Parenting

I can't tell you when to tell your children. I just hope you tell them before that other boy (possibly) enters the picture because it is as simple as a few keystrokes to figure it out as you well know. The double major thing is interesting, genetics work in very mysterious ways!

I think you and your husband need to be on the same page going forward and this is probably work to be done with a therapist. Take time to figure out what you want to do and see if he can do the same, then the discussions can take place and the plan can be worked out. The most important consideration in all of this is the boy and how this can impact him and your children and how this can impact them. If you start there it will make it easier to agree on a plan.

Good luck to both of you, this isn't easy and there are so many unknowns. Please keep us posted.