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75. My 90 yr old mom has dementia, dad passed 2 yrs ago

Tue Apr 21, 2026, 10:50 PM

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only me and my sister to care for her. I am 72, raised my son and have no energy to care for her. Any other care is simply unaffordable and just no words for necessary elder care.

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*Warning: Rage Inducing* Older Americans Are Hoarding America's Potential [View all] Coventina Yesterday OP

I am so fucking sick of this ageism. travelingthrulife Yesterday #1

They don't show up in elections DenaliDemocrat 12 hrs ago #95

Exactly what I was thinking Farmer-Rick 9 hrs ago #120

I don't know how many younger people I've heard say "I don't vote" Walleye 8 hrs ago #129

I am as well PatSeg 7 hrs ago #131

New York Times hots another one out of the johnnyfins Yesterday #2

WOW okay.... Why not start at FalloutShelter Yesterday #3

I'm an old guy and I am certainly hoarding everything on my SS retirement income...wowza! wcmagumba Yesterday #4

Yes- I expect that message is a prelude to asking older people to work longer before retirement Redleg Yesterday #5

But then they're hoarding jobs from deserving younger people! Disclosure- I'm working full-time at 77. NBachers Yesterday #22

Beat 'em to it. boonecreek Yesterday #53

I was working at 70 BonnieJW 10 hrs ago #112

With age comes wisdom. pwb Yesterday #6

Actually, he is in his 50's. niyad Yesterday #16

Damn kid. paleotn Yesterday #30

This is true. I have a couple of vintage pieces that are older than he is! niyad Yesterday #34

My Canon AE1 for starters BidenRocks 17 hrs ago #83

Good pieces. You should share a pic of the jacket. niyad 13 hrs ago #88

EBay that Jacket. Ask a completely unreasonable price for it. You might get lucky. Lochloosa 12 hrs ago #94

Good Lord...... SergeStorms 12 hrs ago #96

I have an old Argus that my older brother used to take photos while on Delta Station in North Atlantic in 1961 Attilatheblond 10 hrs ago #107

Hey, I have 2 AE1s and a Pentax but my turntable is a different brand. fargone 9 hrs ago #121

I actually do still have ... oldsoldierfadingfast 8 hrs ago #125

"Overprivileged," my wrinkled old ass! Ocelot II Yesterday #7

I hear you. I can no longer afford to have a pet NoSheep Yesterday #14

Oh dear, I wonder if Ocelot has become one of those retirees who...... FadedMullet Yesterday #25

I'm not eating cat food, but my cats are. Gotta keep them fed! Ocelot II Yesterday #43

The same here. GoCubsGo Yesterday #63

What was the age at which Logan had to run? dickthegrouch Yesterday #8

It was 30 in the movie FoxNewsSucks Yesterday #10

The Epstein Class is coming for everything Johnny2X2X Yesterday #9

We could solve this problem by allowing the construction of new small homes... hunter 7 hrs ago #136

I think it's more complicated than home ownership Johnny2X2X 6 hrs ago #138

I graduated from college without any student loans. hunter 2 hrs ago #140

Probably a safe bet to say there are selfish, greedy, narcissistic assholes in every "defined generation." Smokster Yesterday #11

+1 leftstreet Yesterday #15

You're right 👍 MustLoveBeagles Yesterday #17

And that is what it is--the politics of division. valleyrogue Yesterday #71

To The Whippersnapper Author: 🖕🖕🖕🖕🖕🖕🖕🖕🖕🖕 ColoringFool Yesterday #12

Consumerism fueled by the web has made them think everything must be lush and shiny and abundant NoSheep Yesterday #13

Well.....for the Epstein class it does. SergeStorms 12 hrs ago #97

The average age of the first time homebuyer *now* is about 40. 50 years ago, it was much lower. WhiskeyGrinder Yesterday #20

If my wife and I hadn't gotten married and stayed in the relationship for 20 years (plus), Igel Yesterday #65

