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Buddyzbuddy

(2,930 posts)
89. Ding, ding, ding, THAT IS THE POINT!
Mon Feb 23, 2026, 02:46 PM
Feb 2026

You are so right. In general, men are taught at a very young age, me included that no might mean maybe. If you want "something" bad enough, don't give up. We learn to socialize in kindergarten.

Isn't it cute how little Billy just ran up to kiss little Becky.
Well boy, have you told her how you feel? Yes but she's still not interested. You just have to try harder.

Society needs to teach young males (all ages) to respect, above all else girls and women in regards to everything.
Not somethings, not situationally, not based on attraction or your level of horniness but always. Not special treatment but equal treatment.
Neanderthals, it's time for extinction, take the hint.

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Social Media Has Made Society Worse Than It Was ProfessorGAC Feb 2026 #1
Indeed. And we raise our men terribly. marble falls Feb 2026 #2
That reminds me of a remark soldierant Feb 2026 #189
There is a cure for all these, but no one wants to do it...UNSUBSCRIBE to ALL of it! That is the CURE! Escurumbele Feb 2026 #24
Ok By Me ProfessorGAC Feb 2026 #57
Good idea but not realistic blubunyip Feb 2026 #70
Because we let them. Because there is no credible protest against this. Because this Scrivener7 Feb 2026 #136
What about having men police themselves? How many men call out other men for their hateful comments and threats? ihaveaquestion Feb 2026 #86
You used the word "male." Is that not derogatory, yet "female" is? Doodley Feb 2026 #109
You think you scored a big point there, don't you? Scrivener7 Feb 2026 #135
Using "male" as an adjective rather than a noun is appropriate. Here's a link spooky3 Feb 2026 #143
That's your response to a call for men to be responsible? WTF!?!?! ihaveaquestion Feb 2026 #177
I doubt there are many men on this forum who disagree that there are men who are disrespectful to women, and Doodley Feb 2026 #186
Worse by orders of magnitude. SKKY Feb 2026 #179
Why anyone still uses any Zuckerberg product is beyond me. No one needs that and they're Scrivener7 Feb 2026 #3
Quit FB years ago. Never went on Instagram. Ritabert Feb 2026 #7
Same here, and I'm a 78-year-old man with a wife and sisters. Email, and DU is the extent of my online activity. usaf-vet Feb 2026 #52
Same here. Ritabert Feb 2026 #88
Stop Greg_In_SF Feb 2026 #4
Good Point ProfessorGAC Feb 2026 #5
Any forum with inadequate moderation is quickly hijacked by men and boys... hunter Feb 2026 #60
Right blubunyip Feb 2026 #73
Then, at the very least, there needs to be a movement demanding adequate moderation. Scrivener7 Feb 2026 #80
Not sure this equates. Hope22 Feb 2026 #12
Post removed Post removed Feb 2026 #14
So, basically, kudzukimchi Feb 2026 #19
Really, dude? Welcome to DU. Scrivener7 Feb 2026 #21
I just knew Greg_In_SF Feb 2026 #23
Agree Mossfern Feb 2026 #41
Well said! csusan Feb 2026 #42
She's 15. All kids are on social media. Joinfortmill Feb 2026 #31
Again, it's Greg_In_SF Feb 2026 #35
Not quite. Joinfortmill Feb 2026 #39
Umm... Greg_In_SF Feb 2026 #40
That's Boomer logic Polybius Feb 2026 #63
Yes blubunyip Feb 2026 #75
It brought back the memory of then PM Golda Meir's response when men suggested she enact a curfew for women Attilatheblond Feb 2026 #127
Similar to get the red out Feb 2026 #128
But, it seems, there are only two available options: leave the source, or demand Scrivener7 Feb 2026 #83
I'm not going to pretend to have a solution, but this is not just about social media spaces. Ilikepurple Feb 2026 #144
I'm in no way dismissive of her concerns. And I've said elsewhere in the thread Scrivener7 Feb 2026 #149
The issue is that the abuse does not stop online. The piece was a plea for change not a request for personal advice Ilikepurple Feb 2026 #161
I'm not dismissing anything. I never said anything about the banning children idea being outlandish, in fact Scrivener7 Feb 2026 #163
I'm sorry. I apologize for mixing some of your comments with another member. Ilikepurple Feb 2026 #178
Have a nice night. Scrivener7 Feb 2026 #180
Moot point, not 'mute' point GenThePerservering Mar 1 #203
