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56. My wife is an incest survivor

Thu Sep 4, 2025, 07:55 PM

Sep 4

So I've witnessed the pain that women go through, keeping the secret of what they feel is 'their' shame. I'm really sorry for what you went through for all of those years.
My wife opened up about it, realizing that it wasn't HER shame. But, many years later, she still screams in her sleep.
I hope you find healing.

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My dear proud patriot! CaliforniaPeggy Sep 4 #1

I want to thank everyone Especially my dear friend Peggy proud patriot Friday #81

I'm very sorry that happened to you. yardwork Sep 4 #2

So sorry about what happened to you.nt jfz9580m Sep 4 #3

You are a survivor and a hero yourself, my dear Bayard Sep 4 #4

I went to post something similar, so I'll endorse your post. . . . nt Bernardo de La Paz Sep 4 #16

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Thank you for your courage Proud Patriot JMCKUSICK Sep 4 #6

From my understanding most abuse is kept a secret. That is part of the abuse. twodogsbarking Sep 4 #7

That took courage some_of_us_are_sane Sep 4 #8

Thank you for sharing this. colorado_ufo Sep 4 #9

How brave you are telling Cha Sep 4 #10

It also took strength to hide it for years leftstreet Sep 4 #11

You are absolutely correct. niyad Sep 4 #19

An important point. yellow dahlia Sep 4 #36

I am proud of YOU, dear proud patriot! MLAA Sep 4 #12

I'm sending huge hugs to you now and your poor 19 year old self! FirstLight Sep 4 #13

I had something similar happen. Demobrat Sep 4 #14

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FWIW, "I hope you fought back" isn't always helpful to hear, whether they did or not. WhiskeyGrinder Sep 4 #26

I do understand that. Whatever one does, or does not do, to save themselves niyad Sep 4 #60

yeah that's a much more supportive sentiment WhiskeyGrinder Sep 4 #62

I see you proud patriot Sep 4 #35

Thank you. Demobrat Sep 4 #64

hugggggggs. I am in awe of your courage, your fortitude, your perseverance. niyad Sep 4 #15

I was approached at a gas station at the same age as you Coventina Sep 4 #18

Thank you for being brave enough to share this. hamsterjill Sep 4 #20

Oh boy...my heart goes out to you. sagetea Sep 4 #21

Oh my God. I am so sorry that happened to you, but I am in awe that you Scrivener7 Sep 4 #22

Now you are a HERO too. SalviaBlue Sep 4 #23

Amen, brave one. Joinfortmill Sep 4 #24

(((((HUGS))))) UpInArms Sep 4 #25

I'm sorry.... JoeOtterbein Sep 4 #27

You are very brave. bamagal62 Sep 4 #28

At about 17 or 18 I bolted from what I thought was a 'job interview...' joanbarnes Sep 4 #29

Back when many of us were young, we expected college professors & bosses to be gross womanofthehills Sep 4 #40

I have been lucky in my mentors/teachers jfz9580m Sep 4 #63

I'm sorry. mzmolly Sep 4 #30

Indeed. soldierant Sep 4 #66

Ouch. BComplex Friday #69

PTSD trigger chia Friday #72

Apologies. soldierant Friday #82

It's okay. It just hit hard, seeing in print the time I kept saying those things, over and over, to no effect. chia Friday #83

Isn't funny that we're ashamed to tell our stories? cate94 Sep 4 #31

The feedback has been overwhelming proud patriot Sep 4 #32

I'm pretty sure it wasn't easy, but I think/hope it will lighten the burden of your terrible experience over time. electric_blue68 Sep 4 #48

Sorrow shared is halved IbogaProject Sep 4 #65

Thank you. ananda Sep 4 #33

I'm sorry that happened to you Bettie Sep 4 #34

At least you stopped yourself from going back. kerry-is-my-prez Sep 4 #37

wow i went to DVC in the 70's and can't image the college kimbutgar Sep 4 #38

I think that's why I thought it was real proud patriot Sep 4 #49

I'm so sorry. So many in the modeling and film industries are predators, as are their friends and associates. I once highplainsdem Sep 4 #39

I admire your courage so much! summer_in_TX Sep 4 #41

You are no where near alone. If we all stood up and screamed together 1WorldHope Sep 4 #42

"We've been hunted MorbidButterflyTat Sep 4 #51

I'm really sorry you went through that. róisín_dubh Sep 4 #43

We blame ourselves KT2000 Sep 4 #44

I was attacked twice - once by a date and then from a "friend." kerry-is-my-prez Sep 4 #45

So sorry that happened to you. Please forgive yourself 58Sunliner Sep 4 #46

May you find peace in this revelation. OldBaldy1701E Sep 4 #47

How hideous for you to be subjected to a predator! And now Brave for telling your story. Hugs to you, a all the women .. electric_blue68 Sep 4 #50

Horrific. greatauntoftriplets Sep 4 #52

Good on you! canetoad Sep 4 #53

You are not alone MorbidButterflyTat Sep 4 #54

I'm so sorry. chia Friday #74

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Brava! Wild blueberry Sep 4 #55

My wife is an incest survivor 70sEraVet Sep 4 #56

Thank you, thank you, thank you. JohnnyLib2 Sep 4 #57

Hugs malaise Sep 4 #58

Bless you for speaking the truth. Trueblue Texan Sep 4 #59

What happened was in NO WAY your fault, and you need to stop beating yourself up over it FakeNoose Sep 4 #61

#metoo William Gustafson Sep 4 #67

Go and tell your 19 YO self IzzaNuDay Friday #68

Proud Patriot, I'm so sorry this happened to you. BComplex Friday #70

the Epstein survivors ABSOLUTELY ARE HEROS!!! bluboid Friday #71

You are amazing. Wishing you peace and healing now ❤️ chia Friday #73

I'm sorry that happened to you. Thank you for trusting us to hear your truth today. HeartsCanHope Friday #75

I had something kind of similar happen Jilly_in_VA Friday #76

May a bit of truth offer a bit of freedom to heal a bit. Festivito Friday #77

I could have been one too. Our fear and shame saved us. Our courage healed us. Clouds Passing Friday #78

Very proud of your courage!! no_hypocrisy Friday #79

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Respect. H2O Man Saturday #85