Astrology, Spirituality & Alternative Healing

This is a powerful thread.

Thank you both, {{{{{magical thyme}}}}} and {{{{{Blue Iris}}}}} for sharing of yourselves so openly and honestly.

I've had a few similar discussions at the old ASAH about this issue; how "new age" (for lack of a better phrase) viewpoints try so hard to "rise above" (rather than simply BE human, though embracing the better angels of our nature) and see our suffering as soul contracts, or attempt to explain the suffering from a higher perspective in an attempt to help the person feel better in some way, often by being more empowered (hence the inadvertent message of victimization and that we've somehow caused our pain).

I went through a very painful loss years ago, and still vividly remember the hurt and anger I experienced as a result of well-meaning comments, cards and even gifts.

In my case, there wasn't a damn thing anyone could say or do to help me, yet there was so much that was said and done that increased the pain.

Since then, based on that experience, I try not to share any words of wisdom when someone is in pain. Whether it's online or in the "real" world, I simply try to acknowledge their pain and, somehow, let them know if they want to share more, I'm here to listen.

I rarely have any suggestions or advice when others are going through some sort of challenge, traumatic or otherwise. Not only do I not have clear beliefs that I feel could be helpful to others, but I suppose I came away from my own experience with the very strong feeling that the less I say, the better. First, do no harm.

I will say that when I offer hugs and a shoulder/ear, or to be available if the person thinks of any way I can be of service, I mean it most sincerely.

This "being human" thing is nearly unbearable at times, and the attempts to make it bearable, ironically, can compound it.

Simply being present and acknowledging others' pain is, imho, sometimes the most compassionate thing we can do. I realize when someone is in pain and they're asking for solutions and advice they may get upset that people like me may seem to be sharing empty platitudes, but hopefully in hindsight, if not at the time, it can be received in the way it was intended.