Sorry, sometimes autocorrect kicks in when posting from mobile devices or a may have just mistyped Ilikepurple Mar 1 #204
Boys will stop that behaviour when they find out it is not cool, when there is no one on social media, besides Escurumbele Feb 2026 #26
Victim blaming much? You're kidding, right? Joinfortmill Feb 2026 #33
Amazing to me how the victim is always held responsible because "we all know men can't help speaking ... marble falls Feb 2026 #58
This message was self-deleted by its author blubunyip Feb 2026 #76
Please explain how the post is "victim blaming." Doodley Feb 2026 #119
Telling girls to get off social media doesn't solve the problem and it's a bit like spooky3 Feb 2026 #130
Progressive Democrats don't develop lifelong issues with self-esteem and trust Scrivener7 Feb 2026 #138
Notice that I said it's "a bit like", not "exactly like." spooky3 Feb 2026 #142
Do you see anything being done that indicates the bad behavior is being discouraged? Scrivener7 Feb 2026 #145
When I first stopped using X and started using Threads, spooky3 Feb 2026 #146
So there are places these kids could go and be safe instead of instagram. I wish they would. Scrivener7 Feb 2026 #151
Instagram is linked to Threads, but she could just ignore Instagram spooky3 Feb 2026 #155
We could just tell kids all their parents are on instagram. That'll send them running away. Scrivener7 Feb 2026 #156
LOL! Nt spooky3 Feb 2026 #158
Women once needed escorts to enter taverns leftstreet Feb 2026 #27
Right because some men can't seem to control thenselves Joinfortmill Feb 2026 #34
Paint Greg_In_SF Feb 2026 #45
"Some men" is a wide brush? Wednesdays Feb 2026 #53
As wide a brush as "stay off the internet. Problem solved!"? Torchlight Feb 2026 #61
This centurys version of homegirl Feb 2026 #103
As one man, I didn't feel the brush came very close to painting me. Ilikepurple Feb 2026 #164
Or Greg_In_SF Feb 2026 #43
Instagram isn't CAUSING her problems leftstreet Feb 2026 #79
Your interlocutor has left the thread Prairie Gates Feb 2026 #92
So what do you do to protect your fifteen year old daughter from this right now? Scrivener7 Feb 2026 #106
I don't know leftstreet Feb 2026 #114
We do have that history. But I'm not seeing the will to apply it to social media. Scrivener7 Feb 2026 #129
I'm not sure you could make a ban on using instagram stick for a 15-year-old. MineralMan Feb 2026 #123
Yes. Your response is unsatisfactory because it's amazingly naive. "Calling out" these assaults has never done anything Scrivener7 Feb 2026 #131
Doing what i can.. MineralMan Feb 2026 #139
"the problem is undisciplined girls" blubunyip Feb 2026 #81
What do you suggest? Imagine you're this fifteen year old's mother. What do you do? Scrivener7 Feb 2026 #105
Come together with other mothers, fathers, daughters AND sons blubunyip Feb 2026 #116
I totally agree. There should be a major protest against this. But there isn't. I can't fathom why. But there isn't. Scrivener7 Feb 2026 #132
This isn't a woman. This is a child. And she is being abused. I'd forbid instagram in a heartbeat. Scrivener7 Feb 2026 #111
Well yes! leftstreet Feb 2026 #117
Absolutely. We only get better products when we demand better products. And sometimes Scrivener7 Feb 2026 #133
Stop johnp3907 Feb 2026 #108
She's not a woman. She's a child. And she's being abused. What would you do to stop that Scrivener7 Feb 2026 #112
Social media is a pretty damn big neighborhood Quiet Em Feb 2026 #122
iI's not just a matter of social media.. whathehell Feb 2026 #166
These repulsive little worms... GiqueCee Feb 2026 #6
"Suppose social media platforms required them to use their REAL names, and not some made-up handle." MichMan Feb 2026 #55
If women used their names they'd be seriously shit-stormed and doxxed. marble falls Feb 2026 #59
Good point... GiqueCee Feb 2026 #95
No... GiqueCee Feb 2026 #85
Sounds really serious Torchlight Feb 2026 #93
The military has always used 'girl'as a means of humilating men. milestogo Feb 2026 #8
Today's bright moment of clarity -- right here. Duncan Grant Feb 2026 #102
The juvenile males who own and run social media are intentionally responsible for this. Clouds Passing Feb 2026 #9
Let's not forget how Zuckerberg got his start. llmart Feb 2026 #13
