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DFW

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11. Going through chemo requires a special kind of courage
Wed May 14, 2025, 02:45 AM
May 2025

My wife had cancer twice. The first time, it was in 2001, and she had several rounds of chemo under which she suffered horribly.

The second time was in 2016, and it was a rare form of cancer known among specialists here as “the murderer,” since it is very silent, pretty much always fatal, and only makes itself known when it’s too late. Her onc said it was the earliest he had ever seen it discovered, and scheduled an immediate operation. It lasted five and a half hours, and they took 84 (!!!) biopsies. The doc was amazed when, 3 days later, they ALL came back negative. He said he had never seen that in thirty years. He said for the first time, he would give a patient the option of no chemo. We asked about the odds of survival. He said he thought 50-50 either way, but he thought chemo wouldn’t improve her situation, but it was her call. Remembering her agony from 15 years before, she decided to risk no chemo.

We have the deepest respect and wonder for anyone willing to go through it more than once.

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Chemo, a second time [View all] Sparkly May 2025 OP
Sending love and hugs to you, Sparkly. sheshe2 May 2025 #1
Thank you, sheshe2 Sparkly May 2025 #3
Very sorry. But that's a powerful/inspiring post for many. Hope you post again when you can. Silent Type May 2025 #2
Thanks for saying so, Silent Type. Sparkly May 2025 #4
And we appreciate yours. blm May 2025 #7
I get a mastectomy tomorrow. I dont know yet what chemo ill have, so i dont Karadeniz May 2025 #5
Wishing you wellness. blm May 2025 #6
Thank you ! Karadeniz May 2025 #16
Healing vibes on the way to you SheltieLover May 2025 #14
Thank you ! Karadeniz May 2025 #17
Wishing you the best! Sparkly May 2025 #28
Hang in there and fight for every minute. sinkingfeeling May 2025 #8
I will, thanks! Sparkly May 2025 #27
Ohh Sparkly💙🌈 Cha May 2025 #9
Thank you so much, Cha! Sparkly May 2025 #26
08) elleng May 2025 #10
:) Sparkly May 2025 #25
Going through chemo requires a special kind of courage DFW May 2025 #11
I had endometrial cancer in 2013. Staph May 2025 #12
Understood - I think it depends on type and microscopic analysis. Sparkly May 2025 #20
I started at stage 3B as well. Staph May 2025 #30
i'm so sorry you are going through this orleans May 2025 #13
Thanks! Sparkly May 2025 #21
i didn't even think of video. maybe some videos would be a springboard for orleans May 2025 #31
Healing vibes on the way to you SheltieLover May 2025 #15
Thank you! Sparkly May 2025 #22
Wishing you the best, Sparkly. brer cat May 2025 #18
Thanks! Sparkly May 2025 #23
I'm so sorry. Chemo is yucky. I hope you can start feeling better soon. Clouds Passing May 2025 #19
Radiation was the worst!!! Sparkly May 2025 #24
I'll have to get new heart valves asap. It's cause serious atherosclerosis and diabetes also. Clouds Passing May 2025 #29
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