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forgotmylogin

(7,922 posts)
38. Sending positive vibes.
Sun Aug 31, 2025, 12:25 PM
Aug 31

My mom passed in 2022 and my cousin gave me the best advice: Grief is like a bitter hard candy lodged in your throat and it will be there a long time unless you accept it and allow yourself to taste it in small increments so it slowly melts. If you don't do that it's going to choke you all at once when you least expect it.

I wish for you that your grief is cathartic and productive and filled with the best memories.

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I'm so sorry. Justice Aug 31 #1
That was my mom's age when she died. mahatmakanejeeves Aug 31 #2
I'm sorry for the sad good bye. Happy she has a nice long life. 1WorldHope Aug 31 #4
So sorry. Mine is 94 and going through some health challenges. bullimiami Aug 31 #3
My sympathy to you and your family radical noodle Aug 31 #5
I am sorry for your loss LetMyPeopleVote Aug 31 #6
I'm so sorry. It is so tough. Diamond_Dog Aug 31 #7
So sorry to hear this. As I tell my wife, whose Mom passed away last year at age 93, walkingman Aug 31 #8
I'm sad to read that. Sad for you. MineralMan Aug 31 #9
My deepest condolences. sinkingfeeling Aug 31 #10
Heartfelt condolences to you and your family. It's a tough one. n/t SheilaAnn Aug 31 #11
Condolences to you and your family and may your mother Rest In Peace. imanamerican63 Aug 31 #12
May your nice memories carry you through this. judesedit Aug 31 #13
Condolences gademocrat7 Aug 31 #14
I hope you have some family and friends to lean on. DFW Aug 31 #15
A very bad day, but you will always have your memories of her. surfered Aug 31 #16
Condolences to you and your family peggysue2 Aug 31 #17
Sorry to hear about your mother. 70sEraVet Aug 31 #18
💙 sheshe2 Aug 31 #19
Deepest Sympathies... Peacetrain Aug 31 #20
I am so sorry for your loss, mac56 Grim Chieftain Aug 31 #21
My sincere condolences to you and your family. Losing our loved ones is not easy 💐 Deuxcents Aug 31 #22
I'm so sorry for your loss. area51 Aug 31 #23
Deepest sympathy orangecrush Aug 31 #24
I am sorry for your loss. Solly Mack Aug 31 #25
I am so sorry. May her memory be a blessing to you. Iris Aug 31 #26
Condolences... MiHale Aug 31 #27
So hard to lose your Mom... holding you in my heart. n/t TygrBright Aug 31 #28
Deepest condolences, Mac SheltieLover Aug 31 #29
I'm sorry for your loss. mountain grammy Aug 31 #30
Sorry for you loss. SocialDemocrat61 Aug 31 #31
I am sorry to hear that whopis01 Aug 31 #32
Deepest sympathy malaise Aug 31 #33
Sending warm thoughts and hugs. pandr32 Aug 31 #34
I am so sorry for your loss. MIButterfly Aug 31 #35
Condolences berniesandersmittens Aug 31 #36
I'm sorry Mac56 JMCKUSICK Aug 31 #37
Sending positive vibes. forgotmylogin Aug 31 #38
Your cousin is a skilled wordsmith. 3catwoman3 Aug 31 #76
Thank you. aurora the great Aug 31 #97
I'm so very sorry for your loss. StarryNite Aug 31 #39
I am so sorry for your loss Tree Lady Aug 31 #40
My Mom was 92 when she passed 3 years ago. Liberty Belle Aug 31 #41
I'm very sorry for your loss. Nevilledog Aug 31 #42
I'm very sorry for the loss of your mother Wicked Blue Aug 31 #43
I am so sorry. Jay25 Aug 31 #44
Sorry mac56, that one hurts... spanone Aug 31 #45
So sorry. Nothing prepares us. littlemissmartypants Aug 31 #46
Losing any family member is really hard. bluestarone Aug 31 #47
I'm so sorry. I hope it was peaceful. chowder66 Aug 31 #48
Comfort to you in your grieving, mac56 💚 Clouds Passing Aug 31 #49
