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Not Heidi

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Sat May 24, 2025, 12:04 AM May 24

My wife told me that she is suicidal. [View all]

She has chronic pain 24/7. There's little more to her desire to die. She has an rx for a powerful painkiller. I don't know if that factors into her wish to die. I wonder if she has looked up how many of those pills it would take to ease that pain permanently.

It's bad. It's very bad. We've been together 25 years, married for 15 of those, and while she's talked about other suicidal times in her life, she's never talked about it in the present tense.

She sent me a text a few days ago that spelled it out. For some stupid reason, I deleted it. Does anyone know how to recover a deleted text on an Android?

She has a therapist, whom she's seen once in four years. I went with her. I thought it was useless, but then I can't judge her therapy sessions by my own.

I suggested she call the hotline. She declined. She told me something that I thought was going to kill me: she said all she needs is me. I had a sick relationship in college, and her telling me that brought it all back. I felt like my hair was on fire, and I wanted to run screaming.

Thank you for listening and, just by doing so, offering your support.

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call that hotline yourself and ask for advice Skittles May 24 #1
thank you, Skittles Not Heidi May 24 #3
mental anguish is very hard to deal with Skittles May 24 #9
Great advice Skit... hope it's taken!! InAbLuEsTaTe May 24 #17
I completely agree with what Skittles said. sheshe2 May 24 #2
thank you, sheshe2 Not Heidi May 24 #5
Take care of your wife... sheshe2 May 24 #10
I'm doing my best. Not Heidi May 26 #19
Chronic Pain physically (and mentally) is powerful and can seem hopeless Pachamama May 24 #4
Thank you, Pachamama Not Heidi May 24 #8
Sorry you're both going through this Bayard May 24 #6
Opiods Clouds Passing May 26 #22
... alwaysinasnit May 24 #7
Thank you, alwaysinasnit Not Heidi May 26 #20
Maybe the text she sent is still in her phone? 3catwoman3 May 24 #11
Hey, Not Heidi - here's a hug. A BIG one!!! calimary May 24 #12
FWIW: I've had suicidal ideations for more than 50 years. fierywoman May 24 #13
I'm sorry you're going through this JoseBalow May 24 #14
prayers & hopres for you both irisblue May 24 #15
I'm not sure the cause or nature of her physical pain but I found relief MadameButterfly May 24 #16
Can you take her to a local emergency room. Duncanpup May 24 #18
There are several possible ways to recover a deleted text Danascot May 26 #21
Healing and true comfort for you and your wife 💚💚 Clouds Passing May 26 #23
I am so so sorry. I hope so much things will be okay. I feel helpless to give any advice. I think maybe therapy LiberalLoner May 28 #24
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