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redqueen

(115,183 posts)
Thu Jan 19, 2012, 03:07 PM Jan 2012

How Porn Can Ruin Your Sex Life -- And Your Marriage [View all]

http://goodmenproject.com/health/how-porn-can-ruin-your-sex-life-and-your-marriage/

Always young. Always beautiful. Always new. Porn keeps dopamine surging in the brain. But at what point does chronic stimulation become chronic dissatisfaction?

If you’re married and using Internet porn regularly, your sex life—the one with your wife—is probably a lot less satisfying than it could be.

You probably know that from an evolutionary standpoint, a man is rewarded for spreading his seed. But your wedding vows have an evolutionary purpose, too: they increase the chances that your joint offspring will have two caregivers, thus improving the odds that your genes will survive.

Internet porn, it turns out, messes with both these instincts. The endless variety and overstimulation may initially help you get more excited during sex, but over time it has the opposite effect: porn can dull your ability to please, and be pleased by, your partner.


Another good article from the Good Men Project.
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Evo-Psych! Feldspar Jan 2012 #1
ha ha.... seabeyond Jan 2012 #3
Ha! redqueen Jan 2012 #4
You know, I'd explain how that's true. Neoma Jan 2012 #2
YES! This is exactly what my guy says. However, the porn-obsessed disagree with this. Sarah Ibarruri Jan 2012 #5
As more research is done... redqueen Jan 2012 #6
Yes... it's the thing that must not be spoken. nt Sarah Ibarruri Jan 2012 #9
and who is still having and enjoying sex, and who isnt. again, seabeyond Jan 2012 #7
Yup! One day though, I posted what my guy said and 2 here came at me with spears in their hands Sarah Ibarruri Jan 2012 #8
i know. they call men who dont do porn... liars, lol. or challenge their masculinity. sad seabeyond Jan 2012 #10
Related: Why Do I Find Porn More Exciting Than A Partner? redqueen Jan 2012 #11
"Takes about 20 minutes or so to get it up. Really embarrassing." Porn user in his 20s CrispyQ Jan 2012 #17
and who is not going to defend, argue, and refuse to see at all cost. i dont know if this is cnn, seabeyond Jan 2012 #18
you know what kills me about all the porn/prostition threads.... Scout Jan 2012 #12
Yeah, redqueen Jan 2012 #13
But what about couples who watch porn together? TheCruces Jan 2012 #14
I think we all know that there are women who enjoy porn. redqueen Jan 2012 #15
i can only go off what i see personally. the people i know who say they love it seabeyond Jan 2012 #16
Very sad story, about your niece. Glad she got away. nt BlueIris Jan 2012 #19
you understand these are different instances with different couples i have seen over the years. seabeyond Jan 2012 #20
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