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FirstLight

(15,337 posts)
Tue Aug 8, 2023, 01:59 AM Aug 2023

All my electronics are smashed... Abuse issues [View all]

I dug out my old cell from my dresser but the SIM from my other phone won't fit. Can't log into my Google account anywhere because of the 2step verification. Can't call or text my kids, can't check email, I'm totally cut off.

My dear friend and roommate has been here for about a year and a half. She's always been abrasive and I guess I let her run over me in the beginning. I always thought it was more cuz she was from a harder life, etc...
We both have health issues, but hers are somewhat worse. Having her move to California was partly so she could get better care. In the past year, I have lost both parents and had some bad depression...dad only just this May.

It's been building, I know better. I had an abusive ex husband so I know that feeling of being belittled and bullied. Then a couple weeks ago, it escalated to her punching the wall, breaking her knuckle...and instead of going to the hospital she used it to guilt trip me...

Today was one of the days I just had enough and yelled back. I also went to my room to cool off or figure out what was next... She kicked my door in and as we argued she grabbed my laptop and broke it, and somehow also got my phone too...
Cops say it's a civil eviction case, the domestic violence place says that it's not a partner so tuff luck...

Spent the afternoon at a friend's house trying to get Google to help... By the time I had to leave, still no resolution of my account so I have to try again tomorrow

What sucks is that I know she's got nothing to fall back on and I don't want to put her on the street. I'm the kind of person who would buy her a freaking van just so she has a place to go.

I don't know what is going to happen in the morning
She was asleep when I got home. It's just stupid and I just want my house back...

Not really asking advice, just needed to vent and this is apparently the only place I can login....

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So sorry you're going thru this Hugh_Lebowski Aug 2023 #1
You may want to take care of yourself and BigmanPigman Aug 2023 #2
Agreed, just difficult to hold such strong boundaries when FirstLight Aug 2023 #3
many blessings your way, among them freedom from abuse. nt AnotherDreamWeaver Aug 2023 #4
I'm so sorry you're going through this. peacefreak2.0 Aug 2023 #5
I hear you, Ampulae Aug 2023 #6
Take care of yourself first vlyons Aug 2023 #7
Send her packing cate94 Aug 2023 #8
This is serious. As you said: violence only escalates without intervention. Make your preparation .. marble falls Aug 2023 #9
yeah, not sure where u r, but once u let them in, u have to give them 30 day notice. mopinko Aug 2023 #10
This. Violent abuse typically escalates. scipan Aug 2023 #15
gotta be in writing. mopinko Aug 2023 #17
there's a certain amount of boiler plate that is probably needed but- mopinko Aug 2023 #18
youre a GOOD person..dont let her make you feel otherwise..and you need to take care.. samnsara Aug 2023 #11
Your local library can give you access to the internet so maybe that will help a bit? BlackSkimmer Aug 2023 #12
Do NOT tolerate her behavior. PoindexterOglethorpe Aug 2023 #13
Is this the same roommate you've written about in the past? BlackSkimmer Aug 2023 #14
You need to evict her. Give her 30 days. And don't fall for guilt-shaming. CousinIT Aug 2023 #16
Thanks for listening and your thoughts... Things are in the works FirstLight Aug 2023 #19
Times like this, I miss my Mom FirstLight Aug 2023 #20
And that's when you know she's still with you! BlackSkimmer Aug 2023 #21
Damn, got something in my eyes... FirstLight Aug 2023 #22
My mom would enter my life in full berserker warrior mode as a destroyer of all... hunter Aug 2023 #23
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