He's a creepster Clouds Passing Feb 2026 #16
I don't think Zuck ever had a GF..... SergeStorms Feb 2026 #38
From Wiki... llmart Feb 2026 #66
Wow. SergeStorms Feb 2026 #152
You use the word "males," but female is an insult? Please explain. Doodley Feb 2026 #113
I didn't say or imply that female is an insult Clouds Passing Feb 2026 #159
Dehumanizing hatred at such a young age seems difficult to avoid in the 21 century Torchlight Feb 2026 #10
Yes, exactly. MineralMan Feb 2026 #22
Yes. It's victim blaming n/t Just_Vote_Dem Feb 2026 #49
But don't. Scrivener7 Feb 2026 #78
That is true in many, many cases. MineralMan Feb 2026 #90
Women, myself included, have spent lifetimes doing that. And yet here we are. Scrivener7 Feb 2026 #91
OK, but I'll continue to call out sexism and misogyny when I encounter it. MineralMan Feb 2026 #96
We all do that. You are not unique in that. It doesn't change anything about the abuse this child is facing. Scrivener7 Feb 2026 #98
And after all these years of doing it Bettie Feb 2026 #99
I just said the same downthread. I think we're all feeling that. Scrivener7 Feb 2026 #100
+1 leftstreet Feb 2026 #25
My sentiments exactly Mossfern Feb 2026 #48
Telling people to avoid social media is as absurd Torchlight Feb 2026 #50
Imagine she is your child. Are you going to feel like the solution is to wait until the culture Scrivener7 Feb 2026 #97
I share your concern about keeping youth safe from harmful online content. Torchlight Feb 2026 #101
I totally agree. But in the meantime, my kid would not be allowed to go near it. Scrivener7 Feb 2026 #104
My heart goes out to the girls and young women. Hope22 Feb 2026 #11
Even nice men often see it as a "woman's problem" blubunyip Feb 2026 #84
Are you saying no men joined in the fight to protect Roe V. Wade? Doodley Feb 2026 #121
Please..... Hope22 Feb 2026 #137
Do you think tens of millions of Democratic men don't stand up for women's rights? Come on! Please! Doodley Feb 2026 #141
I'm semi retired now. WinstonSmith4740 Feb 2026 #15
Did you also have the same restriction to the usage of "males" MichMan Feb 2026 #56
Absolutely!! WinstonSmith4740 Feb 2026 #82
So we should all be banned from using the words male and female except for the animal kingdom? Are you kidding? Doodley Feb 2026 #118
No... WinstonSmith4740 Mar 1 #202
...... Diamond_Dog Feb 2026 #17
Amen Joinfortmill Feb 2026 #36
Please! I am a man who respects women. Every Thanksgiving dinner I make a speech that I want to see more women Doodley Feb 2026 #120
That's great. Quiet Em Feb 2026 #124
It says "men," not some men, not certain men, not a small percentage of men, but "men." Doodley Feb 2026 #125
She did not say all men either. Quiet Em Feb 2026 #134
Please! If I said "women are a problem," does that sound okay to you? I don't think that is acceptable. Doodley Feb 2026 #140
Let's stay in the context of the topic and discussion on this thread Quiet Em Feb 2026 #150
She isn't a "young girl." She's 15. Doodley Feb 2026 #157
She's 15. She is a girl, sir. Quiet Em Feb 2026 #160
She isn't a young girl. She takes offense at "female," so at least, let's not call her a "young girl." Doodley Feb 2026 #184
I have no idea what you are talking about. Quiet Em Feb 2026 #188
Yawn. The not-all-men argument---like we haven't heard that before. CrispyQ Feb 2026 #181
If I said "women are the problem," would you say that was acceptable? I would not ever say that as it is offensive and Doodley Feb 2026 #185
I didn't feel tarred. I'm not sure why you think this is about you. Ilikepurple Feb 2026 #175
Do you know what my race is? Where I was born? If I have a disability? What my religion is? No. Please don't stereotype Doodley Feb 2026 #187
I'm not sure I spoke to any of those things other than mentioning marginalization. Ilikepurple Feb 2026 #191
I don't have Instagram and have never used it but I have had Facebook Bev54 Feb 2026 #18
With very few exceptions, "Social" media are pure poison. usonian Feb 2026 #20
DU is my only social media... BigmanPigman Feb 2026 #28
This is horrifying. What kind of men are we raising? Joinfortmill Feb 2026 #29
Trump acolytes. Wednesdays Feb 2026 #51
The same ones we have always raised. 1WorldHope Feb 2026 #74
