General Discussion

I guess perspective is everything. I'm a black woman married to a white man. Maybe, fewer black women take them up on their offers.

I'm assuming you're thinking along the lines of..."man go get woman". (insert appropriate caveman grunt). But, from my perspective, I didn't say yes to the first man that asked me to marry him.

There was a lot of pressure on me NOT to marry my husband from family and friends. When my uncle and his wife, who happened to be white married, he got teased, but no real pressure about marrying the "plantation owner". I've one aunt and one uncle who are still unhappy with me, and I've been married almost 20 years. Many of my male friends simply wouldn't give a care what their family thought.

I'm sure everyone's perspective is different. And, I've heard big talk from white males not finding black women attractive for various reasons. But...often, I've found it's from men, who few women from any background would want, anyway...so I'm grateful.

I assume culture and gender roles in society play a large role.