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In reply to the discussion: Having "The Chat" [View all]

BigmanPigman

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10. As a former elementary school teacher
Sun May 6, 2018, 06:51 PM
May 2018

who taught K-6th I suggest doing it now! They are already discussing it by the time they are 7 and they do not share the most accurate info. I would get the truth and facts to my kid before his peers teach him "who knows what". Teachers have to teach it in their classes to 6th graders in my CA city and when I had to do it for the first time I had the school nurse do it while I observed (it was for a whole week and they separated the boys and girls so they wouldn't feel embarrassed or afraid to ask questions). The girls already had been discussing it a lot and the stuff they learned was strange and scary. At the end of the class they were allowed to write anonymous questions on paper and I would take them home, try to find the answers and then reply the next day if appropriate. Many questions made my mouth drop open, others made me laugh. One girl asked, "If I have sex with a dog, could I get pregnant?". The school nurse told me to leave that one was left in the "inappropriate pile" and they could ask their 7th grade teacher.

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Having "The Chat" [View all] OnDoutside May 2018 OP
In my grandson's school they have the talk in 5th grade -- the kids are mostly 11 Nay May 2018 #1
Which matches us here. I think he has a point but what choice does he have ? OnDoutside May 2018 #2
Most schools allow parents to opt out of sex ed. I don't know about your nephew's Nay May 2018 #5
That's a fair point, it might be best if he calls into the school to find out OnDoutside May 2018 #6
It seems young to me.. whathehell May 2018 #3
Yes it's a bit strange...unless they are just talking about the body changes rather than OnDoutside May 2018 #7
Yeah, and unless I'm behind on things.. whathehell May 2018 #8
I'm sure there are exceptions, especially in a 300m population, but yes I would agree. OnDoutside May 2018 #9
back in the day, in sixth grade, our PE teachers gave us a chat on puberty... Thomas Hurt May 2018 #4
As a former elementary school teacher BigmanPigman May 2018 #10
Thanks, that's an interesting perspective. OnDoutside May 2018 #11
Not too young, JenniferJuniper May 2018 #12
"The chat" ideally should be an ongoing Phoenix61 May 2018 #13
It will be interesting how indepth they go with the Puberty talk. Maybe it is the first of a number OnDoutside May 2018 #14
The World's Most Interesting Man Bob Loblaw May 2018 #15
My mother waited until I was 11-1/2, the summer after fifth grade. no_hypocrisy May 2018 #16
My mom told me about periods when I was in 5th or 6th grade. bobbieinok May 2018 #17
Find out what they cover and tailor your talk accordingly. PoindexterOglethorpe May 2018 #18
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