General Discussion

Every hour... nope, sorry, I cannot spare any poor menz feels for an experience of informed consent.

Many other things harm men, from a toxic culture that keeps them out of medical and mental health care because they'd rather die than appear weak, to toxic entitlement, to socialization that handicaps (in the sports sense) their ability to form strong relationships... I have sympathy for men on a dozen fronts. Not this one.

And the pay differences in types of work? It's not that taking care of children is inherently less fatiguing or time consuming or stressful or damaging to the body than changing oil; it's just that society values it less, so daycare workers get $2 an hour less than the Jiffy-lube tech. It's not that men can't provide childcare, or women can't do oil changes. But in a daycare, nobody's going to assume she is sleeping with the boss to get the job or getting dick-pics from coworkers because way too many men find being professional is too hard. That peace of mind shouldn't have to cost $2 an hour, but it often does. Or $20K a year, because going to work to write software often depends on being willing to tolerate an environment where every coworker wants to undermine and sabotage you.

The professional choices women make are rational, but the factors that lead to those choices are 1) rarely in our control, 2) not of our own making, and 3) caused by the irrational behaviors of others.