Parenting

Well last week we spent a night in the ER because he was threatening suicide...
(he tried to start an argument and when I wouldn't engage, he went there...)

BUT we have a Dr. appt tomorrow and will be getting a referral to a psychiatrist for a full eval... I also had trouble as a teen and realized as an adult I was self-medicating for depression

so we are taking the steps for healing, and I am seeing a counselor too and will eventually bring in the kids as needed.

Also, there's something to be said for thinking about the "long-game" of it all... just because he gets suspended this week, doesn't mean he will end up being a murderer as an adult, or not getting a job or going to college. I managed to turn my life around numerous times.

So yeah, we've got some clear boundaries in place. And we're both learning to just talk about "stuff" more ...so that our interactions aren't just about discipline.