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or are you concerned simply because you are emotionally reactive?

The behavioral thing can be addressed through skills training

My BPD makes me very aware of negative communication sent my way, and it usually causes a negative emotional reaction. It's rather like having a very sensitive sensory organ just to detect threats.

Your feelings may really bother you, but honestly, the people in the world outside your skin don't much care about your feelings, they care about your behavior. Mess in that arena because you were reactive and then you can have social problems.

I'm better at regulating behavior than I once was, although when these things happen with people I try to be close to I have much more trouble with that. It's exactly the -wrong- group to engage in a strong reaction, which is, in the end, why I can count my friends on the thumb of one hand.

So, I do best being superficial in interactions while regularly reassuring myself that things like random acts of wise-ass are in fact random acts of wise-ass aimed not at me but at making the other person feel clever, and that I don't need to care about such people and their comments.

And not all bad behavior is about strong locomotor reactions. One day years ago, a neighbor made what was mostly a smart-ass but imo an insulting comment on my getting a hair cut and I put him on my cognitive "ignore" list. He stayed that way for years, and would have been there for even longer but he died.