Parenting

And appreciate your advice. Since its now more than a week later, I'm calming down and my initial anger has subsided.

Yes, I know that we were both in denial. We both swept it under th rug. When he told me, we were both working our way through college, so it was easy to block it out since we were so busy with our lives, but it was in the back of my mind for sure. All this came out now because I found, quite by accident, the last name of the mom, which I never knew. Then I did some searches and it was all on Facebook... So much info (people need to privatize their accounts).

I know the boy knows his dad adopted him (saw the declaration on the dads Facebook time line).

I wonder why the boy is double majoring in the exact same majors as my husband. Could it be genetics? Or could it be the boy is aspiring to be like this birth father ( assuming the mom told him) or to provide a link between the two?

As for telling our children; should we wait until they're older (right now they're 12 and 15)?

Thanks again