This is just a lovely blog post that is NVC/empathy related [View all]

Like we do, I find myself racing to the next thought, the next comparison. Like all I want to do is connect the dots of what this person is saying with something similar I’ve experienced.

Friend: “So I’ve been taking this class and I’m really discovering
that I’ve really been holding myself back from letting myself perform…”

Darcy (interrupting): That’s amazing! I just had the same
experience! I took this hoop class last weekend and just
really connected, you know. Like I finally really get why
this is my thing…I’m sorry. What were you saying?
(silently beats inner self about the head and neck with a
rubber chicken for being so insensitive and self-
centered…)

My colleagues swear that this behavior doesn’t bother them, or that they don’t notice, but I just feel this slime oozing out of me and I feel like the talk-monster, come to devour all that is relationship.

So I’ve started experimenting with curiosity about what the other person is saying. Follow that curiosity and ask a question or two and suddenly this thing happens. It’s like they’ve been asked to lead a tour in a gallery of high-end art and someone asks to know more about their artwork. Beautiful.






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