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TigressDem

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11. I like that.

Sun Jul 30, 2023, 01:36 PM

Jul 2023

I've got a list and I am going to modify it 60/40. He has already agreed several times that a list is a good idea.

We went down to minimal dishes so they HAVE to be washed and I am ok managing that part of it.
BUT if he can't get his own stuff to the sink, then he doesn't get served the food I prepare.

I AM even more depressed than he is, because he has NEVER been suicidal and I've had many years of therapy and support groups, so it's mostly about finding ways to get both of us past this impasse.

The reason lists work is that they are impartial and we each have our part to play and can support each other, encourage each other.

My main goal is to get us working together instead of locking horns over details.

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Need to vent. [View all] TigressDem Jul 2023 OP

Have you given him an ultimatum? True Dough Jul 2023 #1

What I "think MIGHT work" is to tell him the toll it is taking on me. TigressDem Jul 2023 #6

Wishing you the best. multigraincracker Jul 2023 #2

Thanks. TigressDem Jul 2023 #7

Much like Mr Lake tho he does pickup and dishes. LakeArenal Jul 2023 #3

I have told him I am going to print out a list. TigressDem Jul 2023 #8

He's a tough case for sure. LakeArenal Jul 2023 #10

Sometimes. TigressDem Jul 2023 #14

I have just one idea. MLAA Jul 2023 #4

I like that. TigressDem Jul 2023 #11

He works from home.. Deuxcents Jul 2023 #5

For some reason he sees me cooking for him as "love" so I'm ok doing it most of the time. TigressDem Jul 2023 #12

He has sometimes been willing to do laundry. TigressDem Jul 2023 #15

After 62 years snowybirdie Jul 2023 #9

For most of 35 years that worked for us. TigressDem Jul 2023 #13

Our insurance covers mental health like therapy, but not couples therapy. 2naSalit Jul 2023 #16

Maybe. TigressDem Jul 2023 #17

This is very disrespectful toward you. It sounds like the thing that is bothering Scrivener7 Jul 2023 #18

Funny is he doesn't remember it the way it happens. TigressDem Jul 2023 #20

Years ago, I told husband who kept asking what I wanted for Christmas that I wanted a WIFE! Attilatheblond Jul 2023 #19

What is interesting is THIS man has been the BEST for around 35 years. TigressDem Jul 2023 #21

Time for a medical check up, maybe? Attilatheblond Jul 2023 #22

I'm honestly hoping that getting good sleep will be a start. TigressDem Jul 2023 #23

I would call a family meeting. HeartachesNhangovers Aug 2023 #24

We did make a list in June TigressDem Aug 2023 #25