Other things to consider about that statistic. llmart 14 hrs ago #85

The average age of the first time homebuyer is 40. The median age of homebuyers (any home -- first time, upgrade, WhiskeyGrinder 14 hrs ago #86

This ageist asshole is 54, a law professor at Yale, clearly not hurting. niyad Yesterday #32

So he's protecting his entitlement.... SergeStorms 12 hrs ago #98

A lot of people have this attitude, not just the very young MustLoveBeagles Yesterday #18

I mean, he's publishing this to promote his book, but...some of his points aren't wrong. WhiskeyGrinder Yesterday #19

What fresh shit is this? I'm sick of it... in the press... on the editorial pages... and "online" in certain places too. QueerDuck Yesterday #21

Boomers have no say in our birth. SleeplessinSoCal Yesterday #23

They can take my HARD EARNED money OnionPatch Yesterday #24

Maybe old conservatives are enabling the problem IronLionZion Yesterday #26

I've been seeing this trope pop up on other social media periodically, especially before elections jmbar2 Yesterday #27

While it is true that we older folks are 'over-represented' in the election process calguy Yesterday #28

This one really caught my eye, too, calguy! slightlv Yesterday #56

Yeah that's lame jfz9580m Yesterday #29

This message was self-deleted by its author Figarosmom Yesterday #31

Over represented in elections. Old Crank Yesterday #33

I'm Old bluestateboomer Yesterday #35

The American Dream and The Nuclear Family... BurnDoubt Yesterday #36

;-{) Samuel Moyn Kent Professor of Law and History Goonch Yesterday #37

Uh.... MorbidButterflyTat 23 hrs ago #74

Just another way to divide us. Buddyzbuddy Yesterday #38

Exactly, Big Blue Marble Yesterday #44

I bet it is a strategy to divert wealth away from inheritances and into developers & private equity lostnfound 8 hrs ago #122

Yeah, it sounded like preconditioning: "Don't be selfish when we cut those SS benefits." William Seger Yesterday #47

Exactly PatSeg 7 hrs ago #133

The older generation worked hard, saved their money, put kids thru school and they can't enjoy life? Deuxcents Yesterday #39

First senior to give up wealth and housing should be wnylib Yesterday #40

Trying to get youth worked up to vote for those who Ilsa Yesterday #41

;-{) Senicide - Abandoning Old People on Ice Floes Goonch Yesterday #42

This message was self-deleted by its author Skittles Yesterday #45

I'm a boomer... GiqueCee Yesterday #46

Very well said, if I hear one more person say "both sides do it" I'm gonna scream Walleye 8 hrs ago #127

Looks like we have another cultural group to start blaming...... Chakaconcarne Yesterday #48

Thank you! mcar Yesterday #49

Shameless parasitic Yimby trash from the predictably awful NYT jfz9580m Yesterday #50

I'm with you. But I do think we need term limits.. Joinfortmill Yesterday #51

I just wish they woud pass the baton already Skittles Yesterday #57

Repeat after me: EVERY BILLIONAIRE IS A POLICY FAILURE! EarthFirst Yesterday #52

I know I'm privileged, and I am very torqued at the condition of a large part of younger generations. Susan Calvin Yesterday #54

As an oldster myself, I paid into the system for decades COL Mustard Yesterday #55

This shit has gone on with every generation for as long as this country existed. GoCubsGo Yesterday #58

I DO give up my "accumulated wealth". Every time I buy something. Callie1979 Yesterday #59

That is one of the dumbest takes I've ever seen Takket Yesterday #60

Samuel Moyn is Full. Of. Shit. DinahMoeHum Yesterday #61

No quarter was ever asked for. OC375 Yesterday #62

Yeah we're a pox on civilization snowybirdie Yesterday #64

Yeah, I'll need more than a little incentive to give away my house. Qutzupalotl Yesterday #66

Unrepented Boomer PCB66 Yesterday #67

Yes, do enjoy it, you really have earned it Walleye 8 hrs ago #128

Recommended. H2O Man Yesterday #68

Anybody got this article out from behind the paywall? I get "You've been blocked by the NYTimes because sinkingfeeling Yesterday #69

