Pets

although Ember is affectionate on her own terms and timing, she does not tolerate being held. When she was a kitten, I knew that she had been traumatized in her birth home before I got her, so I did not push the socializing and decided to let her go at her own pace.

But now I wish that, after a few weeks, I had held and cuddled her more. I think she might have learned to tolerate it better if I had.

So maybe as Carys gets more adapted to her surroundings, and as she sees the boys cuddling with you, you might be able to get her used to being held, for a few minutes at a time until she gets used to it.

Maybe not. She might be one of those cats who just won't tolerate being handled. But she's still young enough to try.