking.

I'm so sorry that this happened to your wife. I can't imagine the pain you're going through. My thoughts are with you.

I pray that you can find the inner strength to get through the difficult days ahead.

I’m so sorry. 💗💗💗💐🙏🏼

Hold on to those cherished memories

there are no sufficient words to express... be kind to yourself

lose someone you loved so well and for so long.

Sincerest condolences to you, alfredo.