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had the boyfriend of a woman I was friends with set up an appointment for me with an agent doing some casting for a major film. I didn't want to go - had two actress roommates and I knew I did not have their skills and training (Royal Academy of Dramatic Art, Juilliard), so this was asinine - but my friend said I had to go or her much older boyfriend would be upset. Was relieved to discover I was the wrong ethnicity for the speaking roles that were left. My friend Laurie, who'd made sure I went to the appointment, was the right ethnicity, but she didn't want a minor role in the film, either. We thanked the agent for his time and were laughing about it after we left. It stopped being a laughing matter when I got a dozen roses hand delivered by one of her boyfriend's employees a day later, with a handwritten note with his phone number asking me to call him. I'd met him only once, when he'd taken Laurie and myself to lunch at L'Etoile. I called him, thanked him for the appointment I hadn't wanted, was asked out, and turned him down politely because he was too well-connected (owned TV stations and papers, knew the mayor of NYC and a lot of NY/NJ politicians) to want to piss him off. Laurie broke up with him a bit later.

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