General Discussion

I think about the LGBT movement, where it's been, where it's going. And it's just gotten so . . . stupid.

Most LGBTers just want to live their lives equally, with dignity, free from discrimination and harm. They want what everyone else has.

Then you meet the Chase Strangios of the world. Where he doesn't want mere equality or even equity. He subscribes to a gender ideology and queer theory that is authoritarian adjacent to reorder and restructure society. People who see marriage or monogamy as patriarchal systems that are inherently violent. He uses that word. Violent. To describe the biggest LGBT civil rights victory in American history.

He thinks it promotes a violence.

And here's the thing. Not only do most Americans not want any part of that - most LGBT people do not want any part of that. But people like Strangio are forever at the podiums of these activist organizations. So cis-het people see that and think, "I guess this is what LGBT people want now. And I, as an ally, will support this!"

And it's like no. You do not have to support this. I promise. Most LGBT people have nothing to do with this liberation ideology where they need to educate children to cast off the shackles of whatever. I'm a very progressive gay man, and I've been at "Knock this shit off" for at least 15 years at this point. It alienates everyone except this tiny radical sliver of an enclave of a minority and the virtue signalers who love them.

The problem is, the Internet exists. So these radicals all band together to 1. Make their presence seem much larger and representative than it actually is, and 2. Enforce their ideology by coordinated attacks, brigading, deplatforming, and social pressure. What they didn't count on was that you can't browbeat people in real life. All their online and social media tactics that worked well for them throughout the 2010's met the cold, hard reality of the American voter and legal system in the 2020s. "I can't just call a Supreme Court Justice a bigot and get my way?"

No, Twitter. You cannot.

There needs to be a drawback and discussion about just what are the aims here. Because ask five different LGBT people, you'll get five different opinions about where we are going. But one thing is very clear to me: the Strangios need to go, and a lot of these organizations like GLAAD and the HRC need a thorough housecleaning of people who do not actually represent what the majority of the LGBT community is like.

And before cis-het people @ me about this. I'm in my 40s, and all my life I've dealt with radicals who pooh-poohed my wanting to just settle down, have a career, and live a fairly traditional life. I shouldn't want monogamy or marriage or even children. We are liberated! We don't have to conform! It never occurred to them, for one second, that people like just living a "normal" life - that we're not brain-washed or imprisoned into it. They sneeringly call us "assimilationist" as they work out their personal issues in their ideology and politics instead of going to a therapist like a normal person.

I have never liked these people who endlessly sit around and tell me how I should be gay. As if it's any of their fucking business.

They do not speak for me, they do not represent me, and I do not support them outside of shared civil equality and nondiscrimination goals.

The glorious gender revolution just face-planted. Now what?