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Aussie105

(7,058 posts)

3. Odd indeed.

Reply to debm55 (Original post)

Sun Dec 24, 2023, 01:54 AM

Dec 2023

Relatives contacting you just to bring up bad memories in your past.

Wife reminds me too often about the death of my son.
Yes I know, I remember, but why remind me? Coped with it long ago. I will never forget, but don't need any reminders.

Wife's mother died years ago - happened to be on my birthday.
Will I remind her on my next birthday? No. Why, what good would it do?

Debbie, your cousin needs therapy. And not bring it up for you. Does no good. Neither of you.

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I had an odd experience today. My father died the end of September. My cousin called today to see how I am feeling. I [View all] debm55 Dec 2023 OP

Oh goodness, debbie. elleng Dec 2023 #1

Was your cousin trying to come to you for her memory? To help her? Srkdqltr Dec 2023 #2

Odd indeed. Aussie105 Dec 2023 #3

I couldn't disagree with you more choie Dec 2023 #4

this cousin has probably experienced the same attitudes from her family yellowdogintexas Dec 2023 #6

It looks to me like the cousin is seeking confirmation that they suffered the same abuse yellowdogintexas Dec 2023 #7

Your cousin has given you a gift, in a sense, by affirming that you were not the only one & neither was she Hekate Dec 2023 #5

Thank you. I got another call from cousin yesterday. I sent her 100 in gift cards from the grocery store. But her story debm55 Dec 2023 #8

Hang in there, is all I can say. Write down (for yourself) a list of what you know to be true... Hekate Jan 2024 #9