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Bernardo de La Paz

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4. No need to beat yourself up about it. Forgive the season
Fri Dec 1, 2023, 11:24 AM
Dec 2023

Forgive what you can't change, change what you can, and seek the wisdom to tell the two apart.

It's not the season's fault.

Would be wise to forgive yourself too. Just accept that moods and interests can change.

I have no doubt that you are generous with your time in many ways not related to the season.
Likewise, I have no doubt that you are a kind caring person (in the main) regardless of the season.


So having your feelings now is just something that is happening. Feel the feelings, figure out what you can do (up to the limit of what you want to do) and do it. Might be nothing. Doesn't make you a bad person.

You can't hurry the season. So just find a way to let go of the attachment, which engenders the unsettling feelings.

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I suffer from really harsh holiday depression. It's particularly bad this year Siwsan Dec 2023 #1
I hug you vercetti2021 Dec 2023 #8
Tis the most emotional season unweird Dec 2023 #2
It's been such a hard year Goddessartist Dec 2023 #3
No need to beat yourself up about it. Forgive the season Bernardo de La Paz Dec 2023 #4
Its never been someone I wanted to become vercetti2021 Dec 2023 #6
I feel your pain BootOutTheGoons Dec 2023 #5
I hope vercetti2021 Dec 2023 #7
I hope so too BootOutTheGoons Dec 2023 #12
It's okay, V. OldBaldy1701E Dec 2023 #9
V, embrace the change kozar Dec 2023 #10
After all, kozar Dec 2023 #11
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