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Stellar

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114. Close to the truth, but not the whole truth...

Tue Feb 17, 2015, 08:55 AM

Feb 2015

It's not that they don't find white guys attractive, they do. But most prefer a BMW. Black women are always more interested in a BMW. And as a black woman...that was all I've ever heard being talked about.

But as another poster pointed out, a white woman will go looking for a black man most of the time. I raised both of my sons in a predominately black middle class neighborhood, and they met both women near where we lived - two to three years apart. One son is now happily married to her, and I have two lovely grandsons.

But then, I've also heard that white guys don't find black women attractive but I've met a lot of flirty white guys in my life. However, I never gave it a try at the time because I was young and only looking for a BMW.

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Why do so many more black men marry white women than vice versa? [View all] Donald Ian Rankin Feb 2015 OP

. wyldwolf Feb 2015 #1

Me too Duckhunter935 Feb 2015 #3

lol, no comment. I'm sure you have heard some things in life to answer this question though. dissentient Feb 2015 #2

Various, none of which I find terribly persuasive. Donald Ian Rankin Feb 2015 #5

I don't understand why your question was considered to be radioactive by many here. politicaljunkie41910 Feb 2015 #108

Classic Long Drive Feb 2015 #110

Your (excellent!) post makes me think that maybe men choose women who tblue37 Feb 2015 #121

Great read ProudToBeBlueInRhody Feb 2015 #126

Nice post... shaayecanaan Feb 2015 #170

"I very much enjoy discussing these sort of issues with African Americans" Number23 Feb 2015 #172

I'm glad you feel equipped to speak for them (nt) shaayecanaan Feb 2015 #186

No, but considering that you openly and loudly declared downthread that the "history and culture" of Number23 Feb 2015 #192

I did? shaayecanaan Feb 2015 #194

And your cluelessness dripping with patronizing paternalism must make for excellent Number23 Feb 2015 #195

Some presumptions on your part, then shaayecanaan Feb 2015 #199

"My guess is if both of us were randomly airdropped into Africa an hour later I would be selling Number23 Feb 2015 #207

Well, admittedly English is not my first language... shaayecanaan Feb 2015 #209

"That" is as superfluous to that sentence as your contribution has been to this topic. Number23 Feb 2015 #210

Let Black people speak for themselves? Sheldon Cooper Feb 2015 #196

My bad shaayecanaan Feb 2015 #197

Yes, I read the comment she referenced. Sheldon Cooper Feb 2015 #198

That is magnificent shaayecanaan Feb 2015 #200

How about a Simpsons pic? Sheldon Cooper Feb 2015 #201

That's perfect shaayecanaan Feb 2015 #202

spew!! Number23 Feb 2015 #208

re shaayecanaan Feb 2015 #211

"and yet, here we all are." Number23 Feb 2015 #212

well, the yahoo comments section probably gets a lot more eyeballs than here shaayecanaan Feb 2015 #213

Lord knows, I've heard things that could answer that question over the years! Number23 Feb 2015 #13

Boom. aikoaiko Feb 2015 #4

lol dissentient Feb 2015 #6

because they want to? CatWoman Feb 2015 #7

more black men marry white women than white women marry black men? uppityperson Feb 2015 #8

I know more of #2 hollowdweller Feb 2015 #14

That would be my understanding of the "vice versa" part of it, yes. Iggo Feb 2015 #29

Black women less often find white men attractive? treestar Feb 2015 #9

Truth JustAnotherGen Feb 2015 #38

Chris Rock has a funny routine on that subject. arcane1 Feb 2015 #79

Yep, hard to know if he believes what he was saying or if it's all a joke stevenleser Feb 2015 #98

Agreed. It certainly changed over time for me. After being raised by television... arcane1 Feb 2015 #99

what a happy place to be! Iris Feb 2015 #104

Close to the truth, but not the whole truth... Stellar Feb 2015 #114

A black girl I used to work with told me.. AgingAmerican Feb 2015 #137

****jury duty avoidance post**** ScreamingMeemie Feb 2015 #10

Smart! I'll jump on your bandwagon Brother Buzz Feb 2015 #26

Isn't there an option to decline to serve when called for jury duty? (nt) Nye Bevan Feb 2015 #40

