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NNadir

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Tue Aug 5, 2025, 04:00 PM Aug 5

I don't know why I'm thinking of it, but in 1975, the day... [View all]

...my mother died, my uncle by marriage, pulled me aside and gave me $500 "to cover expenses."

That's like $3000 in today's money. He never asked for an accounting. He told me he didn't want to be repaid.

I wasn't working, my full time activity being taking care of my mother as she died. My father was near collapse with grief and my brother as always was worse than useless.

That was the kind of man my uncle was. He was a picture of decency and grace, quiet, unassuming, simply a beautiful human being. I never heard a cross word from him.

I just thought of him for some reason; he is long gone.

I just want to say way too late "Thank you Uncle John!" It was a very hard time for my father and I, both of near total breakdown and I am happy to have remembered my uncle just now.

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He sounds like a wonderful person AltairIV Aug 5 #1
Knowing how much homegirl Aug 5 #5
NNadir definitely is kind to others. I can personally attest to that Tanuki Aug 5 #17
Your remembrance of him is a nice thing for all of us to hear and think about. Maybe try to emulate ourselves. FadedMullet Aug 5 #2
The money was nice but the way he made you feel is too. That you can't buy. twodogsbarking Aug 5 #3
That is a beautiful memory. Thanks for sharing! Iris Aug 5 #4
Thank you for sharing that wonderfully intimate part of your life NNadir. JMCKUSICK Aug 5 #6
My uncle was just like that. Grumpy Old Guy Aug 5 #7
Good people are with us forever Grim Chieftain Aug 5 #8
I aspire to be that type of person your Uncle John was BaronChocula Aug 5 #9
It's kind of sad that that seems exceptional. It's what the support system is supposed to do. JHB Aug 5 #10
Thinking about decency when all around we are faced with vulgarity and profanity.. blessed memories question everything Aug 5 #11
Uncle John sounds like a very kind and loving man FakeNoose Aug 5 #12
You are not too late MuseRider Aug 5 #13
I think it was Maya Angelou who said, Ziggysmom Aug 5 #14
Memories are a wonder Figarosmom Aug 5 #15
Love to you. Hope22 Aug 5 #16
A nice tribute to your uncle mgardener Aug 5 #18
Sounds like he was an excellent role model. WestMichRad Aug 5 #19
Thank you for sharing this story with us. 3catwoman3 Aug 6 #20
Precious Memories... so wonderful when they float by like that! FemDemERA Aug 6 #21
I had an Uncle John kkmarie Aug 6 #22
I had an uncle Wally Jarqui Aug 6 #23
Thanks, you just made me think of my Uncle Bob. ECL213 Aug 6 #24
It took me 18 years to appreciate your uncle's wisdom. NNadir Aug 6 #25
Yeah, there is no death without regrets by the deceased or the survivors. ECL213 Aug 6 #26
My mother was one of 10 children who lived to be adults. NNadir Aug 8 #28
I, too, had a special Uncle. Everyone who has/had one is very fortunate. LoisB Aug 6 #27
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