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Mental Health Support

dixiegrrrrl

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2. I hear you.

Reply to HereSince1628 (Original post)

Wed Apr 24, 2013, 09:16 PM

Apr 2013

I have chosen to be estranged from my toxic biological family for almost 30 years.
One of the 2 brothers I barely knew way back when, now I have no sense of who he is at all,
I occasinally get rare updates froma 3rd party that the toxic behavior has not changed.

I was raised with the saying that "blood is thicker that water" and the message that "no matter what, families stick together".
but i saw no value in allowing unhealthy behaviors in my life just because there was a family tree in common.

I am very comfortable with my decision to maintain relationships with non-toxic people,
and damn grateful to have escaped a dangerous destructive family history.

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Got a call yesterday evening, that a brother had killed himself and I don't care [View all] HereSince1628 Apr 2013 OP

No one is inside your skin but you. annabanana Apr 2013 #1

Yes, I'd agree that my sense of normal is mine HereSince1628 Apr 2013 #4

I hear you. dixiegrrrrl Apr 2013 #2

I can't speak to any pathologies. I don't know you. postatomic Apr 2013 #3

You've touched on part of what is curious to me... I usually can recognize a personal tragedy HereSince1628 Apr 2013 #5

. libodem Apr 2013 #6

Personally I think the idea that you HAVE to love your relatives is just another tool people use... Locut0s Apr 2013 #7

Some of the last things that were said to me in session, I pretty strongly rejected HereSince1628 Apr 2013 #8

To whom does the therapist owe allegience ??????? olddots Apr 2013 #9

Thing of it is...I think therapy helps some people, I don't want to say it doesn't HereSince1628 Apr 2013 #10

Who knows the agenda behind their opinions ??????????? olddots Apr 2013 #11

Well, I may have problems, but it isn't JUST ME HereSince1628 Apr 2013 #12

sounds like you might have good reason to cut him out of your life. mopinko Apr 2013 #14

i don't quite know that i can completely relate fizzgig Apr 2013 #13

I have relatives that I feel and have felt that way about Tobin S. Apr 2013 #15

Thanks, I'm not sure it's a matter of lonliness but rather doubt about self-awareness HereSince1628 Apr 2013 #16