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calimary

(86,512 posts)
12. Hey, Not Heidi - here's a hug. A BIG one!!!
Sat May 24, 2025, 01:01 AM
May 24

(((((((*)))))))

I’m so sorry you both are going through this.

AND, more importantly, I really feel for YOU. I’m guessing you feel a big burden of duty because you love her and care about her, and I’m certain you know she needs you.

But YOU ALSO need hugs, and people you trust and care about, who’ll be there when YOU need it.

I still remember something I read here quite awhile ago, I think from Skittles, reminding about something WE ALL need to keep in mind during difficult times: “someone’s always here.”

I think about that a lot. Just knowing it is comforting. And there’s a lot of wisdom, sympathy, empathy, and experience gained the hard way - here. Take as much advantage of all that as you can and/or want to.

There’ll always be SOMEONE here, no matter the time or time zone. I hope you can keep that, mentally, in your back pocket - for when you feel extra needy. And you can say ANYTHING. Nobody will mind, but everyone will know, understand, and care.

(((((((( * ))))))))

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call that hotline yourself and ask for advice Skittles May 24 #1
thank you, Skittles Not Heidi May 24 #3
mental anguish is very hard to deal with Skittles May 24 #9
Great advice Skit... hope it's taken!! InAbLuEsTaTe May 24 #17
I completely agree with what Skittles said. sheshe2 May 24 #2
thank you, sheshe2 Not Heidi May 24 #5
Take care of your wife... sheshe2 May 24 #10
I'm doing my best. Not Heidi May 26 #19
Chronic Pain physically (and mentally) is powerful and can seem hopeless Pachamama May 24 #4
Thank you, Pachamama Not Heidi May 24 #8
Sorry you're both going through this Bayard May 24 #6
Opiods Clouds Passing May 26 #22
... alwaysinasnit May 24 #7
Thank you, alwaysinasnit Not Heidi May 26 #20
Maybe the text she sent is still in her phone? 3catwoman3 May 24 #11
Hey, Not Heidi - here's a hug. A BIG one!!! calimary May 24 #12
FWIW: I've had suicidal ideations for more than 50 years. fierywoman May 24 #13
I'm sorry you're going through this JoseBalow May 24 #14
prayers & hopres for you both irisblue May 24 #15
I'm not sure the cause or nature of her physical pain but I found relief MadameButterfly May 24 #16
Can you take her to a local emergency room. Duncanpup May 24 #18
There are several possible ways to recover a deleted text Danascot May 26 #21
Healing and true comfort for you and your wife 💚💚 Clouds Passing May 26 #23
I am so so sorry. I hope so much things will be okay. I feel helpless to give any advice. I think maybe therapy LiberalLoner May 28 #24
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