There is, but why be called at all? (nt) ScreamingMeemie Feb 2015 #41

Not only is this such a bizarre question that I have no idea why it was posted, but I TRULY cannot Number23 Feb 2015 #11

Out of curiosity, why do you think that would be an inappropriate question? LittleBlue Feb 2015 #69

I stated quite clearly why I think it's stupid to ask these questions here. Number23 Feb 2015 #71

I truly think some here don't know this. NCTraveler Feb 2015 #127

+100 ND-Dem Feb 2015 #75

Really? Why is it bizarre? Arugula Latte Feb 2015 #134

Because DU does not and never has done race issues well. And it probably never will Number23 Feb 2015 #158

I guess I think that racial issues can be talked about, and even offensive stereotypes talked about, Arugula Latte Feb 2015 #190

Well, obviously we differ on that. Particularly as I find that alot of people doing the offensive Number23 Feb 2015 #193

Likely because so many Asians are middle-class KamaAina Feb 2015 #143

That's probably true but it doesn't explain the gender difference. Jim Lane Feb 2015 #147

Black women are not considered as attractive than white women. AngryAmish Feb 2015 #12

And right here, perhaps this is the reason behind this weird, out of the blue OP? Number23 Feb 2015 #15

That's wild as hell. hollowdweller Feb 2015 #17

I dated two black women on OK Cupid, both were very attractive. dilby Feb 2015 #44

Stop! JustAnotherGen Feb 2015 #81

Pretty awesome. n/t dilby Feb 2015 #84

this is bs. for this to be true you would need to show that they are being rejected JI7 Feb 2015 #52

Whatever. I'm white as they come and think there are many beautiful black women out there ProudToBeBlueInRhody Feb 2015 #128

I'm with you on that. AngryAmish Feb 2015 #129

Hmm... onpatrol98 Feb 2015 #16

Heyyyy!!! Number23 Feb 2015 #21

Hey!!!! onpatrol98 Feb 2015 #46

Nope, nothing has changed here. Not one damn thing. Number23 Feb 2015 #54

Nothing has changed here JustAnotherGen Feb 2015 #102

you could ask:why do more white women marry black men than white men Liberal_in_LA Feb 2015 #18

+1 leftstreet Feb 2015 #22

And that is the way question should be asked. nt kelliekat44 Feb 2015 #27

There's always an undertone of disapproval to it. Like white women are "supposed" to be with white nomorenomore08 Feb 2015 #176

I am a light skinned black women who married a white man 25+ years!!! kimbutgar Feb 2015 #19

I'm a black woman married to a white man too. My husband is the first white man I ever gave a second Number23 Feb 2015 #28

Agreed JustAnotherGen Feb 2015 #43

Girl, love is love. I'm glad that I finally grew up and recognized that for myself. Number23 Feb 2015 #49

You know JustAnotherGen Feb 2015 #56

Any man who says he doesn't find black women attractive Egnever Feb 2015 #57

I think you're right about that, Eggy Number23 Feb 2015 #60

The idea you need to try seems a bit much as well Egnever Feb 2015 #66

Yep. nt d_r Feb 2015 #88

+1000. A while back, someone showed me a Mark Twain quote: LittleBlue Feb 2015 #111

It's funny. My son complains about being so white. Arugula Latte Feb 2015 #133

I know the feeling! LittleBlue Feb 2015 #136

This is you: Arugula Latte Feb 2015 #138

Oh dear LittleBlue Feb 2015 #139

Aww, sorry. Arugula Latte Feb 2015 #140

I respectfully disagree pipi_k Feb 2015 #171

even worse...back hair onpatrol98 Feb 2015 #179

If he's all that pipi_k Feb 2015 #187

... cwydro Feb 2015 #59

Difference is whatever you make of it... I am white as hell JCMach1 Feb 2015 #65

What does 'light-skin black woman' have to do with marrying a white guy. Stellar Feb 2015 #116

I was wondering the same thing. Why mention that? nt benz380 Feb 2015 #144

I suggest you do a door-to-door survey Hekate Feb 2015 #20

Lol! kwassa Feb 2015 #67

You rock! JustAnotherGen Feb 2015 #87

Oohhh onpatrol98 Feb 2015 #180

I don't see anything wrong with this thread. I've thought about the same thing once in awhile. BlueJazz Feb 2015 #23

