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felix_numinous

(5,198 posts)
3. You need a hug
Tue May 29, 2012, 03:57 PM
May 2012


Congratulations on expressing yourself so well--that must have felt really good. I have never been good at verbal comebacks, better at writing responses--long after--people say crap to me, because I always freeze up while it's happening. I'm getting better at it

The amazing thing is, if it were a stranger saying this stuff to you, it is easier to let it go, but when it is from a relative or loved one, they know you so well and know just how to assert their barbs so it hurts more---I am so sorry you are going through this Magical Thyme.

I've had to tell people that what they were doing was verbal abuse, and if they wanted to have a relationship with me that this has to stop or they will not see or hear from me. You do not have to put up with it.

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Dear Magical, elleng May 2012 #1
Sibling jealousy-- yellerpup May 2012 #2
You need a hug felix_numinous May 2012 #3
Agree! get the red out May 2012 #10
I usually do get bottled up magical thyme May 2012 #15
You're in my thoughts and prayers. BanzaiBonnie May 2012 #4
Even though it is not your fault, murielm99 May 2012 #5
... Mnemosyne May 2012 #6
(hugs) NuttyFluffers May 2012 #7
Sounds like someone you should just stay away from. BlueIris May 2012 #8
thank you all.... magical thyme May 2012 #9
Then why fight on here about it? tired of signing up May 2012 #11
Yeah, definitely sounds like Tsiyu May 2012 #12
I hope this perspective helps and heals: DeSwiss May 2012 #13
wow...thank you for this, DeSwiss...perfect! magical thyme May 2012 #14
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