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samnsara

(18,579 posts)
28. ive gone thru this so many times.. Im so sorry :(
Sun Oct 27, 2024, 09:17 PM
Oct 2024

...I've had big dogs all my life and I've had to be the one to send them to the Bridge...hubby becomes inconsolable.

Before you do anything find the number of a vet who will do in home euthanasia Maybe call the service in advance and ask how long it would take for them to respond to your call once you make it.

With my dogs the time came when they COULD NOT get up to even pee. This is when they crash. and theres no way back from it. They are ready to give up. This is when they will usually urinate in the dog bed.

When they just needed assistance I had a Help Me Up harness that has a front and rear handle. I actually hurt my back pretty bad getting them up and down even with the harness. If your dog is going up and down the stairs he is still in fairly good shape. I slept for months on the downstairs sofa as my dog could not go up the stairs where they always slept in our bedroom.

Look for signs of obvious pain..heavy panting, eyes closed, licking at the area. Did the vet give you anything to keep him comfortable? We used Etodolac for pain control for our dogs severe arthritis. Its a human medicine with no liver complications..ask your vet about it?

Seizures could be another sign the end could be close. Both my Goldens had small seizures towards the end and that, coupled with not able to use their legs, was very stressful for them AND for us. I kept rolled up wash cloth handy.

They will refuse all food...even little hamburger balls we made for my golden, Cooper... he ate ONLY that then he quit eating.
When my other Golden, Emma quit eating.. I got a bag of ginger snaps to help with her tender tummy. Each night she and I would have two ginger snaps.

Enjoy this time with your dog..take about 1000 photos of all parts of him..his nose..feet, tail, ears. Spend hours petting him ,grooming talking, playing music. This is scary for them too and he will just want to be with you til his time comes.

I always took a photo of each of my dogs right after they passed...then we had them privately cremated and we have their ashes in urns. DH and I are going to be buried with their ashes.

Im so very sorry for your dogs illness. These things never get any easier no matter how old we are or how many times we go thru it. I am just more prepared now and have an idea what to look for The vet gave my last golden 4 months and she lasted 6. Relatively alert and enjoying some life until the day before she left for the bridge.

My grand dog is now hospice and since Ive had him for the last 6 years so I will be assisting him soon. Hes a rat terrier so he is easier for me to lift him up if needed. The vet feels there is cancer in his liver spleen and maybe lungs so we are enjoying him as much as we can and he still barks at stuff so hes not ready to go yet...but i have the number of the vet ready.

We will be here for you if you need to talk....
take care and hugs to your fur baby

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I know you want to time things when it is best for your beloved dog. So, I don't think it would help to be hlthe2b Oct 2024 #1
We have talked to her Bettie Oct 2024 #17
I wish you all the best... hlthe2b Oct 2024 #18
They will let you know lapfog_1 Oct 2024 #2
This. ms liberty Oct 2024 #5
We will all be there Bettie Oct 2024 #6
Our beloved Flat Coated Retriever let us know crimycarny Oct 2024 #27
there are vets who will do at home euthanasia.. samnsara Oct 2024 #29
I agree with this... slightlv Oct 2024 #24
I'm so sorry you and your dog are going though this. brer cat Oct 2024 #3
Very sorry to hear about this, Bettie True Dough Oct 2024 #4
I'm so sorry, Bettie. skylucy Oct 2024 #7
So sorry you are having to deal with this Farmgirl1961 Oct 2024 #8
I go with "quality of life". Is he happy? Is he showing enjoyment of life? Is he in obvious and severe pain? Midnight Writer Oct 2024 #9
If hes eating and happy to sse you, he feels good. Karadeniz Oct 2024 #10
So sorry, Bettie. piddyprints Oct 2024 #11
He does still enjoy his treats and Bettie Oct 2024 #16
I'm glad to meet a fellow Pyr lover, Bayard Oct 2024 #12
Make an appt in a week or two.....last appt of the day. alittlelark Oct 2024 #13
Every day is a blessing hot2na Oct 2024 #14
I'm so sorry you're going through this Laurelin Oct 2024 #15
Sorry to hear that, it's heartbreaking. wendyb-NC Oct 2024 #19
sorry for your loss. k55f5r Oct 2024 #20
It is hard to say goodbye to a family member LetMyPeopleVote Oct 2024 #21
This message was self-deleted by its author LetMyPeopleVote Oct 2024 #22
I'm so sorry. chowmama Oct 2024 #23
I'm sorry, but I disagree with your vet. She could amputate the leg with the cancer. sinkingfeeling Oct 2024 #25
I had a Boston Terrier named Louie and he was the best boy in the whole world. madaboutharry Oct 2024 #26
ive gone thru this so many times.. Im so sorry :( samnsara Oct 2024 #28
Holding you all in love and light in this very sad time. Please see if your vet niyad Oct 2024 #30
It's not easy, but I'm confident you will know. pat_k Oct 2024 #31
I am so sorry for all you, your family and your sweet dog are going through. You all will be in my thoughts. HeartsCanHope Nov 2024 #32
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