Bereavement

PinkTiger

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21. Delayed reactions

Reply to Big Blue Marble (Original post)

Thu Aug 23, 2012, 02:43 PM

Aug 2012

I've posted on this site before, after my husband of 35 years died on January 14. At the time I thought I was doing fine. However, I had a delayed reaction to grief. I'm not sure why. But I can say this to anyone who has lost someone recently - expect the unexpected. It takes a long time to come to grips with what you have lost. In my case, I made lots of mistakes, but that is OK. Be kind and forgiving to yourself and allow yourself to make mistakes. That is part of the process.
I often wonder what my husband would think if he showed up today and saw all the changes I have made. LOL. But we do the best we can.

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My husband of 23 years, died on June first. [View all] Big Blue Marble Jun 2012 OP

First, let me say how terribly sorry I am for your loss. auntAgonist Jun 2012 #1

I am very sorry for your loss Big Blue Marble. boston bean Jun 2012 #2

I'm so sorry. Vibes to you and yours. applegrove Jun 2012 #3

Sorry for your loss..... Uben Jun 2012 #4

Thank you for sharing your experience. Big Blue Marble Jun 2012 #11

Im' taking time to grieve Uben Jun 2012 #13

My sympathy to you and your family and everyone who knew and loved livetohike Jun 2012 #5

I am so very sorry for your loss! *hugs* GreenPartyVoter Jun 2012 #6

Thank you all for your kind supportive responses. Big Blue Marble Jun 2012 #7

Just one thing ceveritt Jun 2012 #8

so sorry. DesertFlower Jun 2012 #9

Dear DesertFlower Big Blue Marble Jun 2012 #10

hugs to you. DesertFlower Jul 2012 #14

I am so sorry for your loss... We are Devo Jun 2012 #12

I'm so sorry.. Ron Obvious Jul 2012 #15

I just read about people who mainstreetonce Jul 2012 #16

mainstreetonce I'm glad/sad that you found us. I'm terribly sorry for your loss. auntAgonist Jul 2012 #17

I second AA's notion. If you feel up to telling us, we will be here to listen. :^) GreenPartyVoter Jul 2012 #19

mainstreetonce...I'm not in your shoes, but I'm at the age when I've considered how it would be if whathehell Aug 2012 #20

I'm so very sorry! *hugs* GreenPartyVoter Jul 2012 #18

Delayed reactions PinkTiger Aug 2012 #21