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chowmama

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86. Mine is relatively minor and I got over it

Tue Jul 8, 2025, 11:38 PM

Jul 8

Bees and anything bee-like (hornets, wasps, etc.) I used to freeze in terror and people thought I was being really brave.

Now there's an annual bumblebee nest under our back porch. I routinely sit on the top step and watch the bumbles zoom in and out between my legs. They're really kind of cute and have never interfered with me in the slightest.

And I was at a bus stop and was investigated quite closely by, I assume, a hornet. I talked to it, told it there was nothing for it here, called it sweetie and told it 'Oh, no, not on my face, are you kidding??, gently waving it away, and other endearments. I noticed after a few minutes that I was being looked at like a complete lunatic by a fellow rider who'd moved some yards away.

Well, what are you gonna do? It didn't sting me.

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As a child or an adult what are/were you afraid of ? I am afraid of clowns. Always was. I was always afraid of the [View all] debm55 Jul 8 OP

My parents were fundies. When I was taught about The Rapture that totally terrified me. Coventina Jul 8 #1

I am so sorry, that was done to you. So glad you recovered. debm55 Jul 8 #4

Awwww, {{{TINA}}} SheltieLover Jul 8 #11

Vampires EYESORE 9001 Jul 8 #2

Thank you very much. Usually those programs are on after 11: 30 on Saturday nights. I am sorry you saw that. debm55 Jul 8 #5

Oh, they showed horror films from the 50s every day EYESORE 9001 Jul 8 #10

I am so sorry for you. We had cartoons on after school. debm55 Jul 8 #24

Well...it's not like I couldn't have watched cartoons instead EYESORE 9001 Jul 8 #25

Closet door left slightly ajar in my bedroom at night.. sop Jul 8 #3

Oh that would be very scary. debm55 Jul 8 #6

I had one of those "scary closet doors as well" SheltieLover Jul 8 #12

I am glad you had parents that were aware of your fears. SheltieLover. debm55 Jul 8 #28

I'm glad, too, Deb. SheltieLover Jul 8 #31

My father until the night he died. no_hypocrisy Jul 8 #7

You know what no_hypocrisy. I could add my parents to my list of things I was scrared of. Love -no , Fear-yes. I had my debm55 Jul 8 #27

My heartfelt condolences debm55. no_hypocrisy Jul 8 #30

The very same things you were afraid of. MuseRider Jul 8 #8

I forgot the clown stuff.....same. MuseRider Jul 8 #13

I don't know why.they would do that. Bad parenting skills. is my guess. debm55 Jul 8 #23

I feel your pain my dear MuseRider. I really do. The bed was terrifying for me. So were the clowns. But my own family debm55 Jul 8 #33

Oh I can so identify. MuseRider Jul 8 #45

I am 70, My father is dead. did I cry, no. My mother and siblings still live together. Do I visit-no, Do I call no. debm55 Jul 8 #49

Kosmemophobia underpants Jul 8 #9

Thank you very much underpants. I never heard of that. It must be very scary for people with that condition. debm55 Jul 8 #22

Spiders, centipedes, anything creepy crawly. Diamond_Dog Jul 8 #14

Thank you Diamond_Dogs. I agree. And I would also add snakes. debm55 Jul 8 #19

Oh yes, definitely snakes! TY Deb. Diamond_Dog Jul 8 #50

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When I was very young, my mother's old-fashioned wringer washer SheltieLover Jul 8 #15

Thank you very much SheltieLover. I can why you were scared.At the age of three, I did get my hand and arm up to the debm55 Jul 8 #16

OMG, Deb, that had to be terrifying! SheltieLover Jul 8 #17

Thank you SheltieLover. We had one of those furnaces too. I thought it was hell. debm55 Jul 8 #18

Yes, I suppose I thought it was a monster that would drag me to "hell." I din't realize at very young age that "hell" is SheltieLover Jul 8 #21

Thank you SheltieLover. debm55 Jul 8 #34

not me but my late mom ( name redacted ) , AllaN01Bear Jul 8 #20

I am so sorry that Scarey things happened to you and your mom. debm55 Jul 8 #35

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Snakes. Still am. OLDMDDEM Jul 8 #32

Thank you OLDMDDEM, some fears are very stuck in our minds. I am scared of snakes too. debm55 Jul 8 #38

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I am night blind so was always terrified of the dark because I can't see anything in dark conditions. lark Jul 8 #41

That would be very scary to not communicate.and having a loss of control debm55 Jul 8 #42

Why do things that make you feel bad? lark Jul 8 #43

thank you lark. Very good question. debm55 Jul 8 #44

Also those things nearest to us as a child or adult are the things that frighten us the most and be hard to change in debm55 Jul 8 #47

That thing in the basement 2MuchNoise Jul 8 #46

Oh that is scary. We lived in a duplex. Bedrooms on second floor. bathroom in the basement. No light switch. Had to go debm55 Jul 8 #48

Oompa Loompas dlilafae Jul 8 #51

Thank you dlilafae. Yes they are scary. debm55 Jul 8 #54

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So sorry sestina. They are scary. debm55 Jul 8 #57

I am afraid of my own medical destiny... Moostache Jul 8 #53

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Please go see a neurologist who specializes in dementia, if you haven't already ms liberty Jul 8 #67

Grizzly Bears PikaBlue Jul 8 #55

So sorry PikaBlue. They are scary. debm55 Jul 8 #56

There have never been any grizzly bears where I've lived. PikaBlue Jul 8 #58

Thank you PikaBlue, you don't come across as a grizzly bear but as a rabbit or otter as a spirit animal. Love you. debm55 Jul 8 #62

Today I am the Grizzly PikaBlue Jul 8 #71

You have our prayers and thoughts for your daughter and the family. Stay strong, Grizzly. debm55 Jul 8 #73

Thank you! PikaBlue Jul 8 #75

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This might sound weird, but Jilly_in_VA Jul 8 #63

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This is a weird one. greatauntoftriplets Jul 8 #76

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