As Robert Preston so trenchantly asked in Blake Edwards' S.O.B. hifiguy Feb 2015 #24

Yep, it's a mystery. bemildred Feb 2015 #25

I never noticed safeinOhio Feb 2015 #30

Why does it matter to you? still_one Feb 2015 #31

And I'm a gay white woman cwydro Feb 2015 #32

It may just simply be circumstantial or social exposure. Glassunion Feb 2015 #33

Because black men - white women are more socio-economically paralleled than Lex Feb 2015 #34

So black men marry down? JustAnotherGen Feb 2015 #45

What? Lex Feb 2015 #48

Not really - its why the terminology White Trash irks me JustAnotherGen Feb 2015 #62

+1 uponit7771 Feb 2015 #185

My best guess is that there are social norms that play a large part mythology Feb 2015 #35

A good bit of this seems to be a historical coincidence than anything, TBH. AverageJoe90 Feb 2015 #36

Who cares? MYOB. Thor_MN Feb 2015 #37

it all has to do with how likely one is to come across JI7 Feb 2015 #39

I dunno. But can we toss in pit bulls for even more "fun"? WorseBeforeBetter Feb 2015 #42

where's the Olive Garden gift card? n/t ProdigalJunkMail Feb 2015 #47

The Never-Ending Pasta Pass? WorseBeforeBetter Feb 2015 #53

And isn't she supposed to be breast-feeding? n/t eridani Feb 2015 #120

the dogs??? n/t ProdigalJunkMail Feb 2015 #125

The kid!!! Duh. n/t eridani Feb 2015 #154

Thread winner! Scuba Feb 2015 #50

Only if you're hoodless! (n/t) WorseBeforeBetter Feb 2015 #55

you know, I've never been to an Olive Garden. notadmblnd Feb 2015 #96

Yes, you're missing bad Italian food and poorly paid wait staff. Scuba Feb 2015 #103

Aww... Such a cute picture! nomorenomore08 Feb 2015 #183

We need science to settle it! WhaTHellsgoingonhere Feb 2015 #51

So this is what keeps you up at night, good to know. Rex Feb 2015 #58

1 members have recommended this thread (displayed in chronological order): AverageJoe90 LeftyMom Feb 2015 #61

Does the topic bother you? I approach the question the same as a Physics... BlueJazz Feb 2015 #74

I see a lot of people who are chomping at the bit to make offensive comments about race and gender. LeftyMom Feb 2015 #76

I noticed it too! JustAnotherGen Feb 2015 #90

Yeah, you may have a point. BlueJazz Feb 2015 #92

They all have a story about the betsuni Feb 2015 #109

And I see a lot of people who aren't and are telling some great stories about their life.... ProudToBeBlueInRhody Feb 2015 #130

Well that member was on two time outs, both happened because of his posts about African Americans CreekDog Feb 2015 #148

Many black men have adopted western beauty standards LittleBlue Feb 2015 #63

no. this is not true of many black men JI7 Feb 2015 #68

Read up on it LittleBlue Feb 2015 #72

I've never experienced that JustAnotherGen Feb 2015 #77

Yes, I've heard that LittleBlue Feb 2015 #80

In a totally integrated society treestar Feb 2015 #156

Well there is a finite number of Women in the United States. dilby Feb 2015 #64

I believe that this point was addressed in Blazing Saddles. Orrex Feb 2015 #119

The white wife/ black husband thing is new because historically the dominant society didn't want to craigmatic Feb 2015 #70

I don't know. I am a white man married to a black woman. kwassa Feb 2015 #73

Thank you for weighing in JustAnotherGen Feb 2015 #85

The world of relationships is dynamic, not static. There are more multicultural/ interracial .. kwassa Feb 2015 #91

Good points! JustAnotherGen Feb 2015 #95

I was standing in line at a bank in Los Angeles ... kwassa Feb 2015 #101

I have two African American cousin in laws, both African American women. DemocratSinceBirth Feb 2015 #78

The answer is simple. Men are from Mars and women are from Venus. MohRokTah Feb 2015 #82

