Addiction & Recovery

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Currently working on it regarding my 18 year old son. I had to finally admit I was powerless over his drinking and drugging and have no control over his life.

I'm an alcoholic myself and work on maintaining my recovery on a daily basis. I know a person will not seriously commit to working on their condition or recovery until they personally decide to and want to.

Letting go of that perceived control over a child/spouse/parent/friend/etc is difficult for codependents, it may actually feel impossible but it can be a reality. Get to a meeting, Al-anon, Narc, whatever, both apply and try multiple ones until you find something that fits if the first one doesn't. I know drug addicts that prefer AA over NA, it just fits them better even though alcohol wasn't their primary addiction.

I wouldn't get hung up on worrying about it being religious because it isn't, it's supposed to be "spiritual". You can shape your personal higher power into what you want it to be, no one else has control over that.

You are only capable of taking care of and working on yourself and that should be your primary focus.