Ding, ding, ding, THAT IS THE POINT! Buddyzbuddy Feb 2026 #89
It makes me think of a book I read FullySupportDems Feb 2026 #30
That was my 2nd Tepper novel. CrispyQ Feb 2026 #182
Oh yes, I forgot about Grass! 😊 FullySupportDems Feb 2026 #201
I was called a "cuck" yesterday on X by a woman defending Tuckers Mosby Feb 2026 #32
Wracking my puny "female brain" xuplate Feb 2026 #37
I completely understand why many women may want to have little to do with men. Sometimes it seems like men are a blight Fil1957 Feb 2026 #44
I get that entirely. I do not crowd women or children because I don't want to cause them fear that I am one ... marble falls Feb 2026 #69
I don't think I've ever seen you stray even into the neighborhood of mansplaining. Scrivener7 Feb 2026 #154
My mistake was thinking providing background was a "service". I've had to learn to wait to be asked for ... marble falls Feb 2026 #198
I have to say, the people here have taught me a lot too. I hadn't heard that three responses and out advice. I'm going Scrivener7 Feb 2026 #199
Skinner had good advice, too. When we on MIRT were getting too serious about how and why, he suggested ... marble falls Feb 2026 #200
Social media is a great source of people, families to keep in touch. It's beautiful. BUT bluestarone Feb 2026 #46
Women Keep A Body Count???? Coolgoober Feb 2026 #47
Incels think this about women, and they're pissed because they aren't getting in on anyone's count at all. marble falls Feb 2026 #67
Facebook is cancer JoseBalow Feb 2026 #54
Thank you for sharing. Martin68 Feb 2026 #62
Even my husband gets the Proverbial Pissed Off when he hears how some men think of females. chouchou Feb 2026 #64
Boys jump at that shit in a nanosecond GenThePerservering Feb 2026 #65
Parents need to teach their boys Bettie Feb 2026 #68
We can't fix this online. It starts at home and in school. marble falls Feb 2026 #72
That's true Bettie Feb 2026 #87
But that means this fifteen year old has to endure this until the culture changes. Scrivener7 Feb 2026 #94
The kids need better tools GenThePerservering Feb 2026 #107
I'm speaking as someone whose only social media is DU, so I understand that I am Scrivener7 Feb 2026 #110
You're fighting the good fight here Sympthsical Feb 2026 #162
I wonder if people who grew up with this will be more careful with their own children. Scrivener7 Feb 2026 #165
The parents my age are much more aware of it Sympthsical Feb 2026 #169
I LOVE that idea of a flip phone for school! And I love to hear there is more healthy fear of this shit. Scrivener7 Feb 2026 #171
Absolutely, but problems will beget problems Sympthsical Feb 2026 #172
This is just the beginning. AI will do the rest. Scrivener7 Feb 2026 #173
The parents of your niece did the right thing. Quiet Em Feb 2026 #167
It's in the frigging algorithms. This is how Zuckerberg makes his money. Scrivener7 Feb 2026 #168
AI and filters aren't going to make it any better Sympthsical Feb 2026 #174
This message was self-deleted by its author jfz9580m Feb 2026 #71
I'll be watching for those posts about your epiphanies. It sounds interesting. Scrivener7 Feb 2026 #170
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This message was self-deleted by its author jfz9580m Feb 2026 #193
My head is spinning a bit from this. I agree with you that the ones doing the work seem to be the ones who Scrivener7 Feb 2026 #195
And god forgive an action movie features a woman or person of color..only a white male can save the world BlueWaveNeverEnd Feb 2026 #77
Instagram and Facebook MorbidButterflyTat Feb 2026 #115
Screw social media popsdenver Feb 2026 #126
Easy to see why we've had no female presidents stollen Feb 2026 #147
I talked my daughter out of the Annapolis, her ex-husband is an Air Force Academy graduate, who was ... marble falls Feb 2026 #197
This message was self-deleted by its author Mosby Feb 2026 #148
OMG MorbidButterflyTat Feb 2026 #153
What's so funny? marble falls Feb 2026 #196
The beauty of posts like this drmeow Feb 2026 #176
Sad to see. REALLY sad to see! calimary Feb 2026 #183
Read a fascinating diagnosis of the problem. summer_in_TX Feb 2026 #190
I don't understand this maxrandb Feb 2026 #194
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