There once was a man from Venus, who had a very large... AngryAmish Feb 2015 #107

none of my business. really. spanone Feb 2015 #83

Kick and Rec. Great question, framed ably and without malice. Anansi1171 Feb 2015 #86

"Popular fetish?" Blue_Tires Feb 2015 #157

Au Contraire! Not at all... Anansi1171 Feb 2015 #203

We got 12" of snow in my neck of the woods today. EOT Ykcutnek Feb 2015 #89

Neat! Glassunion Feb 2015 #94

I'm sorry you feel stressed about this. bravenak Feb 2015 #93

You won the thread JustAnotherGen Feb 2015 #100

I smell gefilte fish frying. nt msanthrope Feb 2015 #152

You couldn't answer a question like that JonLP24 Feb 2015 #97

Perhaps black women do not find white men attractive to the same extent kelly1mm Feb 2015 #105

Simple answer Depaysement Feb 2015 #106

Its quite a disparity in Britain shaayecanaan Feb 2015 #112

My theory on Asian women treestar Feb 2015 #115

I don't know that Asian American men are more sexist than the norm... shaayecanaan Feb 2015 #159

It's all stereotype, agreed treestar Feb 2015 #161

Well, you don't see as many mail-order grooms as mail-order brides shaayecanaan Feb 2015 #169

I suspect some of the much higher rates of Asian wives vs husbands Lee-Lee Feb 2015 #113

Drop in the bucket demographically AngryAmish Feb 2015 #165

What race-baiting bullshit tenderfoot Feb 2015 #117

Vice versa? As opposed to white women marrying black men? Orrex Feb 2015 #118

Interesting question. Captain Stern Feb 2015 #122

Because taboos aren't all abandoned on the same timeline in all locales. n/t Orsino Feb 2015 #123

Response to all those asking "Why do you care" or disparaging the question Jim Lane Feb 2015 #124

It's a sensitive topic ismnotwasm Feb 2015 #135

That's precisely my point. Jim Lane Feb 2015 #145

It's a hit and run OP ismnotwasm Feb 2015 #150

Yes, it could have been phrased a little better. Jim Lane Feb 2015 #151

Sure they should. People point out any race-baiting OP if they want. Hissyspit Feb 2015 #166

Dammit ismnotwasm Feb 2015 #177

Thank you for addressing this pipi_k Feb 2015 #146

I'm just saying Blue_Tires Feb 2015 #155

"If the OP is truly curious, then DU isn't the place to ask" Number23 Feb 2015 #160

Thanks for the citations Jim Lane Feb 2015 #167

I just pulled the first links I could find... Blue_Tires Feb 2015 #175

So how come pipi_k Feb 2015 #173

I thought Skinner put a permanent end to the "medical advice" threads ages ago? Blue_Tires Feb 2015 #174

Personal advice is different from general expertise Jim Lane Feb 2015 #181

I'm going to disagree that pipi_k Feb 2015 #189

People still manage pipi_k Feb 2015 #188

The OP posted and RAN! Get it? nt Logical Feb 2015 #164

Maybe you're looking at it wrong ismnotwasm Feb 2015 #131

+1 nomorenomore08 Feb 2015 #184

One probable hypothesis: status symbol Yorktown Feb 2015 #132

^^^^^^^^^^^^Stereotype alert Blue_Tires Feb 2015 #141

This is by no means the only stereotype in this thread, completely with castigations of "Americans" Number23 Feb 2015 #162

And what in fuck's name does it matter to you? Blue_Tires Feb 2015 #142

it is always good to pay attention snooper2 Feb 2015 #149

Driver was on some Peter Griffin business right there. eom Jamaal510 Feb 2015 #178

I'm white,.... and prefer brunette women to Blond. NM_Birder Feb 2015 #153

Nice hit and run away post! nt Logical Feb 2015 #163

I had a long-term relationship with a black woman Sen. Walter Sobchak Feb 2015 #168

To stick it to white guys, of course. cyberswede Feb 2015 #182

Not sure. White man married to a Black woman here. stone space Feb 2015 #191

My own experience Beringia Feb 2015 #205

Good Question. NOLALady Feb 2015 #206