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MuseRider

(34,759 posts)

19. JMO

Reply to pnwmom (Original post)

Sat Jun 3, 2023, 10:46 PM

Jun 2023

You are under no obligation to never mention what was important to you about your father. She cannot hold what his truth was over your head. I suppose if it was not important to you it would be different but she is living in a closet that does not belong to her. For goodness sakes, in her opinion everyone with a gay family member is shameful?

Do what you think is right knowing she might just leave. As you obviously know there is no shame in your father or what your mother and father had as an agreement. They would not be the only people who have lived that agreement.

Again IMO your sister needs to grow up and you do not have to live under her cloud.

Good luck, I do not envy you this as you obviously care about her.

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What do you do when a sibling insists on your not ever writing about your family? [View all] pnwmom Jun 2023 OP

Ignore. elleng Jun 2023 #1

You gotta be you, she has to be her. Eko Jun 2023 #2

I have only one living relative, multigraincracker Jun 2023 #3

Just write dweller Jun 2023 #4

She's not in it. What she doesn't want is me to publicly mention that I have a gay father, pnwmom Jun 2023 #5

Consider dweller Jun 2023 #10

Allow me to start from left field for a moment Tetrachloride Jun 2023 #6

It's not a character I'm talking about. It's the fact that our father existed in real life pnwmom Jun 2023 #7

yes. my idea is your pride is what makes you bulletproof against her threats Tetrachloride Jun 2023 #8

dont mention his name. end of problem for you. sis will never have an end to it anyway nt msongs Jun 2023 #9

Publishers want authors to have a social media presence. So even though I wouldn't need pnwmom Jun 2023 #13

Do what I did: "I'm not writing history, I'm writing a story." marble falls Jun 2023 #11

That works for a story. But the fact that my real father was gay is biography. pnwmom Jun 2023 #14

She is making clear... pandr32 Jun 2023 #12

Rifts can be permanent. bucolic_frolic Jun 2023 #15

Why would she have to even know? Blue Owl Jun 2023 #16

We have some mutual friends from our hometown, and my sister is a FB friend of mine.nt pnwmom Jun 2023 #17

There are worse things in life than divorcing yourself from a sibling. Chainfire Jun 2023 #18

JMO MuseRider Jun 2023 #19

Unfortunately, my parents didn't have an agreement. pnwmom Jun 2023 #20

I understand. MuseRider Jun 2023 #24

I just remembered something she said a few years ago pnwmom Jun 2023 #29

Be true to yourself and your project. Deuxcents Jun 2023 #21

Think carefully if it's worth this. Do you have nieces and nephews you'd be barred from seeing? Liberty Belle Jun 2023 #22

It's not about what I'm writing. She wants me to never leave the closet that our parents built pnwmom Jun 2023 #23

A simple tweak qwlauren35 Jun 2023 #25

The story is NOTHING like our family -- complete fiction. The problem is that my sister pnwmom Jun 2023 #26

Oh, now I understand. qwlauren35 Jun 2023 #27

Once my mother had died and I wasn't afraid of hurting her anymore, I felt free to share pnwmom Jun 2023 #28