You have my sympathy KT2000 Aug 31 #50
So sorry for your loss. I applaud your mother for raising a great Democrat. Ziggysmom Aug 31 #51
Sorry for your loss. ecstatic Aug 31 #52
Sorry, mac56 democrank Aug 31 #53
Sending my deepest condolences lindalou65 Aug 31 #54
Sorry to hear... essaynnc Aug 31 #55
I'm so sorry for your loss of your Mom. My sympathy livetohike Aug 31 #56
So sorry for your loss. applegrove Aug 31 #57
So sorry IbogaProject Aug 31 #58
Hoping it was peaceful barbtries Aug 31 #59
I'm so sorry. live love laugh Aug 31 #60
Condolences mac56. At 92, she saw ALOT Pas-de-Calais Aug 31 #61
Condolences to you, and your family Bayard Aug 31 #62
Sorry to hear that...it's always a shock when a parent dies... haele Aug 31 #63
I'm so sorry. Beacool Aug 31 #64
Sincere condolences godsentme Aug 31 #65
I'm so sorry. hamsterjill Aug 31 #66
Sorry for your loss hibbing Aug 31 #67
I am so sorry for your loss! BlueKota Aug 31 #68
Bless her Mblaze Aug 31 #69
I'm sorry for your loss JoseBalow Aug 31 #70
So sorry senseandsensibility Aug 31 #71
I'm so sorry for your loss. yardwork Aug 31 #72
I'm very sorry for your loss mac56 Danmel Aug 31 #73
One of the hardest times of our lives. Sending you hugs. MLAA Aug 31 #74
Wishing you strength and serenity. 3catwoman3 Aug 31 #75
My condolences on your loss, and my admiration for the length of time she was here. marble falls Aug 31 #77
I'm So Sorry DarthDem Aug 31 #78
Sending you and your family my deepest condolences BumRushDaShow Aug 31 #79
Condolences to you and your family. mwmisses4289 Aug 31 #80
So sorry for your loss Mz Pip Aug 31 #81
... 2naSalit Aug 31 #82
May her memory always be for a blessing. PCIntern Aug 31 #83
Hugs to you and your family mercuryblues Aug 31 #84
I'm so sorry for your loss. calimary Aug 31 #85
My deepest condolences to you and your family. HeartsCanHope Aug 31 #86
Deepest condolences on this great loss irisblue Aug 31 #87
May her memory be a blessing blogslug Aug 31 #88
I'm so sorry, you have my condolences. CaptainTruth Aug 31 #89
I'm sorry for your loss.Losing a parent is very tough. brer cat Aug 31 #90
... Aristus Aug 31 #91
I am so sorry. May the angels welcome her. LoisB Aug 31 #92
Saddened to hear of it. My deepest sympathy. B.See Aug 31 #93
So very sorry. NEOBuckeye Aug 31 #94
Very sorry. Condolences from myself and family Tetrachloride Aug 31 #95
My Condolences aurora the great Aug 31 #96
Sincere condolences to you and your family, mac56. pazzyanne Aug 31 #98
This is a scary age for me since my mom turned 91 yesterday. BigmanPigman Aug 31 #99
I am so sorry for your loss mac56. Dem4life1970 Aug 31 #100
May her memory be a blessing. nt Ilsa Aug 31 #101
I'm so sorry mac56. choie Aug 31 #102
I am so sorry mac56 MerrilyMerrily Sep 1 #103
I'm so sorry LeftInTX Sep 1 #104
My thoughts are with you and your family. Doodley Sep 1 #105
I'm so sorry, mac. pacalo Sep 1 #106
Comfort to your family, mac56. Heidi Sep 1 #107
Wishing you and your family comfort and peace, mac. summer_in_TX Sep 1 #108
So sorry. Grief manifests in different ways in different people so be with your feelings the best you can. There's.... electric_blue68 Sep 1 #109
Condolences on the loss of your Mom 🙏 SimplyHadEnough Sep 1 #110
So sorry DownriverDem Sep 1 #111
So sorry for your loss 🙏🙏🙏 TommieMommy Sep 1 #112
I'm so sorry cate94 Sep 1 #113
My sympathies to you and your family FemDemERA Sep 1 #114
Im sorry for your loss ihavenoidea Sep 2 #115
Welcome to DU LetMyPeopleVote Sep 2 #117
I'm so sorry Raine Sep 2 #116
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