General Discussion

The Obergefell plaintiffs had to pay, and go through the inconvenience of having their out-of-state marriages recognized by the states in which they were living, as did Edie Windsor before them, as did Loving while recognition was automatic for all of the same gender couples (and, as to the Lovings, all of the intra-racial couples).

And, even after Obergefell, same gender couples in Kentucky had to go through the inconvenience and sue to establish that the ruling really did apply in a different state.

That's why there are organizations that fight to enforce civil rights laws (e.g. Lambda Legal - which funded our appeal in in re the Adoption of Jane Doe, but not the $10,000 or so we paid out of pocket for trial level case. Yes - it stinks that it takes someone with enough money, time, and knowledge of the law to enforce the laws that exist. But that's the reality.