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Old and In the Way

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34. Kind of why I posted here, uppityperson.

Sat Feb 25, 2012, 01:18 AM

Feb 2012

No doubt I'll regret it tomorrow when I sober up, but the point is. I trust her implicitly with the family budget. Things have gotten ugly because we didn't deal with the problem 5 years ago. Now that the shit hits the fan, I'm the bad guy for putting our family in this situation...even though she's been handling the budget for 25+ years.

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Should a feminist wife be an equal contributor to the household finances? [View all] Old and In the Way Feb 2012 OP

Have you talked with her about it? DURHAM D Feb 2012 #1

Yes. ForgoTheConsequence Feb 2012 #2

Yes. elleng Feb 2012 #3

She claims to be a feminist and she's run for state -wide office. Old and In the Way Feb 2012 #10

Well. ForgoTheConsequence Feb 2012 #11

And let's not forget -- all that UNPAID work IS a financial contribution too Remember Me Feb 2012 #21

Most feminists I know want to be in the workforce. You need to sit her down and show her southernyankeebelle Feb 2012 #4

We've been married 30 years Old and In the Way Feb 2012 #9

Don't mean to be sarcastic, but sort of do: elleng Feb 2012 #17

Actually, I'm not. Old and In the Way Feb 2012 #35

YOU ARE. I am a wife. I worked for the whole time my husband was in the military and southernyankeebelle Feb 2012 #18

I'll be the contrarian here. cloudbase Feb 2012 #5

Nothing contrarian about it, cloud. elleng Feb 2012 #7

I'll be a contrarion and say, other tha giving birth, I was totally involved. Old and In the Way Feb 2012 #15

Uh, unless you didn't go out of the house to make that income Remember Me Feb 2012 #25

I've working out of the house for 15 years, Old and In the Way Feb 2012 #30

Hasn't 'worked,' or hasn't 'worked outside the home?' elleng Feb 2012 #6

As well as ways you can take some of the household responsibilities to free up her time. nt FLyellowdog Feb 2012 #12

Here's the problem in a nutshell. Old and In the Way Feb 2012 #13

Serious problems, can be worked out. elleng Feb 2012 #16

Thanks for the advice, but I doubt either of us will get counseling. Old and In the Way Feb 2012 #28

Happy to hear that you love a lot, elleng Feb 2012 #33

They do...kids are fine. Sadly, this went done on our son's 23rd birthday today. Old and In the Way Feb 2012 #36

First, here is a link that may help: REP Feb 2012 #20

And NONE of it should be brought here for discussion Remember Me Feb 2012 #27

You're probably right...you should have addressed it to me directly, though. Old and In the Way Feb 2012 #32

By the time I got to that point I thought I'd said enough, Remember Me Feb 2012 #37

What is the dynamic of those 20 years? Ruby the Liberal Feb 2012 #8

2 people can't handle finances. Old and In the Way Feb 2012 #14

Are you suggesting that keeping the household running smoothly kestrel91316 Feb 2012 #19

Not in our case. Old and In the Way Feb 2012 #24

ouch. Whisp Feb 2012 #26

I'm sorry you're fighting with your wife about money. ZombieHorde Feb 2012 #22

Just so everyone knows....I doubt our situation is differnet from millions of Americans. Old and In the Way Feb 2012 #23

A wife and husband, assuming they are equally able-bodied, should be equal contributors to the life iris27 Feb 2012 #29

Addressing only your OP, of course there will be unequal financial and other contributions. In uppityperson Feb 2012 #31

Kind of why I posted here, uppityperson. Old and In the Way Feb 2012 #34

People, please stop responding. This is NOT the proper place to play Remember Me Feb 2012 #38