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3Hotdogs

(14,672 posts) Sat Sep 13, 2025, 09:00 PM Sep 13

We live together. Not married but care for each other. She is 79. I am 82. [View all]

My health is better than hers. My finances are better off, also. We share housing expenses.

I worry that if I go first, she will have difficulty with meeting expenses.

If we marry and I go first, can she get SS benefits?

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We live together. Not married but care for each other. She is 79. I am 82. [View all] 3Hotdogs Sep 13 OP

If one of you owns the home you live in, better have some discussions bucolic_frolic Sep 13 #1

This is a question for an attorney who specializes markodochartaigh Sep 13 #2

THX. This seems to have the answer. 3Hotdogs Sep 13 #3

From Google MLAA Sep 13 #4

Catch is you have to be married like 10 years IbogaProject Sep 13 #8

I'm 75 and my significant other is 79. We've been together for 20 years. We met online. The only time ... marble falls Sep 13 #5

My friend and her partner have been together coming up on 25 years..they are not married Deuxcents Sep 13 #6

In the event you are a same-sex couple TommyT139 Sep 13 #7

we're not same sex. 3Hotdogs Sep 13 #9

That would have been my guess TommyT139 Sep 14 #11

One year. Or 9 months? progree Sep 14 #10

I was married for 36 years CountAllVotes Sep 18 #12

I asked my friend about the documents she and her partner have it's called Domestic Partnership Deuxcents Sep 19 #13