I am still having very very strong emotional issues about my moms passing in Oct 2023 [View all]

A grief counselor suggested I write my Moms obituary for my self. The known legal dry facts then how she was a parent.

I think I need to do this. My Mom was a good parent to me until I had my first period then our relationship was awful from 13 to 33ish, when I had been going to therapy.
I was in my 50s when I could start to see her as a friend not an impediment in my life. My life choices were so very different from hers that it was hard to see her and hard for her to see me.

Sigh. This gets so complicated