We don't owe these ageist people one thing. valleyrogue Yesterday #70

Truth -- blubunyip 9 hrs ago #117

Screw this! csusan Yesterday #72

It was a guest writer's opinion piece. Locutusofborg 23 hrs ago #73

This one person is a law professor, has opinon pieces several places, niyad 22 hrs ago #77

I doubt responding to opinion with opinion is an overreaction Torchlight 10 hrs ago #108

My 90 yr old mom has dementia, dad passed 2 yrs ago vapor2 22 hrs ago #75

They took away our pensions so we had to save our own hard earned money for retirement DBoon 22 hrs ago #76

Don't most of the employers PCB66 13 hrs ago #93

In a word: No GenThePerservering 7 hrs ago #132

To The Author, Pt. 2: The "Hoarding" Is Not Generational; It Is Political..... ColoringFool 21 hrs ago #78

Yes Coventina, it is rage inducing canetoad 21 hrs ago #79

Gaslighting and scapegoating. 58Sunliner 21 hrs ago #80

The latest Harper's has "How Seniors Became America's Ruling Class" gulliver 20 hrs ago #81

If you control a billion dollars, you are a truly pathological hoarder. 100 billion, and you're a walking crime against eppur_se_muova 17 hrs ago #82

Author probably cheers when villagers have to jump off a cliff when they turn 72 years old in the movie "Midsommar." betsuni 17 hrs ago #84

NYTimes publishes a lot of dumb shit LymphocyteLover 13 hrs ago #87

Another deflection first it was DEI now it's age .... everything but Republicans failure live love laugh 13 hrs ago #89

Well, coming from a generation that seldom leaves their basement... OldBaldy1701E 13 hrs ago #90

The pus on the boil was Covid... Hope22 13 hrs ago #91

I see a lot of this on reddit. Woodwizard 13 hrs ago #92

This is one of the pervasive myths. malthaussen 11 hrs ago #99

Get off my loan! Xipe Totec 11 hrs ago #100

Over-represented in elections? C_U_L8R 11 hrs ago #101

Funny those complaining are they contributing to the campaigns Historic NY 11 hrs ago #102

More division by the B-class. That's the only math they know how to use. Clouds Passing 11 hrs ago #103

Who the hell wrote this? I can't tell because of the paywall. blue-wave 11 hrs ago #104

They want to cut Social Security & Medicare to give more of that $ to younger generations CousinIT 9 hrs ago #113

Driving people out of their homes into condos or assisted living, transferring equity into greedy hands lostnfound 9 hrs ago #118

You really think they blue-wave 1 hr ago #141

The nonsense of age-bait has been gaining steam the past few cycles Torchlight 11 hrs ago #105

It's coming from the right-wing. It's systematically being pushed. CousinIT 9 hrs ago #114

This is some bat-shit right-wing extremist crap I read about last week. CousinIT 11 hrs ago #106

New York Times popsdenver 10 hrs ago #109

happens with every generation. cab67 10 hrs ago #110

THANK YOU! 50 Shades Of Blue 10 hrs ago #111

Suspecting there's been a concerted plan to systematically rob boomers/genx lostnfound 9 hrs ago #115

Exactly, but it's really pitting generations against each (along with income, race etc) to deflect from who is themaguffin 9 hrs ago #116

Seniors bromeando 9 hrs ago #119

I'm guessing the yellow and blue pieces of the pie are beiing ignored (that's off limits to us)... C Moon 8 hrs ago #123

I wonder who Moyn thinks is going to buy his new book about the bad olds. betsuni 8 hrs ago #124

Do they want cheese with that whine? Walleye 8 hrs ago #126

I know that some people would call me wealthy...and, on a global scale, I'm rich AF. BobTheSubgenius 8 hrs ago #130

This where David Hogg's... Snackshack 7 hrs ago #134

As A Senior ... mntleo2 7 hrs ago #135

Nah. He's right! 3825-87867 6 hrs ago #137

Link to the CRFB* Six Figure Limit Proposal jxla 5 hrs ago #139